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- Jun 26, '12 by CrunchRNI wouldn't leave over one comment. Yes, she should have approached it in a different matter, but every job will have someone like this and you have to figure out some way of dealing with them.
- Jun 26, '12 by nurse2033Better yet, write it down word for word and make a complaint at HR of a hostile workplace. She needs to go, not you. Of course we don't know the workplace culture but hopefully that isn't a representative sample.
- Jun 26, '12 by MN-NurseI would honestly say to the charge, "Only a moron would say something like that."
- Jun 26, '12 by Been there,done thatSedation.. like all medicine is an art. You are an educated conscientious professional, that should not be talked to like that.
Don't let that incident move you to quitting.
Stand up for yourself.
- Jun 26, '12 by sapphire18WTH?? This was your patient, not hers, who does she think she is? Sounds like a very hostile environment. Good luck to you if you do leave and look for a new job.
- Jun 26, '12 by gonzo1I have been called in to a meeting tonight to address this situation. Apparently I don't understand Texas guns and ammo culture and am too sensitive. The ICU director is bringing in the charge that said it to me, and the charges boyfriend that is a nurse there too. Why is he being invited? These 3 have worked together for about 15 years. I figure I'm gonna be listening to a why Gonzo is a bad person lecture tonight. Say your prayers for me.
- Jun 26, '12 by CherylRNBSNQuote from iluvivtiluvit, I agree w you completely that the charge nurse was unprofessional and crude. 100%.If you do not leave there will probably be more coming from her. So next time address it right away b/c if she thinks she can get away with treating you in an unprofessional manner she will keep doing it! '"Excuse me..since I find your remarks unprofessional and rude and your timing inappopriate I cannot listen to anything you have to say".Should you choose to share with me in the future I except that it be done with a courteous demeaner and in professional manner". Bet she will NOT do it again. Otherss have let her get away with this behavior so she keeps doing it...she is really crude
However, I would suggest a more tactful approach to dealing w the situation. The goal is to DE-ESCALATE, while making your very accurate point about being unprofessional, rude, etc. I have been reading and thinking about conflict resolution a great deal. Once you tell someone "I cannot listen to anything you have to say", it's game over. Everyone becomes entrenched in their position. And defensive.
I think a better way to approach this fiasco would be to speak to charge nurse directly, and discretely. Perhaps something along the lines of "I am sorry I did not handle that situation exactly as you would have preferred (then feel free to elaborate on your decision making process), what would have suggested I do next time?" And then be OPEN to what a more experienced nurse has to say.
Then, feel free to let her know, ever so tactfully how her handling of the situation affected YOU.
It becomes a win/win situation at that point. You hear her, and hopefully learn something, and SHE HEARS YOU, and realizes she was tactless, and it is affecting your morale. It will hopefully make her a better manager. And you will have learned a great lesson about de-escalating, while still being heard.
It really is ALL in the way you say it. Choose your words carefully. You will never regret it! Good luck!
- Jun 27, '12 by iluvivtYes, I agree that I would do something just like that CherylRNBSN and have on many occasions as I agree that is an ideal solution. Based upon what the poster said this sounds like typical engrained behavior for this person..and often you have to fight fire with fire a bit or show you teeth until you an get to that nice resolution and mutual respect and agreement stage. I would save this approach for the very most egregious behavior and I would classify her behavior as such.