Think about how you define a successful day. My definition is when I am driving home that I can say to myself, "I did a good job today, I am a good nurse!!" And I feel good about my work, my job, and my career choice.
Now think about what it takes to make you feel that way and ask yourself what you did to help make someone else feel that way.
My favorite quote is from Zig Zigler:
" You can get everything in life that you want if you help enough other people get what they want."
Tearing other people down, criticizing others, talking negativey, having a complaining spirit, whining about administration, watching your coworkers drown and not lifting a finger to help them--why do nurses do this to each other?
A positive attitude will not let you do anything but it will help you do everything better--another Zig quote.
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pointing out things we KNOW is not helpful.
helping us get past it is....
you are a nurse and admin type...
so TELL us what it is we need to say and HOW we need to communicate it in a way that is respected and heard? i am STILL waiting to hear this from you ainz.
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Originally posted by ainz
So I take heat from nurses on this BB and at work but also take heat from my other administrative-types when I stand up for nurses and point it out when they are being manipulated.
ainz - can you expand a bit on your point about the admin-types manipulating nurses?
so TELL us what it is we need to say and HOW we need to communicate it in a way that is respected and heard? i am STILL waiting to hear this from you ainz.
Yes....I too would love to hear from you on this ainz...
What you may be reading is a frustration because we hear some pretty typical lines from our administrators...and we hear it year after year after year...and it is NOT a nurse friendly line of
communication generally.
It is frustrating because (for me and undoubtedly many of us here) it is a well worn line of rhetoric from our administration...usually boiling down to 'its the nurses' fault'.
Keep posting. There are two sides to everything, and nurses definitely need to hear from managers who are honest and can help us do better in communication with our administrators.
ainz, it is a bit easier to understand what your saying, as you see both sides of it. I can't imagine how frustrating that is.
Sometimes it's so easy to say "how dare you!" rather than take an honest look at ourselves.
Good luck.
I agree with tweety. If I am understanding what you are saying here ainz, it must be very tough dealing with nurses that have been frustrated, possibly to the point of being so very angry, that they may not hear what you are saying and /or believe that you are there to improve things. They may not have the faith or trust in you. You certainly appear to be a strong avocate for nurses.....this must be no less than painful at times. I have to respect that in you. I do not believe you would be posting so freely on these boards if you did not have a strong passion for what you are trying to accomplish........for nurses. This nursing site would be easy to avoid. Cwissy
"aintz quote"Well it is very obvious why nursing has the negative attitude but the first step is to stop it and re-focus.
One can go in to work happy, in a great mood, with a positive attitude and it can be gone in about a minute once you discover what you have to deal with.
That has happened to me (and all of us, I'm sure) so many times!
Sometimes, I drive to work singing a tune, and smiling to myself, in a great mood. Then, I walk in the door and WHAM!
"We're short two nurses! So-and-So familiy member is pissed off...." A doc yells at you first thing, etc, etc etc!
That has happened to me (and all of us, I'm sure) so many times!
Sometimes, I drive to work singing a tune, and smiling to myself, in a great mood. Then, I walk in the door and WHAM!
"We're short two nurses! So-and-So familiy member is pissed off...." A doc yells at you first thing, etc, etc etc!
I totally know what you mean. I have tried to portray a good attitude at work lately because I have felt negative so often. But soon after I get to work other nurses start in about this and that and I lose it. I hate myself for feeling so negative but it's so easy to get caught up in it. Maybe some time off will help but I know I don't like feeling this way at work. Best of luck to you.
One of the things that keeps me sane, "I don't live to work!" I work to have the simple pleasures in life. My world does not evolve around a job despite it's stresses.
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ainz, it is a bit easier to understand what your saying, as you see both sides of it. I can't imagine how frustrating that is.
Sometimes it's so easy to say "how dare you!" rather than take an honest look at ourselves.
Good luck.