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Hello Everyone

I have been a member for awhile now. I only posted a few times, I am more a "lurker". With that being said I just got accepted to Nursing school for Fall of 2013. I am very happy that I made it, but I feel so overwhelmed and haven't started school yet. As I sit here reading all the posts, I truly admire your determination and motivation. I don't know why I feel afraid of this journey. I am very embarrassed to say but when I was at my orientation, I felt like I did not belong there, everyone seemed so smart and in control while I'm seating there nervous as all hell. And the final straw was when they said if you have a full time job and a family you will not make it through Nursing school, I wanted to get up and run out but I didn't. However, those words have been lingering in my mind ever since. I have to work full time, and I have three children ages 2,5,& 9 and a husband, I am sorry for venting but when I try to tell my husband how I am feeling he feels I am doubting myself, and losing confidence. He is looking at the fact that I passed (with good grades) all my prereqs, but not understanding nursing school is a whole different story.

Sorry for the long story just needed to vent, I am just so consumed with these emotions it's killing me.

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Specializes in Endocrinology, hopefully.

You'll do great! I understand being nervous. I'd starting this fall as well and have a 6 year old (dx type 1 diabetic at 18 months/celiac about two months ago) and a 3 year old son (also celiac) + a husband who works his tail off! I'd been out of school for 11 years when I started my pre reqs... It's daunting! But totally something you'll excel at! Good luck!

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Specializes in Pediatrics, ICU.

Hey I just want you to know that what you're feeling is normal. Don't be afraid of what you know you can accomplish. I understand the overwhelming feeling that you're having. I just want you to know that we're all here in your corner rooting for you. You can and you will SURVIVE!!!! If this is what you want you'll find a way to make it work.

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Lucretia - Hang in there! First off, not everyone there is sure of themselves and not scared -they were probably hiding it too.

Second, if you made it through the pre-reqs, you belong there and should know that the people that selected you know better than you that you belong there, so trust their judgment.

Third, regarding working. That may be something to think about. When are classes and when do you work? Are you going to change your work hours around your classes and clinicals? Does your husband know that he and the kids will have to help you out? Your kids may not get mommy to cook all their meals, see all their sports events, but nursing school is a short period of time and they can adjust. Post your fears about this in more detail as there are lots of experienced nurses (and parents) here who can give you good tips. For example, using a crock pot to cook meals when you're not home, cooking lots of things on the weekend to have as leftovers during the week and perhaps eating more takeout or prepared food.

Others have done this with kids and a job - you can do it too!

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Specializes in Peds/outpatient FP,derm,allergy/private duty.

I'll let you in on a little secret (well not so secret) there are times when working nurses "don't feel like they belong there". It's all about normal feelings when we step out of our comfort zone and face the unfamiliar. There's a saying I heard once "don't compare your insides to other people's outsides." Several months down the road you may be surprised that you viewed those very "in control" appearing people as you did. Thanks for posting and as I lurked for 4 years before posting anything I know it is a bit scary to make the leap. The very best to you and your family!

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They say things to scare you because they are hoping people will leave so they can get others in before they wait to drop. I know many people who have kids, worked full time and passed nursing school. I will start fall 2013 with 5 kids ages 9, 8, 7, 3, and 1. I also work part time. You just have to manage your time well and have a great support person to help with the kids and household duties. Good luck, you can do it, if you are determined enough :)

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Specializes in Hospital Education Coordinator.

fear is normal. You are already ahead of the game because you are aware of the fear. Use that energy to gain confidence as you begin to accomplish your goals. We have all experienced it one time or another. We are pulling for you!

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Specializes in Neuroscience.

I highly believe in the "fake it until you make it" mentality. I am insecure, but you would never know that if you met me. Here's the thing: you made it through the "weed out" classes while working and raising a family. I have a husband and one child. You did what I did with two more children. That's amazing.

Confidence? Why in the world would you lack that. You are a mother of not one, not two, but THREE children. I am positive that nothing can shake your confidence in dealing with your children. If you can raise a tiny, fragile human being from birth to their current ages, and do that three times, I'm sure you've got this. If not, fake the confidence. Watch this video.

I already have so much respect for you.

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Hello all

First I want to say THANK YOU ALL for all your encouraging words. It really made me feel better. I guess I just needed to get it out and so glad I did. Again thank you, and I promise I won't be a lurker anymore..lol. I will keep you all posted in my progress.

Someone asked me about my work schedule, which is 3 pm to 11pm, with one day off during the week, and every other weekend. My classes are scheduled for the morning. I work at the hospital and most of the time I can get good study sessions in at work, especially when it's slow, and then I study for a few more hours when I get home.

Any tips anyone can give me, trust me I will take them and run with it... Lol. I need all the help I can get.

As for my family, my husband is my biggest fan, although he does not clean the house like I like it, I am very grateful for him. He does his best.

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Specializes in ICU.

There were lots of people in my class that worked full time and had families. Sometimes I think teachers just like to be dramatic for no reason and scare everyone half to death. I don't know why, being anxious and scared does NOT promote learning and these people know this as nurses! It's ridiculous! Ugh, so many things wrong with that picture.

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I highly believe in the "fake it until you make it" mentality. I am insecure, but you would never know that if you met me. Here's the thing: you made it through the "weed out" classes while working and raising a family. I have a husband and one child. You did what I did with two more children. That's amazing.

Confidence? Why in the world would you lack that. You are a mother of not one, not two, but THREE children. I am positive that nothing can shake your confidence in dealing with your children. If you can raise a tiny, fragile human being from birth to their current ages, and do that three times, I'm sure you've got this. If not, fake the confidence. Watch this video.

I already have so much respect for you.

Missmollie

That was a great clip. It left me feeling like I CAN DO THIS!! Thank your for sharing. I totally get it and I plan on FAKIN IT UNTIL I BECOME IT. Very inspirational, I truly needed that!

Thanks again

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