Stuttering Stupid Nurse - page 2

So...I'm not looking for sympathy or anything. I think I just need to get this out. If you judge me for my decision then you judge me but know that I am hurting inside and feel hopeless. I have... Read More

  1. by   Lynx25
    "Dude, she talks all stupid"

    What a terrible person. :-/ However, haters gonna hate, so there's always going to be SOMETHING about you that some people are going to pick at.

    I stutter a bit, but it's usually only when on the phone, or reading aloud... which makes reading reports over the phone to the doc HELL. Sometimes I can bulldoze my way through it, sometimes I ask someone if they'd mind calling my labs in for me.
  2. by   pearlgarden
    Thank you all very much for your kind comments and support. I posted this in the early hours of the morning and never imagined that I would get such great replies. The suggestions were great. Therapy is something that I will definitely try to look into. I've also heard of the speech easy device and have been looking into that for about 3 years now. I'm guessing I should explain a little more about myself and my history with stuttering. I started stuttering out of the blue when I was in 8th grade and I was confused as to what was happening because one day I spoke fluently then the next day I was stuttering. It got worse in high school and even worse in college. My stutter is not the the repetitive type such as "wha-wha-wha-what.." it's more of a block. I'll get the sentence out then there will be a block and I can't get the next word out to complete the sentence. I also have lots of trouble starting a sentence. Words that start with W are the worst such as What, When, Why, When. When I was in nursing school I was prescribed medication for anxiety by my doctor but after I graduated I didn't want to be on it anymore and didn't want to depend on it to function at a work. It did help but as a nurse I kind of felt that it was bad thing to be on anti-anxiety pills but maybe I needed them. When I was on them my stutter was still there but I was much more relaxed. Again, thank you all for being supportive and for your suggestions and for sharing your own personal stories about your stutters and about your loved ones who stutter. And thank you GrnTea for your kind comment on my writing. I'm going to take some time and figure things out. I'm not going to give up again because I know that I can be a great nurse and I know that I am knowledgeable.
  3. by   diosa78
    I also have a stutter. When I have started new jobs, I will hear people talk about it or make stupid comments. I always make it a point to pull them aside and explain to them why I talk the way I do (I had birth trauma and was not expected to walk, talk, hear, or see). I did therapy but I have damage to my speech area which means it's there and it's not going away. In every single instance, after I have explained to someone, I get an "Oh, I'm so sorry...I didn't realize." The person usually feels terrible, and then they will speak up for me when I am not around if someone starts asking about it.

    I also work with a physician who stutters. He has done therapy and he has his good days and bad days. Patients love him because he is very down-to-earth, approachable, and kind. Nevertheless, despite the speech issues, we are both successful professionals.

    Have you seen a neurologist? It's odd that you would speak normally one day and begin to stutter the next. Stutters are developmental or caused by trauma/disease/brain damage.
    Last edit by diosa78 on Jun 29, '12 : Reason: spelling
  4. by   Fearless_leader
    Just like JazzRN & emtb2rn, I also get a brain fogged. Ugh.... I hate it! The other day I was sitting in class & we were introducing ourselves & I began to stumble over my words and get simple sentences twisted. I was so upset at myself. I often wonder why my words always come out so disorganized. (This was Mon) today I decided to not worry about because I sometimes can't help it. I just have to remember to start over take a deep breath and relax. @JazzRN that's a good idea about writing. I love to write & I will try that. & pearlgarden it will be okay. First off just give yourself a pep talk before your day starts say positive things don't remind yourself of the negative. Also when meeting a new person rather it be a new admit or someone away from work. Close your eyes & take a deep breath. Sometimes when you make a joke out of something yourself it helps. Address the issue before someone else does for instance. If you feel like your going to stumble (stutter your words) just say excuse me I may stutter but I'm always nervous when I meet ________ a handsome young man (mind you your Patient Is 60 yrs. ie. old) or... oh wow you are a beautiful lady & it says your 60 when you look 50 are you sure your really 60? Say it with a smile then introduce yourself. The laughter may make you feel comfortable. It's a mind game. You have to set yourself up for a positive outcome even if you stutter it. As for your coworkers I would address the person(s) that's just me. I understand your new wait for that 3 month/6month evaluation to pass then if your the type of person that stands up for herself then pull them to the side and let them know how you feel offended and instead of tearing me(you)down in front of others. He/she need to worry about their own issues. & walk away without giving them a chance to respond that it will put them in their place. Well if that was me I will do that. Good Luck Pray about it!
  5. by   FORTHELOVEOF!!!!
    I also have a stutter. When I have started new jobs, I will hear people talk about it or make stupid comments. I always make it a point to pull them aside and explain to them why I talk the way I do (I had birth trauma and was not expected to walk, talk, hear, or see). I did therapy but I have damage to my speech area which means it's there and it's not going away. In every single instance, after I have explained to someone, I get an "Oh, I'm so sorry...I didn't realize."
    This was going to be my suggestion to the OP, pull them aside and fill them in or they will forever remain ignorant. It's a shame that this is happening in healthcare, they of all people should know better. This really sounds like something you hear on the playground when the 4th graders are making fun of their peers, just horrible that grown adults are still doing this. I know anxiety is what makes your stutter worse but advocate for yourself, tell them it's not appropriate and explain to them why so that they think twice before making fun of someone else. Good luck to you.
  6. by   veggie530
    I can totally relate to this. I grew up with a speech impediment and a lisp and it was really, really bad. Sometimes I talk really fast and people have no clue what I just said, too, or my mind races about 100 times faster than my mouth and I stutter a little bit too.

    It might be different as a guy, IDK, since I had to beat the crap out of people for making fun of me it made me more confident about it. Maybe you should go back and beat some nurses up, lol
  7. by   Pepper The Cat
    Pearlgraden, if you need to take medication to help you cope with your stutter, then you should take it.

    It is no different than someone needing glasses to see, a hearing aid to hear etc.

    You need the meds to function in the world. Just something to think about
  8. by   GitanoRN
    first of all, i'm so sorry that your having to go through this, and with co-workers that are supposedly professionals. having said that, i think the only time in my life that i stuttered uncontrollably was when i propose to my wife, it took me so long that everyone in the restaurant said the words for me!. needless to say, we all have the capacity to stutter if pushed far enough, this may happen during a very stressful interrogation in a police station, talking to emergency services on the telephone, or trying to respond to a particularly agile and aggressive lawyer while on the witness stand in court or delivering a speech. therefore, i agree with all previous posters you shouldn't change profession, i would seek professional help, i have taken the liberty of leaving you two links that might help, wishing you the very best always in all of your future endeavors as i send you a hug from across the miles....aloha~
  9. by   netglow
    i agree. i'd look into therapy first, and a revisit to just what kind of medication might help you. probably will end up something other than anxiolytic...

    btw, you work with fools and you do understand this.

    nursing is not the noble, altruistic,
    self-sacrificing job it used to be.
    sorry, charlie.
    florence nightingale is dead
  10. by   ugat
    [It's your first employment, you're a new nurse. Give yourself a break, not all beginnings go smoothly, give yourself enough time to get used to the workplace and who knows you might perform well once you become comfortable.
  11. by   CherylRNBSN
    The other posters have said it all, so I am just sending you BIG (((((HUGS))))).
  12. by   threebrats46
    I stutter and I am so sorry about the reaction you are getting from ppl. I do get the same stares esp in the very beginning of my career. It helps to slow down think about what you want to state before you start..but sometimes even when you think things through it just comes out. With lots of practice my stutters has become much less of a problem. Practice talking to people,practice in the mirror. Practice medical terminology pronounciations,practice Spanish. Also look up Toastmasters ---they are nationwide and a great club to join to practice speaking..give it a shot its cheap enough! Good Luck!
  13. by   Newgrad_STAT
    OH MAN!!

    I stutter and have stuttered my whole life.
    I wish I could have out grew it like some other people... but no such luck.

    I'm also a new nurse and I work on the float pool team for a large trauma hospital... so I float to all different floors.
    wow sometimes my stutter is quite bad and other days not so noticeable.
    I always wonder what people think when they hear me stutter. I stutter the most when I'm on the phone... boy is it BAD sometimes.

    Sometimes I get so down about it but what can you do... this is the way God made us (for a reason... :uhoh21 I just tell myself I'm doing the best I can do... and sometimes just laugh it off

    But yeah nobody really knows how it is... sometimes it's like hell

    I've only "met" one other nurse who stuttered and that was back when I was doing my CPR as a 1st yr nursing student. Never saw her again. Her stutter was quite bad and strangely when I heard her stutter I didn't...
    anyways, glad to know I'm not the only one