Ask for advice (then explain why it's wrong)

[Emergent]

I see this over and over here. Someone asks for advice, and gets almost unanimous responses to go in a certain direction. Then they come back a say why they aren't going to take the advice, and how they knew better all along.

Are they just thinking out loud?

[Angeljho, MSN, NP]

I can never decide if I love or loathe the many threads where the OP asks for "advice" and as all the respondents [myself included] merrily argue our viewpoints the OP never comes back. I've seen these threads go on for pages sometimes.

These are my favorite types of threads. There are many threads - 99% actually - where posters are unanimous, but that 1% of threads where all posters have different viewpoints are the best. I think it's because the topics are usually controversial in nature and spark debate.

[RNsRWe, ASN, RN]

i think you're all being plain old mean and rude. Who cares how I post on a social network cite?? Its not like i'm being graded! Get over yourselfs!

[FlyingScot, RN]

Most of the time, people will straight up tell you what they are seeking and what the purpose of their OP is. I see a lot of topics where the OP says something like "i made this mistake /did something wrong; now what should i do?" and then a pile-on of people berating the OP for what they already did, lecturing them on how stupid they were, etc. How is that helpful? It's not. Then when the OP says it's not helpful and not what they asked for, everyone gets all "but you asked for advice! this is the internet, i can say anything i want; don't say anything if you don't want my unhelpful word vomit in reply!".

I think the pile-ons occur most of the time when people who screwed up come here to rant and whine about how unfaaaiiiirrr it was for them to be disciplined/fired. They take no responsibility for their actions and blame everybody and everything for their misdeeds. They worry more about themselves than what happened/might happen to their patients as a result of their bad decision and consequently do not learn from it. They are very dangerous nurses.

The ones who come on here and say I screwed up and I feel really bad about what I did help me be a better nurse are generally supported without being mollycoddled.

[BuckyBadgerRN, ASN, RN]

I'm about to loose my mind!

Its only possible to loose a license!

[canigraduate]

Their, their my friend, your going to be ok.

Oh, God. I think I just had an eyeball infarct.

[Fiona59]

Now, now, they are typing on their phones and therefore are not responsible for spelling mistakes, using the wrong word, or grammar

Come into the 21st century, you COB

[Red Kryptonite]

Oh, God. I think I just had an eyeball infarct.

LOL I've had several reading this. What a perfect way to state it!