A disgruntled ex calling the bon on me.

chubby40 · Mar 17, 2011

He sounds like my ex, i got rid of him thats why he is my ex lol. I find with my ex when i refused to put up with his nonsense, thats when he started making all sorts of threats. My advice to you is run as far away from this guy as possible; I mean run like hell and never never look back!!!

As for as ur license goes, as long as it doesn't includes patient's or your work environment i wouldn't worry. I would notify the police and file a formal complaint on him therefore, if the BON do call you have something to stand on, you cannot lose your license or get suspended over something that doesn't interfer with your role of a nurse.

Once again get rid of this guy!! He will only drag you down, lack off all communication with him.

Lannister · Mar 17, 2011

1.) DO NOT record him... unless you want a federal WIRETAPPING charge. :rolleyes:

Some people are just vindictive...

Don't stoop to their level... but DO protect yourself.

DOCUMENT, DOCUMENT, DOCUMENT...!!!

Lannister

azcpr · Mar 17, 2011

I did not know about this anonymous complaint thing ... I agree one should be able to face their accuser, other wise you would be at a serious disadvantage in defending yourself against the accusation.

If it where me, I would simply respond by saying "This my jilted ex-_______ " and I would imagine most would understand it is merely an attempt to smear your name.

However, I am not a lawyer so do not take my advice as carved in stone.

Henry

BabyLady, BSN, RN · Mar 17, 2011

I have one question. A former ex of mine got angry at me one day and said that he was calling the board of nursing on me and make up lies about me. He says he is telling them about my "hobbies"(sexual activities).
My question is can my license be suspended for that? I hope this isn't asking a stupid question but I really don't know how to handle it and it wouldn't have crossed my mind to even ask such a thing until he said that.

Let him call.

The BON is not going to suspend you without proof, which he will not have.

However, as soon as you can get proof from the BON that he called and tried to interfere with your license YOU will have proof for slander so you can turn around and haul his butt into court.

Trust me, I am sure the BON is used to getting their fair share of the nutty phone calls.

BabyLady, BSN, RN · Mar 17, 2011

1.) DO NOT record him... unless you want a federal WIRETAPPING charge.

Not automatically true, this depends on what state you live in..a summary of state by state laws are here:

http://www.rcfp.org/taping/states.html

For example, in MY state, I do not have to tell someone I am recording the conversation as long as I AM one of the persons on the phone.

I cannot record my neighbors conversation, if I can pick it up on their cordless phone with a scanner, but I can record my own.

The Linda Tripp/Monica Lewinsky wiretapping case that most people are familiar with...BOTH Linda Tripp and Monica Lewinsky lived in MARYLAND...in Maryland...you have to have consent of ALL parties in order to record.

Esme12, ASN, BSN, RN · Mar 17, 2011

But can the bon suspend my license or contact my job due to the morality of it?(As in us nurses are supposed to be upright citizens with superior morals and ethics and behavior,etc. I hope you guys understand what I'm saying.

As long as your exploits are not illegal and involve animals, children, prostitution, murder and or torture (against someone's will--of course) and drugs..........he's a pig and you'll be fine! :smokin:

Don't stoop to his level and retailiate. If he continues I would seek legal advice about slander and possible prosecution for harrassing, stalking, and slander.

Sparrowhawk · Mar 17, 2011

So do you feel guilty over some things you've done? Cause really no one cares about who or what you bang...if it's legal. My dirty mind is really curious as to what you're so worried about..but..that's just me and Miss Kinky Mind.

79Tango · Mar 17, 2011

not just you Sparrowhawk... INQUIRING MINDS WANNA KNOW!

smartnurse1982 · Mar 17, 2011

So do you feel guilty over some things you've done? Cause really no one cares about who or what you bang...if it's legal. My dirty mind is really curious as to what you're so worried about..but..that's just me and Miss Kinky Mind.[/quote)
I don't feel guilty at all but let's just say I was on a website looking for an intimate encounter and the writing was direct and to the point. The worst thing is that unfortunately,my face and hobbies are up there. But its nothing illegal.

lifelearningrn, BSN, RN · Mar 17, 2011

Ah- I see and this may be entering 'muddy' territory. If I were you, I'd shut the account(s) down immediately. You really don't want anything controversial like that in writing that can be easily traced back to you.

There was a recent case where a woman who made the mistake of doing a Media film when she was really young (18, 19 maybe), she got her life together and became a teacher, and lost her job because one of the boys in her class happened to SEE the Media movie (daddy's stash, maybe?) and recognized her. It didn't matter that it was years and years in her past and that she changed her life, got a degree, and was working as a teacher doing nothing inappropriate.

I know this is a little different, however, I've heard of people losing their jobs over less. Look at the girl that got kicked out of nursing school for posing with a placenta in a facebook photo. (she was reinstated, but others have lost their job due to facebook photos and posts so there is a little bit of a precedence here)..

As a representative of your place of employment, you may have trouble if your 'hobby' profile ends up on the desk of a higher up or, if, yikes, a patient recognizes you from that profile.

I'm not saying that I believe it's okay for them to dictate what you do in your own time.. and honestly, unless you're all over Ashely-Madison (or other married but cheating websites), and doing nothing illegal, I say have fun- you aren't hurting anybody. BUT- pictures and blogs that are easily traced back to you- and can lead to a whole host of problems if you're not careful. Be ANONYMOUS online. I can't stress how important that is.

Good luck- get rid of those profiles or remove any recognizable photos or personally identifying images and information.

Lannister · Mar 17, 2011

I don't feel guilty at all but let's just say I was on a website looking for an intimate encounter and the writing was direct and to the point. The worst thing is that unfortunately,my face and hobbies are up there. But its nothing illegal.

:idea:

Stay away from CraigsList and Adult Friend Finders.

Or atleast don't post a Picture of your Face on there...

:twocents:

Lannister

Sparrowhawk · Mar 17, 2011

YEah at LEAST take your pics down...close the accounts. Oh..and I wouldn't trust those silly hookup sites.

And besides the point, hookup sites aren't illegal. So I really don't see why the BON would even bother with a complaint.