Age when you had your first child?

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Morning everyone! I'm doing a paper for development psych (ugh) and was wondering how old most of you were when you had your first child and what you think the best age to start a family is. I appreciate your responses in advance!

Specializes in ED, Management, Diagnostics,.

Grandmother Age 17

Mother Age 18

#1 Son Age 27

#2 Daughter Age 30

I broke the mold!

:redlight: well i get to shock and amaze everyone now. lol

#1@ 13

#2@ 17

#3@ 19

#4@ 22

i don't recommend this for anybody....but i only have the youngest two with me. my oldest i gave up for adoption, and the second oldest is a whole other story.

(just trying to clarify, because elsewhere on these boards i only mentioned two of my kids.)

as for the best age to have kids, i would have to say when you are financially, emotionally, and otherwise ready to have a child. i don't believe there is a magic number, but i do believe that having certain factors worked out will definitely make it easier.

Specializes in Surgical wards, Elderly Care.

1-daughter at 16

2-son at 21

Not everyones best age but for me it has worked. I dont feel that I missed out on anything as a teenager and now my kids are now 18 and 15 I have the money to enjoy myself more than I would have then. Of course the best bit is I have two ready made friends to enjoy it all with lol

i had my first and only child 4 yrs ago @ the age of 31. i got married @ 24 & spent the next six yrs enjoying being w/ my hubbie and traveling. after i turned 30 we decided we would try to get pregnant. two months later i was pregnant and soon had a beautiful baby girl. i'm glad i waited. my husband and i had a blast as a childless couple and now we are having a great time as a family as well. i know a lot of people will say have your kids young(20's) but there were a lot of jealous friends w/ kids when we were vacationing and hanging out in our 20's. if i had it to do all over again i wouldn't change a thing.

Specializes in Cardiology, PCU, Telemetry.

#1- age 23

#2- age 25

Two years apart was very difficult for at least the first 4 months. Now my children are the best of friends. As far as a perfect age there is not one. Age is just a number and all people are different. People mature and achieve goals at all different ages. I think the prime time to have a baby is when you are in a nurturing relationship and both partners are in agreement that having a child is right. You don't have to be wealthy just secure enough to provide the things that a child will need.

Specializes in NICU, Infection Control.

Yes, Gompers, he was one of my pts. I think I got a bit carried away w/ the "primary nursing" concept!!!:lol2: OR, primary nursing run amok!

Specializes in LTC, Community.

I got pg with my daughter at 17 and had her at 18...

I had already graduated high school 2 yrs earlier and was in college.. I think it was the best time for me.. since at 21 i ended up losing an ovary and i have not been able to get pg since then.. diagnosed with unexplained infertility at 25... and now my daughter is turning 8 and she is my pride and joy.. i know being younger i can keep up with her special needs.. i wouldn't want to do this later on...

Specializes in Pediatrics.

I got pg with my first when I was 24 and she was born 2 weeks after I turned 25. My second ws born 23 months later, a couple of weeks before I turned 27. My last child was born when I was 29. I wanted to be done by the time I was 30.

Specializes in ICU, Geri, Education.

I was 26 y.o. when hubby and I had our little girl. She will be two this November, my where has the time gone!!!

Only thing about the timing is I wish I was already done with nursing school. I have nine more months left in the program and miss being with her during my class hours.... but other than that was good age for me.

Specializes in OB, Cardiac.

So anybody out there that had their first baby @ 30-32 yo & now have them out of the house, do you still feel young in your 50s? I look @ my husband & my parents in their 40s & they aren't lively @ all. In my opinion I think them having kids so young & being super poor took a toll on their energy over the yrs. I guess it doesn't help that they don't eat right or exercise!

#1 I was 21.

#2 I am 23 almost 24 (just had her 2 weeks ago).

Fortunately I finished my 2 year nursing program right as I found out I was pg with #1. I am happy to have my kids this young and have no regrets.

Specializes in Corrections, neurology, dialysis.

I had my first child at 22. I was a horrible mother. I wanted to anything but be at home with her. I wanted to run around and party and left her with some very irresponsible people. I was very irresponsible myself. I also was not financially prepared to have a child and it has taken me most of my adult life to recover from that. I wish I had been more financially stable (and yes there is such a thing as being ready financially). I have been through complete hell because of not having an education and living on poverty wages.

I remember getting the baby urge again at around age 35. For me that would have been the perfect age to start a family. I was more settled and would have gladly sat around and just watched her hair grow. By then I would have probably had an education and many years of career growth behind me. I might have traveled quite a bit and done just about everything I wanted to do and would have felt much more content to stay at home and be a Mom.

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