Would u find this bullying

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Hi all

Ive been a RN 5 years.

Im curious about knowledge be it general in the last 10 years about nursing/science.

i changed post 3 years ago onto a neurosurgical ward and i love all that i can always learn more. What i love as much as my own learning is being able to teach patient and others RN or nursing students etc. I spend time to acquire this knowledge but it a pleasure mainly or a puzzle.

In 5 years ive also learned how to get things done in a hospital when this or that problems happens.

A colleague and a friend has been making comments that i know everything but this are getting more exaggerated an now mention that our medics consult me prior to cases etc

sounds fanciful and made me uncomfortable Ive challenged her to be more real in a friendly way. but this is brushed off my comments like you know im only joking etc

I aware this lady has being having a hard time recently in work due to a few changes and was taking about feeling stiffed by other members of staff.

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I don't think that is bullying. That sounds like someone is super jealous of you, and is passive aggressive.

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Specializes in Critical Care; Cardiac; Professional Development.

I found your post extremely hard to follow and confusing due to the grammar/punctuation, but if I get this right, you are well thought of and your "friend" is saying snide things about that fact? Is that correct? I also don't understand what you mean when you say you "challenged her to be more real". What does "be more real" mean?

Are you asking if she is bullying you? Or are you asking if you are bullying her?

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Specializes in Emergency & Trauma/Adult ICU.

This does not sound like bullying.

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Specializes in Pediatrics, Emergency, Trauma.
I don't think that is bullying. That sounds like someone is super jealous of you and is passive aggressive.[/quote']

^THIS.

Now, do YOU feel bullied???

When your colleague says this, how do you feel?

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I have had this happen to me and yes they are feeling a little insecure around you. I talked with my friend about it and explained that even though I may seem like I know more than them I have weaknesses too that I am working on. Then every chance i had, I also pointed out what she does that's so great and how I wish I had that talent. It has helped so much to ease things. I don't think it's bullying, but just someone who feels like you really know a lot and it makes them feel like they are less.

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I would respond with "Now lets not get passive agressive about this. I was new once too. I worked hard over the past 5 years to know my job. I know what I know, and I know what I don't know, but I do know where to find it. Nuff said, knock it off".

Or "Why yes, it is tough knowing where the bodies are buried".....

You know your job. Thankfully, you know it well. In all seriousness, I would just tell her that her "joking" is making you uncomfortable, and to stop.

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Or "Why yes, it is tough knowing where the bodies are buried".....

You know your job. Thankfully, you know it well. In all seriousness, I would just tell her that her "joking" is making you uncomfortable, and to stop.

Ha ha. That reminds me of some dialogue from the film Broadcast News:

Paul Moore: "It must be nice to always believe you know better, to always think you're the smartest person in the room."

Jane Craig: "No. It's awful."

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Specializes in CCU, SICU, CVSICU, Precepting & Teaching.

​Doesn't sound like bullying to me. Just sounds like you and your "friend" need to have a nice chat about your feelings.

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