More Confessions Of A Nurse Who Compulsively Eats - page 2
by TheCommuter 7,298 Views | 39 Comments Senior Moderator
Itís the beginning of another new year, so Iím going to discuss the topic of overeating. Since masses of people across America are making new years resolutions that revolve around weight control, I feel this is an opportune time... Read More
- 5Jan 9, '13 by VivaLasViejas GuideI could co-write a book on compulsive eating with you, Commuter. It's something I've fought since adolescence, although I was never overweight or obese until I got married and started having babies. (Can't blame it on "baby fat" anymore, since the "baby" is almost 22.) I ate because I was depressed. I ate because I was happy. I ate because I was angry and felt I had to stuff it down....literally. I ate because it tasted good, because someone had made it just for me, because it was a holiday or a birthday, because I wouldn't get any if I didn't eat it now. And I ate just because it was there.
Strange as it may seem, the inexplicable drive to eat way past the point of satisfaction has slowly ebbed in the past year. Except for a few months during which I was taking a medication that made me so ravenous that the sofa was beginning to look tasty, I've largely stopped the mindless eating.......and sometimes I even forget that I haven't eaten. I don't know if it's got anything to do with the mood stabilizers I'm on or if I'm just over it all, but I've dropped almost 30 lbs. since late September and I haven't really been working at it.
No, I don't sit around eating candy all day like I used to, and what snacks I do indulge in are usually things like apples and cheese. But I also don't think about food all the time anymore........it's the compulsive element that's missing here, and as afraid as I am to trust it, I have to be thankful for it because NOTHING I've tried in all the years of battling my weight has worked, at least not for long.
I've gained and lost the same 100 pounds several times over, and my food obsession always came raging back and spoiled my efforts. I don't know what's happened, or if it'll continue, but I remember my mother going through something like this in her mid-50s, and after a lifetime of fighting her own biology, she lost some 60 pounds and kept it off until the end of her days. I'm in my mid-50s now. Is it possible that lightning has struck twice? Only time will tell.....
- 7Jan 9, '13 by TheCommuter Senior ModeratorQuote from multi10I've had two dogs over the years, and unfortunately, did not particularly like their company or take very good care of them. I will not be getting a third dog because it would be totally unfair to obtain another pet that should go to a more suitable owner who would actually meet its needs.OP, Things that help from people I know: Get a dog. That pup will look in your eyes every morning; "Let's go for a walk!" You'll get up and take your buddy out to enjoy the morning air and the birds, trees, airplanes, flowers, whatever attracts you. You'll meet new friends. You'll definitely lose weight.
Quote from multi10I went on the Carb Addict's diet and developed horrible headaches, frequent urination, shaking, and other dreadful symptoms. I've tried a myriad of diets. The last thing I need is another fad diet. It's all about lifestyle change...A morbidly obese friend went on "The Carbohydrate Addict's Diet." It worked for him because he found it easy. He lost over 100 lbs.
- 7Jan 9, '13 by TheCommuter Senior ModeratorQuote from multi10I exercise regularly, about five days per week. I jog several miles per pay and have a stationary bike and a stairstepper machine at home. I have also had a gym membership for the past 12 years. All the exercise in the world will do no good if a person consumes more calories than his or her body needs.I learned to pay attention to my cues of hunger and respond to them. Plus, I exercise every day. It doesn't involve the gym so much. I just walk, play with my dog, nothing drastic. I have a stationary bike that I use sometimes while watching TV.
Binge eaters know how to lose weight because we've lost large amounts of weight many times during our lifetimes, only to regain it all plus more. The problem is keeping the weight off, which is difficult if you have not learned any other adaptive ways to address your emotions other than using food to comfort your emotional wounds.
- 6Jan 9, '13 by AmnestyAh, binge eating. I thought I had it bad, and then I decided to rent an apartment with my sister as my roommate. I've always liked to eat food for the sheer enjoyment of eating, but she lived to eat. Literally, she would keep a couple theatre boxes of candy in her night stand and let herself eat them each morning as incentives to wake up on time. She often got up in the middle of the night and foraged for food. I used to buy those $10 big boxes of things like Air Heads and chocolate bar variety packs from Sam's Club, and I had to stop because I'd go to grab a Snickers or something out of the box a few days after buying it and find it empty with money to replace it sitting inside it :X.
My mother is much the same way. She'd eat candy by the bags, daily, and did that for years before she finally kicked the habit and lost something like 85 lbs. just in this past year. I'm so proud of her. My sister has lost a bunch as well, as have I. Reading your story is like reading something I could've written. My family was poor, my situation was crappy, my father was alcoholic and abusive, and the highlight of my childhood was when I'd save up a dollar and could go buy a couple of candy bars at the store. As a teenager, I realized how weird I was to do that. My friends would get candy and not eat all of it maybe ever, but at least it'd take them a week or so. We went on a class day trip once, and they each brought maybe one or two things of snacks -- I brought about 10 different types of candy xP.
It's a lifelong battle for sure. I wish more people were aware that it isn't always so easy for others to do what they do. Good luck to you guys and gals also struggling with this.
- 1Jan 9, '13 by NurseKatie08Thanks OP for a very relevant post at this time of new year's resolutions. I'm one of the many who have resolved to lose weight this year. I'm at my heaviest ever, which is in part the motivating factor. Early heart disease, diabetes, etc in my family are the other motivating factors. At 27 years old, I've yo-yoed with 30 lbs or so since graduating high school (when of course at a whopping 5'6' and 135 lbs I thought I was "fat") and would love to get back down to that weight. I just feel like the older I get the harder it will get to take it off, so no time like the present! I'm 48 hours in to the Slim Fast plan, which was the only thing that ever worked for me in the past, so I'm crossing my fingers for success this time! Good luck to all of us who are resolving to lose weight this year!
- 7Jan 9, '13 by joanna73 GuideI am also a compulsive eater, presently my eating is more controlled since I have little access to the foods I love. I have what is called "exercise bulimia" for years now. Instead of vomiting, I have been known to eat huge amounts of food, then work it off for 3-4 hours. Still a disorder, and just as unhealthy. My weight tends to fluctuate between 10-15 pounds above where it should be. Not a big deal, right? Wrong. The emotional components and distorted thinking still remain. Many of us are secret eaters, who you would never guess. Commuter, I hope you find the answers you're searching for.
- 5Jan 9, '13 by TXRN2very interesting thread- i'm pleased that it remained friendly & supportive. switch the topic to drug & alcohol issues/struggles, & the atmosphere can often become hostile, belittling, derogatory...by people who have no experience with the issue. i try to always remember that we each have our own cross to bear, we each battle our own demons- & should behave accordingly & treat others as such!
- 1Jan 9, '13 by DezyI used to have a problem with good too. Whenever I was board I'd want to eat. I had problems stopping once I started and I always ate too much. I struggled to stop myself and found some helpful habits. I haven't read the rest of this thread so I apologize if someone has said something similar. I work as a fitness coach and group instructor while I'm in school and I always give people this advice: don't drink your calories! If you want a sweet drink that's fine but treat it as a snack, don't use it to quench thirst! Don't bring junk food in the house!! This sseriously saved me. If you want junk don't deprive yourself of it, just don't bring it home. You'll be too tempted. Break up half of your meals. Try goi for half of it first and if your still hungry nibble away at the rest. You can slow your eating pace down this way. Eat more protein dense foods if you always feel starving, this will take long for your body to break down. Also eat more fiber, this will expand in your stomach making you also feel fuller for longer. Another huge huge one is stay current in entertaining healh guides. Eg reading runners magazines or women or men's healh mag help a log. They keep you motivated even if you don't run: and give you lots of tidbits on food ideas, how to improve and feel better. Doing this stuff helped me greatly. Learning yummy healthy food alternatives is half the battle too. I hope this helps you.