Anybody here ever found a GF or a future wife as a "murse" at work?

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I know this is the male "student" section, and this is not a Match.com or PlentyofFish forum.

But I would like to ask my fellow "Murses" a question.

For me, I just recently finished/graduated from my nursing program, and looking at the next step in life - getting a girlfriend and finding a future wife.

While I was studying in nursing school, I did not care much for dating. It's been almost SIX years since I was in a last relationship.

Actually, the truth is, there were some decent-looking or okay-looking female students in my nursing class cohort. It's just that I was more on the quiet/introverted side. I also had no luck, as I have found out through the 'grape vines' that either the girl already has a BF, or is already married to a guy. Shucks!

So do you guys know of any murses who found a girlfriend while working in a hospital, LT care facility, and eventually got married to that person?

I have just started my work as a nurse aid in a hospital about a month ago. So far, a lot of the younger female employees in my department are already married, or already have a BF. =(

I have already tried the bar scenes, joining a church, hanging out at other college campuses, and still have not been successful in finding a significant other.

Lol dont eat where you poop. Ok that would include the house I live in, bars, clubs, restaurants. Pretty much everywhere!!

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Specializes in Critical Care.

Found my fiancee in nursing school.

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This is a good topic that the OP posted about.

I would highly advise against dating any co-worker, whether it's a nurse aide, an LPN, RN or even a physician, at the facility you work at.

I don't know about your guys' facilities that you work at. But at my facility that I work at, many of the female employees are

1) Already married with children

2) Married with a husband,.... but no children/kids

3) Divorced, and has a child from ex-husband relationship

Let's say that you do end up dating a female co-worker at the facility you work for, but you end up breaking up your relationship with her down the road. She may get pissed off at you, and start to talk trash behind your back to other co-workers, and make your work life / environment miserable. Remember, female form of "bullying" is in the form of being "catty" and talking trash behind your back. And also remember that females outnumber males, 4 or 5:1 ratio in most of the nursing hospital/acute-care facilities in the US.

Kind of the same in SNF or long-term assisted living facilities.

Good luck with dating or finding a significant other. But like others here have stated, work place, uh uh (shakes head), not the place to begin.

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Specializes in Leadership, Psych, HomeCare, Amb. Care.
I enjoy calling myself a murse. I don't know why people have a negative connotation of it!

Male nurse= murse

male purse= murse

since, you are a CNA & a student, I can't imagine you representing yourself as a nurse... But puzzled if you are thinking of yourself as a purse. :wacky:

What would you think if you went to the doctor and heard, "hi, I'm dr jones, the lady doctor who will be examining you today."

Gender is irrelevent to just about every profession. Why attach it to your title?

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My boyfriend is a nurse and I'm a nurse and we met the first day of orientation :) it's awesome because they get how exhausting and frustrating the job is and act accordingly :) plus bonus we can ride together, wash our scrubs together, meet for lunch :) that being said we don't work on the same unit or building just the same hospital.

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Specializes in Emergency Dept, Pediatric Trauma.

not a nurse yet, but I met my wife in our emergency dept while I was a medic there, she transferred in from a different hospital w/in the same system, was actually dating someone else, didn't expect her to leave that loser for me, but it worked out, she's a new nurse at a different hospital still w/in the same system and I'm about to start nursing school

however just because my story worked out, i certainly don't recommend dating a coworker that's in your same dept. especially if you like your dept...don't defecate where you eat, best of luck

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Absolutely not!! I have dated a nurse that I work with and although everything was good for about 3 to 4 months, after that we had a break-up, long story short, I started dating her literally right after she stopped dating (and living with) a guy she had been with for the past 5 years, and thus leads me to believe that she just wasn't ready for another relationship at the time. After that, I had to see her everyday at work, and we did not even talk to each other. She sent me a message on FB saying that someone had made a profile (that had my home city on it) calling her a whore, and she thought it was me, and I had to fight to make her understand it wasn't me who had done this (was either her ex-bf, a co-worker, or her IMO). Eventually, we did get to the point where we can kind of talk to each other. Luckily, I am returning to school and will only be there on the weekends, so I don't have to feel so uncomfortable while being at work. On the flip side, there was some women who took my side, and some who didn't, and the entire office was talking about it. Overall, a very bad experience. I'm not saying it's impossible for things to work out, but make sure she doesn't work in the same building that you work in.

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I met my wife at the dialysis center where we both worked... didnt really like her at first but grew to love her lol. been together 3 years now!

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I'm also a female, but I'll throw in my two cents worth.

I heard a quote last week, that applies to any single person, really.

"It's not so much about the looking. It's more about the becoming. Focus on becoming the person you're meant to be, and when the time is right, hopefully, and God willing, He'll (God) bring you two together."

It's a lovely, hope filled quote. (:

Best of luck, my friend.

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Agreed

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Specializes in L&D, Trauma, Ortho, Med/Surg.
Male nurse= murse

male purse= murse

since, you are a CNA & a student, I can't imagine you representing yourself as a nurse... But puzzled if you are thinking of yourself as a purse. :wacky:

What would you think if you went to the doctor and heard, "hi, I'm dr jones, the lady doctor who will be examining you today."

Gender is irrelevent to just about every profession. Why attach it to your title?

Uhh where do you think the name "nurse" comes

From???? Gender is inherently attached to "nurse" so nurse/murse, whatev!

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Specializes in Emergency, LTC.

I'm celebrating my quarter life crisis this summer and I've never had a boyfriend. It's annoying at times but like someone else said, your time will come.

I work with people well into their 40s who have boyfriends/girlfriends and haven't married. It just happens sooner for some. Patience is virtue.

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