Age when you had your first child?

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Morning everyone! I'm doing a paper for development psych (ugh) and was wondering how old most of you were when you had your first child and what you think the best age to start a family is. I appreciate your responses in advance!

Specializes in ED, Management, Diagnostics,.

Grandmother Age 17

Mother Age 18

#1 Son Age 27

#2 Daughter Age 30

I broke the mold!

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:redlight: well i get to shock and amaze everyone now. lol

#1@ 13

#2@ 17

#3@ 19

#4@ 22

i don't recommend this for anybody....but i only have the youngest two with me. my oldest i gave up for adoption, and the second oldest is a whole other story.

(just trying to clarify, because elsewhere on these boards i only mentioned two of my kids.)

as for the best age to have kids, i would have to say when you are financially, emotionally, and otherwise ready to have a child. i don't believe there is a magic number, but i do believe that having certain factors worked out will definitely make it easier.

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Specializes in Surgical wards, Elderly Care.

1-daughter at 16

2-son at 21

Not everyones best age but for me it has worked. I dont feel that I missed out on anything as a teenager and now my kids are now 18 and 15 I have the money to enjoy myself more than I would have then. Of course the best bit is I have two ready made friends to enjoy it all with lol

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i had my first and only child 4 yrs ago @ the age of 31. i got married @ 24 & spent the next six yrs enjoying being w/ my hubbie and traveling. after i turned 30 we decided we would try to get pregnant. two months later i was pregnant and soon had a beautiful baby girl. i'm glad i waited. my husband and i had a blast as a childless couple and now we are having a great time as a family as well. i know a lot of people will say have your kids young(20's) but there were a lot of jealous friends w/ kids when we were vacationing and hanging out in our 20's. if i had it to do all over again i wouldn't change a thing.

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Specializes in Cardiology, PCU, Telemetry.

#1- age 23

#2- age 25

Two years apart was very difficult for at least the first 4 months. Now my children are the best of friends. As far as a perfect age there is not one. Age is just a number and all people are different. People mature and achieve goals at all different ages. I think the prime time to have a baby is when you are in a nurturing relationship and both partners are in agreement that having a child is right. You don't have to be wealthy just secure enough to provide the things that a child will need.

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Specializes in NICU, Infection Control.

Yes, Gompers, he was one of my pts. I think I got a bit carried away w/ the "primary nursing" concept!!!:lol2: OR, primary nursing run amok!

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Specializes in LTC, Community.

I got pg with my daughter at 17 and had her at 18...

I had already graduated high school 2 yrs earlier and was in college.. I think it was the best time for me.. since at 21 i ended up losing an ovary and i have not been able to get pg since then.. diagnosed with unexplained infertility at 25... and now my daughter is turning 8 and she is my pride and joy.. i know being younger i can keep up with her special needs.. i wouldn't want to do this later on...

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Specializes in Pediatrics.

I got pg with my first when I was 24 and she was born 2 weeks after I turned 25. My second ws born 23 months later, a couple of weeks before I turned 27. My last child was born when I was 29. I wanted to be done by the time I was 30.

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Specializes in ICU, Geri, Education.

I was 26 y.o. when hubby and I had our little girl. She will be two this November, my where has the time gone!!!

Only thing about the timing is I wish I was already done with nursing school. I have nine more months left in the program and miss being with her during my class hours.... but other than that was good age for me.

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Specializes in OB, Cardiac.

So anybody out there that had their first baby @ 30-32 yo & now have them out of the house, do you still feel young in your 50s? I look @ my husband & my parents in their 40s & they aren't lively @ all. In my opinion I think them having kids so young & being super poor took a toll on their energy over the yrs. I guess it doesn't help that they don't eat right or exercise!

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#1 I was 21.

#2 I am 23 almost 24 (just had her 2 weeks ago).

Fortunately I finished my 2 year nursing program right as I found out I was pg with #1. I am happy to have my kids this young and have no regrets.

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Specializes in Corrections, neurology, dialysis.

I had my first child at 22. I was a horrible mother. I wanted to anything but be at home with her. I wanted to run around and party and left her with some very irresponsible people. I was very irresponsible myself. I also was not financially prepared to have a child and it has taken me most of my adult life to recover from that. I wish I had been more financially stable (and yes there is such a thing as being ready financially). I have been through complete hell because of not having an education and living on poverty wages.

I remember getting the baby urge again at around age 35. For me that would have been the perfect age to start a family. I was more settled and would have gladly sat around and just watched her hair grow. By then I would have probably had an education and many years of career growth behind me. I might have traveled quite a bit and done just about everything I wanted to do and would have felt much more content to stay at home and be a Mom.

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