Yikes I'm Getting Old! - page 5
We all must face it - we are aging. Oh yeah, when I was 20, 30, even 40, heck I was NOT going to get old. I was going to keep learning, stay current with evidence based practices and be on TOP! ... Read More
Jan 3, '13Yesterday was my 56th birthday. I was talking with a few friends who are around my age & we decided we wouldn't go back & do our 20's & 30's over again for anything. Life was hard for me those 2 decades & I felt very old then because life was beating me down. Now it seems life has turned around for me in the last 20 or so years & I'm enjoying it so much. I have a wonderful husband, daughter, & a grandson who will be 1 year old in 11 days. I wouldn't trade my life now for anything I had back then. There is no substitute for life experience & I firmly believe everything I went through earlier in life made me the strong, confident person I am today.
The only sad thing about my birthday this year is that my present to myself was a cane. The pain in my legs from my RA is so bad that I finally had to admit I need a little help getting around. Oh well, at least I found a pretty cane with butterflies on it so it doesn't look too old ladyish!
Jan 3, '13Such interesting posts. Now that I think of it, I am so afraid that if I work much longer, something will happen to me healthwise or accidentwise and then I will kick myself in the butt as I will be unable to fulfill my passion of having this time to travel with my husband. I read about pain and arthritis, bad hips, etc. and know that it could be me so I ought to be so grateful for my good health and just chuck it all in in exactly one year. That is my target date. The future is unknown.
Jan 4, '13In my early 50's and I work with high school kids so that is a plus! The mind set certainly keeps me young. Can't quite let go of the hair, I just use root touch up (at home and much less costly!)
Maybe cause I'm single and looking? LOL! I have known many beautiful women who are white or gray and I know it should not matter.....
A lot is mind set, I have aches and pains but will not give into them, my sister on the other hand 6 years younger and FULL of aches and pains....but also I think some of it has to do with her inablitity to get a full time job...they chose (and were able ) for her to stay home while the kids were little and now the job market stinks and she cannot secure FTE....and life has been pretty good to her all along and ticked right on track- school work marriage kids home etc...
While occasionally envious of her, my life is pretty darn good and I have a job that I love and one that fulfills me
Can I really ask for more than that?
Jan 4, '13Quote from nhnursieI do the at home root touch-up too - but a couple of times a year I do go in for the professional dye and highlights. Which I did yesterday afternoon. My step is a little lighter and I've gotten raves for the highlighting and recommended my stylist. It's the only thing I splurge on occasionally. I do not to manicure or pedicures. I only purchase sneakers when the old ones wear out and then they must be on sale. I don't buy clothes much - I've got on a 10 year old pair of jeans and a 6 year old shirt right now. I don't do Starbucks or any other coffee house.In my early 50's and I work with high school kids so that is a plus! The mind set certainly keeps me young. Can't quite let go of the hair, I just use root touch up (at home and much less costly!)
And it feels good to have my hair colored.
To each their own. But I'm loving my own.
Jan 4, '13I just got tired of doing the roots at home as hard as I tried, I sometimes missed and got it on the wood counters or walls. Even just a spot and it would turn very dark and I could not get it off unless I painted. I stopped going to the hairdresser as I just did not want to do it every 4 weeks as it needed it by then. I never thought I would "let it go" but now that I have, I am very happy with it. Next I will get rid of all make up little by little except for lipstick and a bit of eyebrow pencil. I will give all my work clothes away in about a year, clean out everything I do not need or want, and finally do what I love before it is too late. I travel a lot in second world countries (can do it a long time due to costs) for weeks on end for very little but it is not easy but it is fun, adventurous and meet great locals and other travelers. I do not want to travel with roots ha ha.
Jan 6, '13Quote from Spidey's momI'm just a few years younger and have an 11 yr old and 16 yr old...contemplating NP school...terrified but can't seem to let it go. I support your decision to go for more education!Ah, the 50's. Bent but not broken.
Enjoying reading everyone's perspective.
I'm the mother of an 11 year old at 55 years of age and that definitely keeps me on my toes. Also, my oldest is 29, just married and is waiting a year to talk about having a baby. Tick tock son . . tick tock.
Contemplating another degree and another student loan when the BSN one isn't paid off yet.
Am I crazy?
(Yes, of course)
Jan 6, '13While I don't think that age is just a number, I don't think it is entirely indicative of one's state in life. I've seen patients in their late forties look awful, they are on disability, their health is terrible because they didn't take care of themselves, while I've seen plenty of seventy and eighty-somethings still "with it" and look about ten to fifteen years younger. My 87 year old grandmother until very recently was driving herself around. She also can still get up and down the steps and her mind is still sharp. Then I have a grandmother ten years younger who is in and out of hospitals, has suffered strokes and gets out of breath walking a very short distance and has for quite a while. She also has a long history of smoking, drinking and gambling while my 87-year old grandma does not.
People are living longer, medicine is advancing and soon it will be very common to see people live until their nineties. Not too long ago, I read an article on "super senior" citizens still working their jobs out of want and not out of need, so I guess we shouldn't be so shocked to hear about fifty, sixty year-old people who "still have it."
But what do I know? I'm a 40 year old trapped in a 21 year old's body. I hate alcohol, I don't party and I'm very much a mamma's girl.
Jan 6, '13You all are so awesome! I love how adaptable everyone is. I think that factors into how we age too - the ability to change with lifes circumstances. This is a trait to be admired.
Jan 21, '13Quote from traumaRUsHi guys, I'm pretty new to the site and wanted to say hi to all. I'm a L&D nurse and very passionate my specialty.You all are so awesome! I love how adaptable everyone is. I think that factors into how we age too - the ability to change with lifes circumstances. This is a trait to be admired.
Jan 21, '13Recently I had a traumatic shoulder injury that required surgery and months and months of physical therapy. The doctor told me that I would eventually need the other shoulder done, due to degenerative changes. I also have bursitis in both hips. I love what I do, can't imagine working anywhere else but in the ED, but I've come to realize that I may not be physically able to work there until I'm ready to retire. Part of the problem is that I have a hard time accepting that I may have limitations. I am a very physical person, so being unable to do something drives me nuts. I'm only in my late 40's, but this injury got me thinking about the future and my career. I've decided to go back to school and get my FNP. I hope to stay in the ED, as that is what I love, I'd just be taking a different role. I'vealso started thinking more about my finances and making sure I have enough to retire comfortably. I've joined a gym, am trying hard to lose those extra pounds (being out of work, I've gained 25lbs.), watch my cholesterol and am trying to quit smoking. I color my gray (I've been gray since age 25) and look about 10 years younger than I am. I plan on staying "young" for a long time.
Jan 21, '13Quote from sharpeimomThat was real nice. Thanks for sharing. And you're so right about age being just a number. Thanks, I needed that.I remember when I was in second grade, the school was being remodeled and just one student restroom was usable and thinking that all I wanted in life was to be one of those "big fourth graders" because those lucky kids got to carry the "In Use By Girls" sign and we "little kids" had to be escorted by a grown up who hung the coveted sign.
When I was about 13, all I wanted was to be old enough to stay home alone when my parents went out. It came .....................eventually. When I was 14, all I wanted was to be able to date. It seemed like forever, but eventually I was 16 and the age my parents decreed.
In college, all I wanted, after a couple of years, was to be done and begin grad school. Eventually it happened!
Suddenly I was 30 and two of my cousins were pregnant, two more were engaged, and my fiance had died of cancer. I felt 100. I wore bridesmaids and maid of honor dresses that made me look and feel like walking meringues, but without the joy I should have felt. I still felt 100.
I married when I was 37, after caring for my dying mom. Now I felt younger again but not my age. That came when we took a delayed honeymoon after my mom's death. We were away six weeks and divided our time between the British Isles and France. I returned on crutches as the result of a silly accident but my heart was light again and I felt like a new bride and like a 37 year old again.
Forty was untraumatic, as were my fifties. I've always looked much much younger than my real age and still do. Good genes I guess, but it's a swift pain sometimes. I was still getting carded when I made a liquor purchase until I was in my early fifties. Every stinkin' time!
The day after my 54th birthday, I had a severe stroke caused by an earlier aneurysm and when I realized that a. I would survive and b. life would never be the same I would have to adjust my thinking. The alternative was going off the deep end.
I guess all this rambling is just to say your age is just a number. I certainly never thought I'd ever be THIS old, but guess what? I still have all my own teeth, my mind works just great, and I still look younger than I am. I'm still young! I feel free to speak my mind and love who I am now.
As someone said recently, "Your dad would have been so proud of the adult you!" My dad died when I was in college. Great compliment!
Jan 21, '13Quote from marcos9999I already know. I've been lifting weights for several years now.....lolI now realize why weight lifting is actually so important as you age. I used to have a weak back but started to do squats and dead lifts and I have now a much stronger back then I used to have when 20. Start lifting weights yall...I'm not even going to talk about the hormone production, I'll let you find that out on your own.
Mar 10, '13That was a fantastic article coming from your heart... I want you to know that at 54 years old I am going to graduate fromwith a BSN in 2014, which will make me 55 when I am just beginning this journey! I have often questioned my decision but still come full circle, and forge ahead! I do want to continue my education until I can't any longer... what my future brings me is in God's hands. Since He has brought me this far, He must have a purpose for me in this field. I know how much I enjoy my journey, as tiring as it can be sometimes, as I forge ahead to finish school for my BSN. I do know that nursing school keeps you so strapped with work that you remain sedentary a lot of the time while studying or going to lectures. That has helped to pack on 15-20 lbs of weight gain since I started. I am normally a very conscious person when it comes to staying in shape...I can see now that I really need to get that back in my life in order to have the physical and mental stamina to keep up and feel good. I see way too many nurses that are overweight and it isn't good for them or their patients.
If you could offer any advice or comments on this journey - I would welcome them!
Good luck to you and I hope that you are still loving what you do!