Is it okay to tell a patient to not disrespect you
- 1Apr 30, '13 by lolakbolakI had a patient who was questioning me and even though I attempted to answer her questions, she wasn't happy with my answers. She told me that I am a terrible nurse and to get out of her room. I said ok I will just don't disrespect me. She flipped out when I said that. Was I out of line to say that? Where I work they stress that pt satisfaction is most important so pts come back to us again
- 2Apr 30, '13 by mc3Ummm, no. It wasn't OK. Further, she wasn't "disrespecting" you, she may have been disrespectful TO you. How come? Perhaps she was scared, in pain, wondering what the heck was wrong that she couldn't get her questions answered. Or perhaps she was just plain mean. I don't know- I wasn't there but I think your therapeutic listening skills could have been better. Nobody is at their best when they're sick.....
- 3Apr 30, '13 by pinkiepieRNI think your response was very human but it's probably in your best interest to not respond that way again in the future. I mean, you let her know that she was getting to you and it sounds like she was pushing your buttons, which means you may have given her the exact reaction she was looking for. I've been known to respond with, "I don't think that's appropriate for you to ask," or "I don't appreciate your responses," but I think keeping it to "I" statements is more beneficial.
- 31Apr 30, '13 by TheCommuter, ASN, RN Senior ModeratorIn the past I have told patients to stop cursing at me. I have also demanded that patients stop yelling at me.
I am cognizant that patients are not on their best behavior when they are sick, but I am not anyone's verbal punching bag, so I see nothing wrong with tactfully setting expectations on how future nurse/patient interactions will proceed.
No customer is going to get away with cursing, hollering, name-calling or making threats at the airport, bank, pancake restaurant, or hotel, no matter how bad they feel. However, the hospital allows bad behavior for the sake of 'customer service.'
- 10Apr 30, '13 by ChristineNFor the situation you described I probably would not have said anything. However I have had pts cursing me out and throwing things at me. In that situation I told the pt that her behavior was unacceptable and I would not tolerate it. I then told her that if she did it again I would be calling security. Sometimes you do need to set limits with consequences
- 1Apr 30, '13 by EricJRNI don't think you need to allow yourself to be trampled, but sometimes I think it's all in the delivery. I've seen someone say that while working her neck. It's hard to pay attention to body language when your patient has you about to blow your top, but I think that's a really important part of it.