A disgruntled ex calling the bon on me.

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I have one question. A former ex of mine got angry at me one day and said that he was calling the board of nursing on me and make up lies about me. He says he is telling them about my "hobbies"(sexual activities).

My question is can my license be suspended for that? I hope this isn't asking a stupid question but I really don't know how to handle it and it wouldn't have crossed my mind to even ask such a thing until he said that.

Specializes in Trauma Surgery, Nursing Management.

The people at the BON are not idiots. They will see it for what it is-trifling BS. I would take his threats with a grain of salt right now...these things have a way of backfiring, and HE will be the one most likely in hot water.

For what it's worth, don't let it bother you too much. His objective was to make you agonize over it-mission accomplished. Don't let this jackwagon take up rental space in your head. He will end up hanging himself on that self-righteous rope he is trying to use on you.

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Specializes in Med surg, LTC, Administration.

If you make a big deal about it, you are giving credibility to it. Forget about it. Any nut can call any of our bosses and make up things. Also, she is not to discuss you with Joe Smoe for privacy reasons.

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Specializes in Professional Development Specialist.

This happened to a coworker. But by the time he tried this latest prank there was already ample court documents regarding harrassment/stalking/threatening, etc. I agree with consulting a lawyer. Although the report was anonymous she had lots of writing samples, a recorded message saying he was reporting her, a restraining order and the detective familiar with the case's statement. Use what you know from work. Document, document, document.

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What ever you do--DO NOT under ANY circumstances take this guy back! (we know its in your heart)...

It really sounds like a scare tactic to keep you from taking up a new "hobby" with someone else.

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Specializes in School Nursing.

Unless you're a prostitute, child molester, or doing other illegal activities, I can't imagine how the BON could have any say in what you do behind closed doors. It's not illegal to have premarital sex, multiple partners, same sex partners, swinging, etc. etc. etc. Who decides "morals" anyway?

Your ex is just being a jerk. Besides, what is the BON going to do? Hold a hearing because you like kinky sex? (or whatever) They'd have to investigate a whole lot of nurses if they had an interest in that sort of thing.

Don't sweat it.

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Unless you're a prostitute, child molester, or doing other illegal activities, I can't imagine how the BON could have any say in what you do behind closed doors. It's not illegal to have premarital sex, multiple partners, same sex partners, swinging, etc. etc. etc. Who decides "morals" anyway?

Your ex is just being a jerk. Besides, what is the BON going to do? Hold a hearing because you like kinky sex? (or whatever) They'd have to investigate a whole lot of nurses if they had an interest in that sort of thing.

Don't sweat it.

That's what I thought but idk. The thing is some of what he is saying is true and he could prove it throught the texts I have been sending him. None of it is illegal though.

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The thing is some of what he is saying is true and he could prove it throught the texts I have been sending him. None of it is illegal though.

i'm sorry about your troubles.

his threats make you feel sort of vulnerable?

i seriously understand.

first, stop all contact with him.

second, NEVER again, put anything 'incriminating' in writing.

and third, you might want to consider emailing the BON yourself...

explaining the situation about your nursefriend, 'agnes' and what her ex is threatening her with.

my point being, take the power away from your ex, so YOU can take control.

you'll get your answer re poor agnes.;)

leslie

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Cut off ALL communication with this troll, and contact a lawyer. Then insist all communication go thru the lawyer.

I don't care if you liked it hanging from a chandelier, unless it was with children or patients, it shouldn't make a difference.

DO NOT LET THIS MAN DRAG YOU DOWN. If necessary, have some one else call him and tell him to cease and desist. NO COMMUNICATION FROM YOU.

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Specializes in Cath Lab/ ICU.

Two words for the future:malpractice insurance. It provides a lawyer for accusations made against your license.

It's worth it just for that alone...

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I was answering the post that stated the board doesn't care about what you do behind closed doors.

In effect,I was just saying that even though we are professionals and are held to higher standards, those higher standards don't apply to our lives outside of the workplace?(or do they?)

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Specializes in LTC, Med-Surg.

Remember the FBI fingerprinting? If the fibbies don't care...neither will the BON! Safe, sane, and consensual has nothing to do with your job as long as no patients are involved. Putting yourself through school as strictly a dancer also is not illegal. Aside from these...I can't imagine what worse dirt could be dug up.

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purchase a recorder, conjure up a conversation with him and record him stating his plans for lying. set him up good by playing victim to his actions (men that are true punks love to see a woman under their mercy in such a way). a witness is also good. allow him to lie to the law before revealing his recorded voice, this way anything else he says will be seen as unreliable once he's caught lying. you can then press charges for defamation of character.

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