Stuttering Stupid Nurse - page 2
by pearlgarden | 6,489 Views | 36 Comments
So...I'm not looking for sympathy or anything. I think I just need to get this out. If you judge me for my decision then you judge me but know that I am hurting inside and feel hopeless. I have a stutter and it's worse... Read More
- 0Jun 29, '12 by -jnicoleIt's sad that some educated professional adults still have middle school mentalities.
My fiance and I also have a stutter. I pretty well grew out of mine as I got older, but being stressed and talking in front of people brings mine out. And he still has his and I've seen how non understanding people treat him. So I can understand how you must be feeling. Being new doesn't help anything, I'm sure. Try to explain to your fellow workers that you cannot help that you stutter, and being called out on it doesn't make it any better and that they would not like it if it were them. One thing that he has been looking into is a device called Speech Easy. It's a tiny device fitted into your ear, a lot like a hearing aid. It creates a choral effect. I'm not exactly sure how, but it is something to look into and I believe it can be covered by insurance.
Don't let the negativity of others get to you. No one's perfect, and all of those who make fun of someone else whether it be their speech, looks, weight, etc.... Usually means they are unhappy with themselves.
I hope everything works out for youLast edit by -jnicole on Jun 29, '12 : Reason: grammatical error
- 1Jun 29, '12 by karamarie91I'm a stutterer too but not severe since I got some therapy in elementray school. Still, I think speaking slowly and focusing on what you are saying than how you say it helps.
I pray that you feel better. I know people can be cruel and stuttering can destroy your self-esteem.
- 0Jun 29, '12 by GrnTea, BSN, MSN, RNall good suggestions, and you should definitely follow up on them. "the king's speech" is inspiring for anyone, stutterer or not. i mean, if you think you've got performance anxiety, try being told you're going to be the king of england in wartime. god save him, indeed.
this is not an alternative suggestion to get you away from floor nursing if that's not your goal, but i'd like to compliment you on your written work. you express yourself very --exceptionally-- clearly, fluently, and eloquently in writing. there are many, many ways to use a nursing education, background, and abilities in the journalism milieu, in the law, in research, in the blogosphere ... you could start part time and see how it goes.
- 1Jun 29, '12 by Lynx25"Dude, she talks all stupid"
What a terrible person. :-/ However, haters gonna hate, so there's always going to be SOMETHING about you that some people are going to pick at.
I stutter a bit, but it's usually only when on the phone, or reading aloud... which makes reading reports over the phone to the doc HELL. Sometimes I can bulldoze my way through it, sometimes I ask someone if they'd mind calling my labs in for me.
- 5Jun 29, '12 by pearlgardenThank you all very much for your kind comments and support. I posted this in the early hours of the morning and never imagined that I would get such great replies. The suggestions were great. Therapy is something that I will definitely try to look into. I've also heard of the speech easy device and have been looking into that for about 3 years now. I'm guessing I should explain a little more about myself and my history with stuttering. I started stuttering out of the blue when I was in 8th grade and I was confused as to what was happening because one day I spoke fluently then the next day I was stuttering. It got worse in high school and even worse in college. My stutter is not the the repetitive type such as "wha-wha-wha-what.." it's more of a block. I'll get the sentence out then there will be a block and I can't get the next word out to complete the sentence. I also have lots of trouble starting a sentence. Words that start with W are the worst such as What, When, Why, When. When I was in nursing school I was prescribed medication for anxiety by my doctor but after I graduated I didn't want to be on it anymore and didn't want to depend on it to function at a work. It did help but as a nurse I kind of felt that it was bad thing to be on anti-anxiety pills but maybe I needed them. When I was on them my stutter was still there but I was much more relaxed. Again, thank you all for being supportive and for your suggestions and for sharing your own personal stories about your stutters and about your loved ones who stutter. And thank you GrnTea for your kind comment on my writing. I'm going to take some time and figure things out. I'm not going to give up again because I know that I can be a great nurse and I know that I am knowledgeable.
- 1Jun 29, '12 by diosa78I also have a stutter. When I have started new jobs, I will hear people talk about it or make stupid comments. I always make it a point to pull them aside and explain to them why I talk the way I do (I had birth trauma and was not expected to walk, talk, hear, or see). I did therapy but I have damage to my speech area which means it's there and it's not going away. In every single instance, after I have explained to someone, I get an "Oh, I'm so sorry...I didn't realize." The person usually feels terrible, and then they will speak up for me when I am not around if someone starts asking about it.
I also work with a physician who stutters. He has done therapy and he has his good days and bad days. Patients love him because he is very down-to-earth, approachable, and kind. Nevertheless, despite the speech issues, we are both successful professionals.
Have you seen a neurologist? It's odd that you would speak normally one day and begin to stutter the next. Stutters are developmental or caused by trauma/disease/brain damage.Last edit by diosa78 on Jun 29, '12 : Reason: spelling
- 1Jun 29, '12 by Fearless_leader, CNAJust like JazzRN & emtb2rn, I also get a brain fogged. Ugh.... I hate it! The other day I was sitting in class & we were introducing ourselves & I began to stumble over my words and get simple sentences twisted. I was so upset at myself. I often wonder why my words always come out so disorganized. (This was Mon) today I decided to not worry about because I sometimes can't help it. I just have to remember to start over take a deep breath and relax. @JazzRN that's a good idea about writing. I love to write & I will try that. & pearlgarden it will be okay. First off just give yourself a pep talk before your day starts say positive things don't remind yourself of the negative. Also when meeting a new person rather it be a new admit or someone away from work. Close your eyes & take a deep breath. Sometimes when you make a joke out of something yourself it helps. Address the issue before someone else does for instance. If you feel like your going to stumble (stutter your words) just say excuse me I may stutter but I'm always nervous when I meet ________ a handsome young man (mind you your Patient Is 60 yrs. ie. old) or... oh wow you are a beautiful lady & it says your 60 when you look 50 are you sure your really 60? Say it with a smile then introduce yourself. The laughter may make you feel comfortable. It's a mind game. You have to set yourself up for a positive outcome even if you stutter it. As for your coworkers I would address the person(s) that's just me. I understand your new wait for that 3 month/6month evaluation to pass then if your the type of person that stands up for herself then pull them to the side and let them know how you feel offended and instead of tearing me(you)down in front of others. He/she need to worry about their own issues. & walk away without giving them a chance to respond that it will put them in their place. Well if that was me I will do that. Good Luck Pray about it!
- 0Jun 29, '12 by FORTHELOVEOF!!!!I also have a stutter. When I have started new jobs, I will hear people talk about it or make stupid comments. I always make it a point to pull them aside and explain to them why I talk the way I do (I had birth trauma and was not expected to walk, talk, hear, or see). I did therapy but I have damage to my speech area which means it's there and it's not going away. In every single instance, after I have explained to someone, I get an "Oh, I'm so sorry...I didn't realize."
- 0Jun 29, '12 by veggie530I can totally relate to this. I grew up with a speech impediment and a lisp and it was really, really bad. Sometimes I talk really fast and people have no clue what I just said, too, or my mind races about 100 times faster than my mouth and I stutter a little bit too.
It might be different as a guy, IDK, since I had to beat the crap out of people for making fun of me it made me more confident about it. Maybe you should go back and beat some nurses up, lol
- 2Jun 29, '12 by Pepper The Cat, BSN, RNPearlgraden, if you need to take medication to help you cope with your stutter, then you should take it.
It is no different than someone needing glasses to see, a hearing aid to hear etc.
You need the meds to function in the world. Just something to think about