Are you a sensitive person too?

Turd Ferguson · May 20, 2011

I am the opposite.

I haven't cried in over a decade. I see nothing wrong with anybody crying, it's just not my thing.

However, I'm in a great mood 95% of the time and I always see the "silver lining" in everything... it's just the way I'm programmed I guess.

jandra19 · May 20, 2011

Hi, everyone!! I am also a sensetive person I am not yet out there in the field yet, but hope in a few years I'll be out their. June 3rd is the ranking date so far I am at #62 out of 80 ppl that get accepted. Do you guys think I have a good chance of getting in the program? :crying2:

calitotx · May 20, 2011

I wouldn't say I am sensitive and I am not bubbly either but I am always respectful and nice and I have a really hard time understanding when co workers are disrespectful towards me and/or family members. People really need to learn to check their emotions at the door and not bring that into their work environment. JMO

Sonjailana · May 21, 2011

I'm sensitive in my personal life, but I try REALLY hard not to be at work. I let it roll off my back. (and cry when I get home..you know it) Being in tune with what your pt needs and being a sensitive person are two very different things, however.

DLS_PMHNP, MSN, RN, NP · May 21, 2011

Oddly smiley happy-clappy dosen't do the job for some of my dying oncology patients or their relatives."

Hospice patients either...

Katie5 · May 21, 2011

I'm sensitive in my personal life, but I try REALLY hard not to be at work. I let it roll off my back. (and cry when I get home..you know it) Being in tune with what your pt needs and being a sensitive person are two very different things, however.

You're a sensitive person:)

LTCangel, ADN, BSN, LPN · May 21, 2011

I'm not sensitive as far as letting things get to me at work and cause it to ruin my day, but I have always believed in being nice to everyone and sensitive to others' feelings. This always seems to bring about a much happier calmer day as we work together and not against each other. I have been told on evals that when I'm in Charge the unit runs smoother and calmer cuz people feel it from me. I am an optimist and a glass half full type of person. I just think if you treat everyone with kindness and respect most of the time it will be returned. It's worked for me 99.99% of the time in my almost 15 yr career.:hgu:

leslie :-D · May 21, 2011

Being in tune with what your pt needs and being a sensitive person are two very different things, however.

i have to disagree with this.

"being in tune" is analogous to be sensitive to one's needs.

and, sensitivity can be defined in more than 1 way.

being sensitive can be defined as thin-skinned/delicate/tender...

whereas another definition could be intuitive, insightful, perceptive.

so i'm wondering, what definition are we referring to?

or does it even matter?

all of us can be correct in our perceptions, and still be on different pages...

which is what my hunch is.:)

leslie

socalRN3 · May 21, 2011

Sensitive person here....

I recently read a book which was recommended to me and its called the "Four Agreements" by Miguel Ruiz.

They are:

1. Be impeccable with your word

2. Don't take anything personally

3. Don't make assumptions

4. Always do your best

This book has helped me gained a greater understanding of how to find inner happiness without seeking outside approval. The four agreements sounds so simple yet following them is difficult. I noticed that when I do follow them I am not as hurt by what others say to me.

Anna Flaxis, BSN, RN · May 21, 2011

Nope. Cold, callous, heartless, zero compassion, not a drop of empathy or sensitivity in this one.

leslie :-D · May 21, 2011

Sensitive person here....
I recently read a book which was recommended to me and its called the "Four Agreements" by Miguel Ruiz.
They are:
1. Be impeccable with your word
2. Don't take anything personally
3. Don't make assumptions
4. Always do your best
This book has helped me gained a greater understanding of how to find inner happiness without seeking outside approval. The four agreements sounds so simple yet following them is difficult. I noticed that when I do follow them I am not as hurt by what others say to me.

those are wise words.

i "always" try to be impeccable with my word.

i seldom take anything personally (even when i probably should. :lol2: )

i often make assumptions...and will work on that.

and i don't always do my best...that'd be too exhausting (for me), but understand why we should.

again, great advice.

leslie

Long Term Care Columnist / Guide · May 21, 2011

You know, I was just thinking about this the other day after a particularly negative exchange with a resident who is A & O x 4 and has never, to my knowledge, said a good word to (or about) anyone. This is a lady who my father used to say would "complain if she was hung with a new rope".

But as she proceeded to hand my butt to me verbally, I was reminded that such outbursts are almost NEVER personal. In the overwhelming majority of situations, patients and families don't really know that we too are human beings; they don't know who we are inside. So how can we take their anger personally?

Sure they're PO'd, but what they're really angry at is the lousy hand they believe Fate has dealt them, and they lash out at us as part and parcel of an institution that symbolizes what they hate about their lives. Yes, there are some truly mean and bitter individuals who enjoy making other people miserable---why else would someone have invented the quote "misery loves company"?---but again, it's much easier to let barbs and insults roll off our backs when we understand that NONE of it is personal. Someone calling us a bad nurse (or some other less polite name) doesn't make it so......to survive in this business, we simply have to learn to let those things go. :)