have you had an abortion?

Energizer Bunny · May 23, 2004

OP...I want you to know that I am thinking of you and I do hope that you are okay. If you need anything...someone to talk to, please PM me. I will not judge.

lady_jezebel · May 23, 2004

I had an abortion back in college, and do not regret it. I was not ready for the responsibility. Right now I'm pregnant (and am keeping this baby, and want it!), but it has not changed my mind about the previous abortion. I made the right decision at that time in my life for the potential child and myself. I believe that the adoption choice would have been much, much harder for me in the long run - it was the worst option for me. Having an abortion is not easy, but I don't feel guilt about it, nor am I emotionally scarred.

I have a friend right now who is planning an abortion. I support her completely in whatever she chooses. I believe that having a child, deciding to raise it and be completely committed to it for 20+ years of your life, is a HUGE decision -- you have to be ready for it.

CA CoCoRN, RN · May 24, 2004

...I believe that having a child, deciding to raise it and be completely committed to it for 20+ years of your life, is a HUGE decision -- you have to be ready for it.

And as such, the decision as to whether you are ready, willing, able, and set is yours to determine. Be not swayed by one "story" or the other "story".

I have two children. I've never aborted. I've contemplated the decision with both of my children...more seriously with the 17 monther I currently have. I've never been married. And, unfortunately, the father of neither of my children are involved. It's a hectic road every single day. Would I change it??...dunno..

Am I able to live with my decision....I think so:)

Will you be able to live with the decision you make?? I pray you will. Think it over fully, and do what's best for you now. That's all you can do.

Life is like a box of chocolates...to really taste them, you can only eat one at a time.

TweetiePieRN · May 24, 2004

I think you have a lot of nerve to even ask this question in this forum. What you are asking for is very personal and painful information. You should grow up and take this problem that you have to your priest (clergy), your partner, possibly your parents, your GYN and a good counselor. The information these important people have just may be able to help you sort it all out.

YOU have a lot of nerve to even berate the OP, especially since you are a newbie to THIS forum. Your post was extremely insensitive. Maybe you are the one who needs to "grow up". Nobody is being forced to post "very personal and painful information." All information put out here is voluntary.

nekhismom · May 24, 2004

nobody's being forced to say anything. as i said before, if one has a very strong opinion about a topic and can not discuss it in a rational, non-judgemental way, then one should simply avoid that topic.

not picking on anyone, here. this is just a little reminder. please remember not to attack others. especially if you disagree with them!!!!!

personal attacks are against the tos, which can be found at:

https://allnurses.com/forums/showthread.php?t=31788

SmilingBluEyes · May 24, 2004

Oh Docs, NURSES are on that list of "very important people", along with clergy and doctors you already mention, you know. Just thought you might like a reminder........

have a great day all.

Sheri257 · May 24, 2004

Well, I didn't have an abortion, but I was in the same situation. I put a baby girl up for adoption several years ago, after my boyfriend at the time lied about having a vasectomy and told me I didn't need to use birth control (obviously I was very young and believed him.) I didn't have any money, and the boyfriend skipped town as soon as he found out I was pregnant. My family was very upset and made it clear they wouldn't support me, financially or otherwise, and they refused to even speak to me, so I was pretty much on my own.

Even though it was an incredibly difficult and painful experience, I knew I would feel so much better years later if I didn't have an abortion. I don't hold it against anyone else for making that decision or judge them, and I'm not a religious person either. I just knew I personally couldn't live with it. Several years later, I'm pretty happy with my decision, although it's still emotional for me. Now that my daughter is an adult, I'm grappling with the question of whether I should attempt to get in touch with her or not.

:eek:

Marie_LPN, RN, LPN, RN · May 24, 2004

nobody's being forced to say anything. as i said before, if one has a very strong opinion about a topic and can not discuss it in a rational, non-judgemental way, then one should simply avoid that topic.
not picking on anyone, here. this is just a little reminder. please remember not to attack others. especially if you disagree with them!!!!!
personal attacks are against the tos, which can be found at:
https://allnurses.com/forums/showthread.php?t=31788

at that rate it's going anymore, the majority of categories will be set up so that your post has to be reviewed by a mod before it can be public, just like the ce forum.

TweetiePieRN · May 25, 2004

At that rate it's going anymore, the majority of categories will be set up so that your post has to be reviewed by a mod before it can be public, just like the CE forum.

If that ends up happening I will no longer visit allnurses.com and will stop recommending it to co-workers and friends.

mother/babyRN, RN · May 25, 2004

I think if the original post had been about opposing or conflicting views on abortion, it would certainly be prudent to discuss the issue. This was a personl thing and therefore really not the forum for discussing viewpoints for or against. In my opinion anyway....But then,It ALWAYS seems to get around to the way people feel about being for or against it.....Injecting that part into a simple query seems a little selfish and selfserving....Of all things, this poster did not need to feel attacked or ostrasized, and those of us upset ( and in some ways, appropriately so) when a discussion is moderated because it is no longer "feel good", what are ya gonna do? All "discussion" groups are jumping on that bandwagon these days.....Too bad....But that is the way it is.....

Energizer Bunny · May 25, 2004

Yep, it's too bad that we can't all remember that everyone has a viewpoint and that everyone's thoughts/feelings are valid. I try to put myself in that person's position before I respond, hoping that others would do the same when they respond to me.

Marie_LPN, RN, LPN, RN · May 25, 2004

That's why i kept my replies at "you do what's best for you". My opinion on abortion doesn't have any place on this thread. Just because i would feel a certain way does not mean that this is the best thing for the OP. Nor would i even DARE to say "oh please do_______". Their choice, no matter what the OP decides, it's really NOB (no one business).