ah, i see. you know, i'm taking a class and before i go to class my head is buried in my books researching the topic we are going to be covering in the next lecture. the instructor will ask a question. because i am one of the ones that will sing out and sometimes feel a bit like you, i will sit there for a few seconds because i don't want to deprive anyone else of their chance to participate and boost their self-esteem. and, you know what? silence. so, then i'll pipe up. i'm sure some of the "quieter" ones in the class don't like it. i will also ask questions in class because i've done reading already and i need to have something clarified. some will tell me later, "good question, joyce". then, others just glare at me and don't like me for asking questions either. i think it's because they don't like that someone else is getting attention. is that a reason for someone who doesn't get what they need to be mad at me? i've seen some of the sneers on their faces, even when i smile and greet them. that's just not normal social behavior on their part. i'm an equal opportunity friend to everyone. i've made it abundantly clear that i am open to working with anyone on this material, some of it incredibly confusing and complex and that i am parked in the computer lab most of every wednesday working away at the material. still, some stay far away. treat me as persona non grata. that's not my fault. nor is it yours. i see this kind of behavior as being similar to children who are pouting because they can't get their way. but, think about it. what is it that they want anyway? certainly, it isn't the chance to speak up themselves because most likely they don't know the answers or they'd be joining in. no, it's more likely ego and personality driven. what i'm trying to skirt around and avoid saying is that they are jealous for no valid reason, plain and simple. i don't have to get involved in that childish game. i have bigger fish to fry. so, do you. don't worry about these other people. as long as you monitor your own behavior and you are satisfied you aren't stepping on their toes or depriving them of the same opportunities you have, then don't let their game of silence and turning a cold shoulder to others worry you. it's only a game on their part--a sad one at that. acknowledging it sucks you into their game. and, you don't want to play, do you? be the better person. just ignore them. they're the ones that are losing out because of their own childishness, not you. some people never learned to grow up and act like adults. they will have problems throughout their lives in their interactions with others because of it. not your problem unless you are their boss and have to mediate disagreements between them and others they are hurting by their behavior.