To those who want to leave nursing

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It seems like every time I come onto AN these days, every other post is "I'm sick of nursing/I want out". I understand the nature of this site and forum and all are welcome to come on and vent, but this post type really irks me. Instead of responding to every post, I wanted to make a blanket reply to all posts.

Ok, you are sick of nursing. For reason A, B, or C , you had a revelation that this is not the profession for you. Lets start with that revelation.

First of all, give it more than a few days before posting about how its time to throw in the towel. Everyone has bad shifts/days/weeks, that is life. After giving yourself some time to cool down, you may realize you are overreacting. Also, can you think of a job prior to nursing that you weren't eventually sick of? Isn't that a part of the reason why you went back to school to become a Nurse? Any job you have had/have/will have will always have negative aspects along with positive aspects. Every job I have ever had its share of poor management, gossip, redundant/ludicrous policies, ungrateful/manipulative customers, and a poor ratio of work put in to compensation. You can try to improve your work environment best you can, you can cope with it, or you can just flat out leave and find work elsewhere. I really can't help you there, that is a decision for you to make.

Doctors are disrespectful and talk down to you? Welcome to nursing. For every difficult doctor (in my opinion, seems to be a 4:1 ratio) you will find one that is respectful and understanding. Some people are easier to work with than others, same goes with co-workers that are RN/LPN/CNA. Again, if you don't like it than fix it - have you tried telling them flat out when they are being disrespectful? You would be surprised how well this works.

Difficult patients? Welcome to nursing. Believe it or not, but people do not like to go to the hospital. They may be difficult for you, but you are as equally difficult for them. When it is medically necessary to be in a hospital, it is not a good experience. When people are in pain it affects their mood. When people are sick, they will get cranky and may say or do things that they wouldn't otherwise. Try to keep that in mind.

Unsafe work environment? I have been on both sides, and I can say now that I am in one of the safest working environments I have EVER been in. If the patient:nurse ratio is too high, look at the patient acuity before crying unsafe. If I am on the floor and taking care of a high ratio (7-8:1), the person that created the assignment probably factored in that these patients are stable and/or easy to care for. If I have a 3:1 ratio, it is probably because these patients are much higher acuity. Take a look at what you perceive as unsafe and what unsafe truly means. When I worked agency, I would be put into low-staffed nursing homes where I was responsible for 45-60 people on a shift - sometimes it was manageable, other times it was VERY unsafe. When I truly feel that patient care is compromised, I speak up. I have refused assignments before, which is a good way to get management to take your concerns seriously. I didn't last there very long due to the frequency of unsafe assignments. When I realized it was unsafe, I found a different job. If you feel safety is compromised, don't keep returning to the same work environment. I don't remember where I heard this, but there is a saying: Insanity is performing the same action(s) and expecting different results.

Ok, whatever has lead you to the decision, you are tired of nursing.

Find a different job. Maybe its not nursing that bugs you, but rather the circumstances of where you work. Nursing as a whole is an increasingly dynamic career path. Not feeling challenged in the nursing home? Work your way up to ICU. Want more autonomy and less care plans? Try Air Care. Too stressed? Take up office nursing or teaching. Don't want to touch people anymore? Go back to school and get into nursing research. It is going to take some time to find what fits you best, and its going to take longer to achieve that position. That's life, you work hard for the job you want.

Take a hiatus. Just because you have the licence doesn't mean you have to use it! I knew a guy that got fed up with nursing and moved on to bartending. He was a bartender for six months and came back to nursing refreshed. Nursing is a very difficult profession, and its okay if you need a break from time to time.

Go back to school. If money is not enough or work is leaving you in a rut, advance yourself. Can't afford to? Baloney! If you sit down I am sure you can figure it out. I am up to my neck in debt, but I still feel that going to school for nursing was the best decision I have made in my life.

For every post that reads "Sick of Nursing" there are at least 10 posts that are "Would do anything - Can't find a job in nursing!" . **** or get off the pot! People would die for your job right now, especially in this economy. You are not doing anybody any good when you hate nursing, yet you sit on your job. It reflects on your patient care, it is taken out on your co-workers, and it keeps good, hard-working, passionate people out of the profession. If you are miserable then leave! If you feel you can fix your attitude, than at least try to fix it. Don't sit around and mope; you are a professional, start acting like one.

If this post comes across as insensitive, than grow up. You are an adult. You made the decision to go to school, you made the choice to work at your job. You have the power to change your job. You have the power to leave at any time.

Thanks for listening to my rant.

Specializes in Peds Medical Floor.

I agree that the OP is correct, I just think the ideas could have been delivered in a more positive supportive way.

Specializes in LTC, Medical, Telemetry.

Ok, people vent. That's exactly what this post was, a vent. It was directed at posts on AN, but I hear it all the time from former classmates and co-workers. It is constructive to get your feelings out. It is not constructive to complain incessantly without trying to change the circumstances. Venting is not my problem - my problem is when put down my profession, when people try to dissuade others from getting into the profession.

Yeah, I am only 25. Before you start making ageist assumptions on my path to today, let me clear something up. Since 15 years old, I have been working full time (32-40 hours). I have been paying my own rent, food, and transportation since 16. I have been in retail, roofing/construction, food service, traffic control, factory work, farm work, sales, and I did work at a humane society for three years prior to nursing. For what student loans I could qualify for I am indebted. Everything else was out of pocket, and required 40-50 hour work weeks while going through school full time. At the busiest point in my life, I was working three jobs and 75-80 hours a week. I do agree that my youth leaves room for naivety, but I worked HARD to be where I am today. I love what I do, and I would do it all over again.

As far as not reading the posts, I tried. I generally pass right over them - the reason why I posted is the flood of topics related to this subject. I didn't want to troll or single anybody out, so I felt it would be more rude to reply to those posts. My problem is not related to nurses that are frustrated, burnt out, had negative experiences.... I like those posts and offer my support as I can. To those who come on here to bash nursing as a whole without allowing the option of reprisal or change, I have no tolerance.

I tried to make a rational argument. Go ahead and :down: all you want, I knew this post would generate some heat. But do you not agree that these posts are getting out of hand?

Specializes in LTC, Medical, Telemetry.
I agree that the OP is correct, I just think the ideas could have been delivered in a more positive supportive way.

I know I was a bit surly today, I was trying to be direct after working a 14 hour night. :yawn:

Specializes in LTC, Medical, Telemetry.

And thank you Good Morning, Gil - you took my point and summed it up more eloquently and in fewer words. Exactly the point I was trying to get across, and much less aggressive than my post.

Specializes in Trauma Surgery, Nursing Management.

If a nurse was TRULY wanting to leave the profession and was TRULY sick of everything related to nursing, I highly doubt they would still come to AllNurses.

Nurses vent. We have to! We have so many peers on this forum, and many of them give great advice when we post that we are MISERABLE and FED UP. Sometimes our e-colleagues just need some validation. Some are looking for advice on how to change their career path, while others are seeking pointers on how to deal with specific situations but are so frustrated that they tend to throw out the baby with the bathwater in their rant...the snowball effect, if you will.

I encourage others to speak out in this forum. It is a healthy outlet.

Understanding is key. Compassion is welcome. Nurses who post threads stating that they are sick of nursing don't need MORE judgment heaped onto their plates; they are trying to gain more perspective.

Specializes in LTC, Medical, Telemetry.
If it were only that easy.

The OP is 25 yrs old. Everything was simpler when I was 25.

I guess the OP didn't pass the therapeutic communication part of the NCLEX.

haha, again, sorry for coming across cranky. I do promise you my bedside communication skills are much more gentle.

Specializes in LTC Rehab Med/Surg.
I know I was a bit surly today, I was trying to be direct after working a 14 hour night. :yawn:

Try working that 14 hour shift for 10-20-30 years. You might appreciate the "I want to leave nursing" vents more.

Specializes in Hospice, HIV/STD, Neuro ICU, ER.

"Difficult patients? Welcome to nursing."

LOL! This is officially the first time I've been welcomed to nursing by some one with 2-3 years experience! Ahhh...to be young and naive again :monkeydance:

Specializes in Rehab, critical care.

No problem! haha. But seriously, I like your point about ageism, or I guess it's reverse ageism since we're young. To dismiss someone's view purely based on their age is really not fair. I have met some people in their 40's and 50's who are less mature than I was in high school. Gossipy, irresponsible financially, lazy 50 somethings. Granted, I was a pretty mature teenager, not perfect by any means, but I always understood why my parents had a curfew (they were worried about me and date rape, etc), and never fought that. You clearly have had life experience behind you, more than many people twice your age. This is not to say that I have not been around some pretty immature people in their 20's either. I respect the wisdom any nurse gives me at work and appreciate their knowledge regardless of their age. Usually, the ones that are in their 50's have been nurses for 30 plus years and know a ton, but obviously, there are some new non-traditional 50 something nurses now. Let's all just be respectful toward each other. If we can't get along on a website, how on earth do we get along at work? Oh yeah...that's an issue in nursing. It's at the tip of my tongue...lateral....and...violence, yes. Let's be nice to each other :).

Specializes in Med/Surg, ICU, ER, Peds ER-CPEN.

So let me see if I understand this, you can rant and vent about something that bothers you, but feel others should censor themselves because it bothers you? Here's the beauty of a public forum, keep scrolling and don't read it.

Specializes in Med/Surg, DSU, Ortho, Onc, Psych.

I probably agree in the main.

I've just gone thru a period where I'm absolutely sick of nursing in very way, cos I feel I don't get treated like a professional, after all my hard work. But I've worked in hospitals for over 26 years, so I'm not a newbie. There are however reasons people can't leave nursing (at least not right away):

- Have no money for study.

- Have a mortgage, or rent. Can't find somewhere else cheaper to rent in a tight market (this happened to me not long ago as well).

- Are a single parent, have kids in school, can't move due to them or sharing parental commitments thru a court so they aren't allowed to take the kids to move for another job.

- Are getting too old for bedside nursing. Life is SO lovely when ur 25! I thought absolutely nothing of doing 3 late/early shifts, then going out to a party/nightclub staying up all night drinking whatever, going to sleep at 5am, then going to work later! I wouldn't even contemplate that now. Nursing is harder on u when u get older; you ache more, you have to deal with more cos ur seen as mature & people confide in u more; you get more tired & need more sleep.

- I would love to go back to mmixing cocktails & bartending for a while, I did hospitality work for years b4 nursing. But they won't take an old bag like me now - they want young, slim, big-boobed blondes with long legs, g-strings and short skirts, so they can perve at them and pay them less.

- You think 60+ patients is manageable? I did meds one night for nearly 65 people and it was SO was not manageable! And it is very unsafe - I do not work in those facilities now.

- You think 1:8 psych patients is easy? I regularly get this. Wait till most of them are suicidal & go psychotic on you (have seen this happen in psych & ED).

Peopel will always complain. They can't just up & leave jobs for various reasons. And they probably are looking for other jobs, but the housing & job market is so tight, there's no room for leeway. Sometimes it's best go just listen & sympathise & give them a break, as some people may feel trapped as well, ie: too scared to try anything else & have only worked as a nurse.

It's hard breaking into a new market too.

Specializes in Med Surg - Renal.

Great post.

I would add if you are leaving nursing and have one of those sweet 12 hr day shift schedules, please let me know so I can apply for your job!

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