A "dating female students in your class" post

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Well, having just completed my 1st semester of the nursing program, I have found that as a single guy, you are really in (at times) a very weird catch-22 being in a female-dominated student body.

Although I definitely do not complain about the female-to-male ratio, I have learned - the hard way, really - that trying to date one (or, god forbid, even more than one) of your classmates can in many ways be a disastrous decision. Because even though you will likely interact with your female of interest every single day at school, that still doesn't change the fact that you still have to stay focused and on the ball if you want to succeed in nursing school. At one point, I thought that because we were both in the same program, at the same school, etc. it could still work - but man, that just hasn't necessarily shown itself to be the case, in my experience. You simply cannot have your head in the clouds and still do well academically. I would love to be proven wrong on this, but I'm hedging my bets carefully from here on out. It's hard sometimes, trying to find that balance - because even though I'm relatively young (29), I'm not going to pretend that I want to stay single forever - but I definitely don't want to risk losing my "edge" with my studies.

Any other guys experienced anything like this?

I think sex is like playing tennis, now if I find a fellow student who thinks the same, its all good.

I will only be starting nursing school this Fall, but take it from someone that has worked in a few different ERs, seen/heard MANY things that go on in hospitals, and has also dated guys that I've worked with in said hospitals...keep it as professional as possible and try to avoid romantic connections / relationships in the workplace! (can't say that enough!)

NS is for learning, plain and simple. Things may be great with this person for a few wks, months, or even a year, but if you break up or if one is dropped from or leaves the program (heaven forbid), it could have negative effects on the one left. A relationship in this environment may also create an awkward and / or hostile learning opportunity for your classmates, especially if another one of the girls is attracted to you or another guy becomes attracted to her. It could create division when a team effort is imperative. There will always be a sense of awkwardness between you and the other person once you break up and are forced to see this person in such close proximity day in and day out. This is regardless of how amicably things have ended...there is always "weirdness" that may or may not go away with time. This weirdness will almost always be detected by your classmates, whether they know what has taken place or not.

So....for your sake and everyone around you, I would HIGHLY recommend finding someone outside the nursing dept to get to know for dating purposes. OR, who knows, maybe you can build a great friendship with NS chick and have something later on after making it through this challenge together. If it is meant to be, it will be, but business should trump all else at this point.

well. I broke many cardinal rules. I hooked up with a married woman. She was in a failing marriage, but never mentioned divorce. So I didn't think I had anything to worry about. Until she told her husband(who was cheating on her for many years). And he filed for a divorce. Did I mention we both applied to the same nursing program and that I was her tutor for both her a and p classes. My fears were made reality when we both got in, and we were in three out of four classes together. I tried to back of, saying I didn't have time to be FWB. But she wouldn't back off. She would try to cuddle during clinical rotation, while noone was looking, and I felt uncomfortable talking to any girls, thinking she would cause a scene. I basically isolated myself from all my classmates because of her. I was finally put at ease at the end of this semester when I found out she failed clinical. This means she is being held back a semester, so i'm in the clear.

btw, whats with all the female opinions, not to sound snotty, but I thought this was a male nurse forum.

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btw, whats with all the female opinions, not to sound snotty, but I thought this was a male nurse forum.

I think its interesting to hear what the ladies think, but yeah it should be a predominantly male discussion...

well. I broke many cardinal rules. I hooked up with a married woman. She was in a failing marriage, but never mentioned divorce. So I didn't think I had anything to worry about. Until she told her husband(who was cheating on her for many years). And he filed for a divorce. Did I mention we both applied to the same nursing program and that I was her tutor for both her a and p classes. My fears were made reality when we both got in, and we were in three out of four classes together. I tried to back of, saying I didn't have time to be FWB. But she wouldn't back off. She would try to cuddle during clinical rotation, while noone was looking, and I felt uncomfortable talking to any girls, thinking she would cause a scene. I basically isolated myself from all my classmates because of her. I was finally put at ease at the end of this semester when I found out she failed clinical. This means she is being held back a semester, so i'm in the clear.

Is she pretty and hot? if not then yah good riddance..

lets just say, good riddance, lol

This topic is an interesting one. I returned to school to complete prereqs for a ABSN program last year. I was amazed at the number of women in my prereq classes alone. At some point, a few of my male friends in the class and female friends all agreed to link up at the end of the semester. We all knew it was a perfect idea, and it gave us something to look forward to. I must say that this is the best way to go. I didn't hook up with any of the girls, but hanging out with them and watching them get loose was alot of fun. I am one hundered percent sure that I could have hooked up with all three of these women. But I realized that right now in my life, my psychological age is older than my biological age. In other words, I am focused as if I am turning this nursing thing into my medical professional career. This isn't the time, atleast for me, to be hooking up.

This topic is an interesting one. I returned to school to complete prereqs for a ABSN program last year. I was amazed at the number of women in my prereq classes alone. At some point, a few of my male friends in the class and female friends all agreed to link up at the end of the semester. We all knew it was a perfect idea, and it gave us something to look forward to. I must say that this is the best way to go. I didn't hook up with any of the girls, but hanging out with them and watching them get loose was alot of fun. I am one hundered percent sure that I could have hooked up with all three of these women. But I realized that right now in my life, my psychological age is older than my biological age. In other words, I am focused as if I am turning this nursing thing into my medical professional career. This isn't the time, atleast for me, to be hooking up.

Can you be more specific by "link up?" I ask since you went on to say you didn't "hook up" -- at first glance I might have used those words synonymously. By link did you just mean "hang out" outside of class? Or something else?

Lol I think he meant dating by saying hooking up.

Ah. Well... I am not going to waste my time actively pursuing any girls but if I get IOI's let's just say I won't dismiss them immediately. It's one of those "I'll cross that bridge when I get to it" scenarios, I think.

^ That's the way to go.

Let the girls come on to you, since realistically we are the prize in the end.

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