Is your house a mess?

prinsessa · Dec 29, 2005

I'm not a neat freak, but I'm not a total slob either. My priorities right now are my kids (ages are 2 and 7) and school. DH doesn't understand that right before a test I don't have any time to clean. He likes a clean house but doesn't really like to clean himself. He will pick up clutter, but he has never cleaned a toilet. Laundry is one thing that I hate to do. We don't have a washer and dryer right now, so we have to go to the laundry mat. I hate doing laundry for 2 hours straight. Sometimes I just have DH drop me off (I don't drive :imbar) and then I study while the clothes are washing and drying. I told him that once I am working full time, he will have to help me out more cleaning and cooking (I do all the cooking right now and most of the cleaning...he does help out some). It isn't going to be like some marriages where the husband just sits around after work and the wife waits on him hand and foot after she just worked all day. Some of my friends do that, but I never could.

Tweety, BSN, RN · Dec 29, 2005

What do you think the odds are of having a 9 yr old change a messy diaper????? HAHAHAHAHA, I WISH!!!

I was changing my baby sister's diaper at that age. You never know. :lol2:

FNPhopeful · Dec 29, 2005

This is so funny- My hot spots are the kitchen and living room. My living has to be clean, and free of toys. I try to wash dishes every day or other day.

I know like someone else said I have a friend who is a neat freak and she NEVER relaxes. SHe is always running around picking stuff up. When we visit her (she lives far away) I expect her to sit down with us and chat and forget about the kids for a minute but she never does she just runs around like a chicken with her head cut off. And she's the extreme type- there is literally nothing on her kitchen counters, if you set a cup down and look back she's swiped it. She had her house built with all white tile counter tops and cabinets so it would also look clean.

I envy her a little, but come on relax! So you know she's judging you at your house.

-FNPHopeful

Race Mom, ASN, RN · Dec 29, 2005

I feel like my house is messy most of the time! The worst part is that I am constantly picking up and putting away. Two boys, 5 & 7, need I say more? We pay grandma $600 a month to babysit and clean our house. She used to come over every morning and sweep, clean the bird cages, do laundry and every thurs. change the sheets. Well, that dwindled down to only coming on thurs to change beds, sweep and take laundry to her house to do. She air dries most of our clothes and towels and I hate that! Nothing like a crunchy towel! Not to mention, I hate the smell. To me, air drying smells like B.O.

Our deal with her was to quit her job at the start of the new year (last year). We used to pay her $20 a day for babysitting, but she was never available, so we used our sitter the boys have always had. We were spending about $300-$400 a month on the sitter. We told her we would pay her $600 but we wanted her to clean our house. She was excited and agreed. Well, I found out that she never quit her job, just started going in at night. Well, she hasn't been over to clean since the week before Thanksgiving!!! She still asks for her paycheck though! :devil:

So, I've been doing a lot of cleaning. But it feels like nothing gets clean.

Then we go to our neighbors and realize how beautiful our home is.

Even though it is full of toys, books, etc., it's also full of love.:kiss

I installed my dishwasher last night! It was confusing, but got er done! I've never been more excited to do dishes! Our old one broke over a month ago, then we had to wait for the new one to get to the store. Washing dishes by hand gets really annoying!

Woogy

pattymac · Dec 29, 2005

The older I get, the less I can stand mess and clutter. You get that way when you have to sell your parents house when they pass away...sigh....

Anyway, some of you might like this....it 's been great for me....

http://www.flylady.net

rn in 3 years · Dec 29, 2005

My family think I go over the edge about the house being clean. Right now I work Mon-Fri 8-5 but Friday is my last day. My goal is to have the cleanest house in the neighborhood. In fact, just this morning I was walking around in my bare feet and I could feel crumbs on the floor. I absolutley HATE that and thought to myself "When I am done with my job I am going to vacuum and mop the floors EVERYDAY". I will probably shampoo the carpets every other weeks too. One time I was trying to clean my grout with a bleach and baking soda combination and failed to wear gloves so I got a NASTY case of contact dermatitis but at least I had clean grout :chuckle

Catsmeow · Dec 29, 2005

LOL!! I was gonna give the Fly Lady link but you beat me too it! I used to be subscribed to her email group... and some of the things she says I still have in my head...

"Even housework done *wrong* is a blessing"

"Let someone else be blessed with your items you no longer need." (I used to feel guilty over stuff that seemed perfectly good yet I was getting rid of it)

Then she has a rule about decluttering... run through and grab 27 items in the house and get rid of them, etc.

And lots more... was helpful... I kinda just don't stick to any plans now but she did help me with getting alot of the kids clothes packed up and sent to Goodwill.

Cats

MMARN, BSN, RN · Dec 29, 2005

Well, I'm not married, but I live with five other people in my house. I am Puerto Rican and really close to my family, so what does that mean? EVERY PERSON I KNOW COMES TO VISIT EVERYDAY!!! There's constantly people in my house going in and out. My godson is 1 and he is a walking mess. As to the actual house, well, it's clean (HAS TO BE) but my bedroom is a whole different story. I roommate with one of my younger sisters and she and I are pretty messy. As I write this, I am in the middle of "cleaning" my room. I can say, though, that it's not dirty, it's just messy. I just simply don't have time, but today I'm off from work and obviously school, so that's why today might get done. Not anal about it, though, so if it's not done OH WELL!!:chuckle

stpauligirl · Dec 29, 2005

I swear I feel like I live in utter filth, between a 4 yr old and a 1 yr old and a husband the house is worse than when Im in school! It must be the Christmas leftovers everywhere and new toys. Is anyone able to keep their house clean and orderly with kids running around? if so what is your secret?
Personally I hate laundry (I dont fold) I just dont care- if there is a pile of clean clothes thats good enough for me.
And dont get me started on dishes.....
It must be a mental thing, some people just cant stand a mess- it eats them up inside. I WISH I was like that. I'll sit there and study my but off, but laundry....dont care so much. LOL

My house is AlWAYS messy! I have 2 dogs and 3 cats and a real tree. We also have a yard to take care of. Luckily my husband helps alot. The first thing I'll do if I ever make that BIG paycheck is hire a cleaning lady:roll

mdbarker · Dec 29, 2005

This is so funny because i just got done talking to my mom about my house and chewing butts out this morning over the house, everyone thinks because i'm off work right now i should be their maid but my husband thinks this all the time. I feel like if the dishes are washed the house looks pretty decent. I HAVE to have clean bathrooms i can't stand them to be dirty and I have 3. MY son who is now 6 had a problem a couple of years ago about peeing where ever he was i'd go to the bathroom and it would litterly be running down the walling, now that drove me INSANE uhggggg...... My kitchen pantry I have to have organized as well as my cabinets because i hate to look for something and can't find it because it's not in it's place. I HATE clothes i don't mind washing them but putting them away is another thing i usually grab from the dryer. I could spend ALL day cleaning from top to bottem and have it spotless and by the time i sit down and look around it's a mess again. No-one picks up after themselves. I know as long as we have kids at home we will always have a mess, it's just not the point. I told everyone this morning either they start helping and doing their part or i would do nothing including going to the grocery store or washing clothes. I'm just waiting to see the results of that, probley a joke. Little kids can help just by picking up the clothes and toys.

Catsmeow · Dec 29, 2005

My house seems impossible. Both my husband and mother-in-law are "collectors" and I have alot of books. I think MIL is the biggest offender though, her stuff is freakin everywhere, and she doesn't pick up after herself, not only that, she tends to get upset because I am pretty vicious about throwing out all her collections. (Walmart bags, empty mason jars, newspapers, and magazines are her worst collections.) :eek:

It's very difficult because if I vent, my husband gets so mad he says it's time for her to move out. (she didn't raise him and she has always lived in a huge mess, never cleaned her house or threw out garbage... i could go on but no one would believe it.) I don't want to get my husband mad at his mother, so I try and suffer in silence and just keep on her about picking up, or I pick it all up myself.... sigh.

Add 4 kids, and 4 cats. hahahaaaaa:lol_hitti

Cats

VeryPlainJane · Dec 30, 2005

I have a 4 year old, one dog and two cats. I am pretty anal about my house work, but after going to school for a few weeks I got over that real fast. So, I pay for a cleaning lady to come once a week to do the floors (hardwoods and tile), dust, and clean the bathrooms, it's around $150 a month. It's a God send, keeps me from pulling my hair out. I would stay up all night doing homework and housework...it was killing me.