Back Stabbing

Sparrowhawk · Jul 19, 2011

Because a lot of times ppl pull things out of their tush, and if they have to write it down it...and they're just making it up, then well..think about it. That way true complaints are taken care of.

Esme12, ASN, BSN, RN · Jul 19, 2011

because there is a lot of back stabing that unfortunately goes on.....

Pepper The Cat, BSN, RN · Jul 19, 2011

Because some people won't take critism or advice. There are people out there that do not think they are doing anything wrong, or won't admit to their mistakes. They get defensive - insist that they are doing it right, say you are picking on them, being mean to them, bullying them, etc. So after a while you stop telling them their mistakes and just make note of them.

Fixit · Jul 19, 2011

Personally I think it's because nurses are told that we are 'mandated to report' violations of our practice act. If you don't report something (with appropriate documentation) your license could be on the line. :twocents:

NSGstudent12 · Jul 19, 2011

Fixit: I did not know that! That makes more sence now.

leslie :-D · Jul 19, 2011

the only time that we recommend jotting down notes, is when their job is in jeopardy.

i.e., a bully who is purposely trying to sabotage another nurse.

sadly, this happens often enough in nursing.

actually there are seriously potential situations that warrant writing down events.

whenever you sense a dangerous or undesirable outcome on yourself or the pts, write it down...always.

because there's an excellent chance that sometime down the road, it'll be brought to court.

and you will need to explain detail by detail, exactly what happened...which you wouldn't be able to do, if events happened

long time ago.

notes are our friend.:)

you'll get a better perspective once you're a nurse...unfortunately.

you're best bet as a new nurse, is to keep to yourself/myob, don't offer anything personal about yourself, be team player (without being a doormat), and respect yourself enough not to let anyone bring harm to you.

don't make yourself an easy target by presenting yourself with head up and chin out.

are you writing this down?? :lol2:

leslie

caliotter3 · Jul 19, 2011

Some nurses prefer to back stab than to act like human beings and talk to their colleagues about a problem first. Sometimes the problem behavior is too serious to simply keep it between each other. A record is necessary to protect one's interests, there may be systemic problems, and the individual is easily turned into collateral damage when the mess implodes. And some people's diaries would be empty and devoid of meaning if they limited them to tales of their own deeds.

NSGstudent12 · Jul 19, 2011

I'm taking notes! hah Thanks for the great advice! :)

Whispera, MSN, RN · Jul 19, 2011

sometimes people don't have the strength to talk to the person who is doing something that shouldn't be done....it's easier to tell the boss for them.

nola1202 · Jul 19, 2011

No where I work, everyone is too busy just trying to keep their head above water. The goal is to just survive and go home and sleep! (regarding, does everyone keep a record of nop-no's and turn it in to management)

and guess what, what goes around comes around, pretty soon all you will have is a unit of people who attack eachother and word gets around no one wants to work or float to that floor.

nola1202 · Jul 19, 2011

Personally I think it's because nurses are told that we are 'mandated to report' violations of our practice act. If you don't report something (with appropriate documentation) your license could be on the line.

granted but there are people who just take it to the next level and in my mind it's bullying in a social acceptable form. Some people are intolerant of anyone but themselves and they (think!) they will never make the same mistake...

I would only document if mgmt isn't acting on something really important to pt safety. There are zero tolerance situations out there, working under the influence of drugs, misappropriation of meds, any kind of mental or physical abuse of pt's (esp at risk, LTC, altzheimer's pt's.) Before I document, I'll do my best to get through to that person and lead by example. I also ask myself why am I fixated on this person, do they remind me of someone who hurt me once. Did they hurt me, and do I just want to retaliate...etc. you get the idea. I try to use the golden rule and give the benefit of the doubt esp when I'm overtired, hungry, moody, too angry or anything else that can affect my judgement.