Anyone Else Experience Mobbing?

[WeakAnkles]

Hi~

I have been at my new job for over a year now and have become the victim of mobbing by my peers in the ICU where I work.

I have tried every approach with this but nothing has helped my situation. I am going to have to leave this job for it to end.

It has caused me to become depressed, anxious at times, and I have gained weight.

I have also seen mobbing occur at other units where I have worked. I am wondering how prevalent this is now among nurses.

[suni, BSN, RN]

I agree, find another place to work, with the nursing shortage it should not be difficult.

I would also speak with the director of nursing and HR about this on my exit interview. Everyone answers to someone and if this is happening to you it will continue to occur until someone stops it and makes their voice heard. You should definitely leave but the issue needs addressed.

[suespets]

it seems to me ,from what i've seen,it's the quiet,"loner) types that are targeted,though iVe seen the very strong , vibrantand assertive that are not mobbed maybe,but ostrasized

[Tweety, BSN, RN]

Thanks! That is a good idea.

When something like this happened to me, I really didn't understand what was going on, I was still in school and I was unsure of myself and I got to the point I was so flustered that it was hard to do what I was supposed to do. It's only with the passage of time that I realize what was happening.

I think if I had had the wherewithal to confront the person and defend myself that it might have helped me. She would tell me good things alone but in front of people she would make negative observations (about the same occurrences!) and I was completely intimidated.

Now I feel more sure of myself, and I am more apt to call the person on it.

Still, I might take a look at your book!

:)

Thanks again.

It's a lot to ask of a student and a new grad to be the kind of person that can nip potential mobbing/bullying in the bud. I was very shy and mousy when I was a student and a new grad, very much a people pleaser, so I can understand what you're saying.

I know we had assertive training in nursing school, but perhaps nursing school should/could do a better job at teaching us how to deal with bullies and how to confront situations.

The above book was required reading my ADN to BSN program, but I wish I'd had the course a long time ago. Fortunately, I've never been mobbed/bullies, but confrontation skills are important for us, even when bullying doesn't occur. How many times does something happen and we want to say something do we simply remain silent.

[Tweety, BSN, RN]

I don't think it happens to men.

I don't think it's widespread in nursing, but not necessary unheard of. I've read a few posts in this forum that indicates it does happen to guys.

[teeituptom, BSN, RN]

okay tommy do you believe in "mobbing

" now? does not matter either way it does, as a traveler i get to experience it now and then. i take advantage of them when they are not scheduled together, my advice is to take this opportunity and be relentless. nurses are always asking for help to move patients, etc. doctors do this as well. i'm not insubordinate but i do get hard of hearing, and very slow to accommodate. when i leave (which is as soon as possible) i let it be known why i won't be back and why i will warn other travelers off. what goes around- comes around.

No I dont believe in mobbing

Yes I have developed selective hearing, comes from raising 7 kids. They mention money or a car , I never hear a word. There are some nurses I never hear. They always want your help, but they never offer to help either. Thus selective hearing.

[cooblu]

it seems to me ,from what i've seen,it's the quiet,"loner) types that are targeted,though iVe seen the very strong , vibrantand assertive that are not mobbed maybe,but ostrasized

can happen to anyone i suppose. shouldn't be like this, according to the borchure, however you may have noticed it happens. is dog-eat-dog sometimes, do what you need to survive. getting out of the prof. will not really be the answer, as i'm sure mobbing/bullying happens in all realms of life. my suggestion is not to carry a chip on your shoulder, but be wary, so that your not caught off guard. remember always smile when you kick them in the ...

[Nurseynurseyme]

It's a lot to ask of a student and a new grad to be the kind of person that can nip potential mobbing/bullying in the bud. I was very shy and mousy when I was a student and a new grad, very much a people pleaser, so I can understand what you're saying.

I know we had assertive training in nursing school, but perhaps nursing school should/could do a better job at teaching us how to deal with bullies and how to confront situations.

The above book was required reading my ADN to BSN program, but I wish I'd had the course a long time ago. Fortunately, I've never been mobbed/bullies, but confrontation skills are important for us, even when bullying doesn't occur. How many times does something happen and we want to say something do we simply remain silent.

I actually bought the book online! It was pretty cheap. I thought it would come in handy...if I like it I may recommend it to my ADN program.

We were not given assertiveness training. I did not fully comprehend what the nursing world was like, that they could be mean. It came as such a shock. I don't think that way and I was blindsided.

So anyhow I'll have to let you know about the book...

Thanks.

[Nurseynurseyme]

No I dont believe in mobbing

Yes I have developed selective hearing, comes from raising 7 kids. They mention money or a car , I never hear a word. There are some nurses I never hear. They always want your help, but they never offer to help either. Thus selective hearing.

As a student I got a lot of that selective hearing from nurses who were supposed to be teaching me during my externship. It was very discouraging.

[doe9181]

I unfortunately experienced this garbage when I was student during my role transition class. It was horrible and my heart goes out to anyone that experiences it. I would be standing in the hall getting meds. ready or priming IV tubing and I would look up and most of the nurses and techs would be standing in a group laughing at me. My preceptor asked what realm I wanted to go into and every response I gave her, she told me I would never make it. She made me feel like poop and I really didn't think I would follow through with my dream. I even graduated second in my class and I still didn't want to pursue it. It was terrible. Thanks to really supportive family and friends I did follow it and It has been a year and a half and I have never been happier. I work with really great people and I do not see this crap at my hospital anywhere. My advice is to go somewhere else and know that one day the bullies will get what they deserve.

[Ms Kylee]

What goes around does come around... the one that gave me crap actually apologized... once she found out I'm not taking her bull. We worked together 2 days last week, and it was actually tolerable. She even laughed when I told her her turn to ride my butt wasn't until Easter. *Happy Dance*

[Tweety, BSN, RN]

MODERATOR NOTE: I find it rather interesting in a thread about mobbing several members are outspoken and rude to another member with a different opinion. At Allnurses we strive to be respectful of all opinions regardless of how offensive to us they personally are. I think we can discuss disagreements a little better than has been shown here.

Thanks.

[Medic04]

What goes around does come around... the one that gave me crap actually apologized... once she found out I'm not taking her bull. We worked together 2 days last week, and it was actually tolerable. She even laughed when I told her her turn to ride my butt wasn't until Easter. *Happy Dance*

You are a lucky one. I am happy to hear that worked out.

Even with ignoring one of ours, staff complaints, patients and their families after months( the RN was rude to them too), and staff quiting or threatening to quit, The RN was finally relieved of her position where I work. A few mourn for the loss of this sub par RN, but many are dancing in their

1. living room

2. The ward

3. The RN station

I have noticed that there is even a feeling of calm in the "air" since this RN left. Less stress for all;)