Quote from Lacie
Ditto Ditto Ditto!!
You may very well be misjudging and by immediately reporting without the facts result in this nurse losing her livelyhood. Believe me the system doesnt work for the nurse but the protection of the public. She can have a negative screen and deny drinking and it can still come back to bite her. If you are wrong would you want this on your mind? I sure wouldnt. Monitor and be sure of your accusations first. Smelling something and actually being "impaired" are 2 very different things. If you definitely see signs of impairment then yes say something if not then I would keep my mouth shut.
I started a thread on this very subject a while back because I was so distraught when my partner got accused of drinking on the job.
Some of the feedback I got suggested I get a lawyer and some suggested that I might be in deep denial living with an alcoholic.
It took a big toll on our relationship for a few months because I had to be sure that the accusations weren't true. We stopped going to any bars and had no alcohol in our home for a period of time. I spent constant hours looking for possible hiding spots for my partners "stashes" of liquor (closets, toilet tank, garage, etc.) and came up with nothing. I took him to the doctor looking for possible causes, nothing.
It was all a big vindictive hoax.
In a nutshell, by the time it was all said and done I couldn't believe that I actually bought into it myself and finally put a stop to it by confronting his manager myself the last time she was going around asking his co-workers about him smelling like alcohol at work.
As much as I wanted to lose my cool, I remained professional and let her know that if she really did think that he had an alcohol problem, that this was not the way to handle it and to test him the next time he smells like booze. Her accusations with no merit or proof were turning our professional and personal lives upside down and it needs to stop immediately.
She reported the "confrontation" to my director who threatened disciplinary action against me for among other things, "harassing" her. I've been a nurse for 10 years and had never been written up for anything let alone harassment so this would be a first.
I'd finally had enough so I got a lawyer.
I never heard another word from my director or manager (no write-up as threatened) about the issue and my partner has not heard another word about it either. His manager now stays clear of me and the alcohol nonsense had finally stopped.
Now I'm in no way suggesting to others that confronting my partner's manager directly was the right way to do it even though it worked out in the end, but I definitely wouldn't have let it drag on as long as it did before doing something about it and I'll never let catty vindictive nurses intrude into our personal lives ever again.