Why are the divorce rates among nurses so high? - page 4
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THere's been several surveys and studies done on professions with the highest divorce rates. Among bartenders, entertainers and telemarketers, the nursing profession was one of them. Why? And for those that are not... Read More
- 1Mar 10, '13 by Home runQuote from enchantmentdisSame here. In the last 6 months of nursing school, I got married and had a baby. We dated before I even thought about school, and although he was supportive, I know it was hard to take a "backseat" to nursing. Unfortunately, the "light at the end of the nursing school tunnel" faded as we had to navigate the changes of parenthood. Next thing I knew, I was trying to balance the roles of new nurse, new wife, and new mom. It was exhausting. I couldn't keep up...so I cut corners with the one role I felt should understand, which was the new "wife" role. I would get home from work exhausted, then take care of the newborn, and that left ZERO energy for my marriage. We have had many near misses, but thankfully I have learned that the marriage needs just as much nurturing as the baby and my new career. It's still a tough balancing act and I'm still always tired, but it's worth the extra work to "have it all."I married during nursing school, while i was getting my BSN. .
Also, I agree, lots of nurses divorce because we don't take crap!
- 3Mar 10, '13 by Nurse_Divorce rates is roughly 29% of 3.1 million Registered Nurses and more because the researchers added other healthcare personnel. That's actually not bad. It's just simple statistics.
There are roughly 300 Navy seals and according to some of their studies, their divorce rates are from 78-95%.
As for divorce rates for nurses, people grow and people change. In nursing, we have been made tough and learned to accept the realism of life. Like when we have a terminal patient, we learned that swift and painless is better than prolonging the inevitable. I think that's how we view relationships as well. We try our best, do all we can but we also recognize when it's time to let go.
- 0Mar 10, '13 by netglowI've known a few nurses who have been divorced or going through it now. In college two RNs on my units were in the midst. And since graduating I know 3. The ones I know the details on and know the people involved seem to point to nursing and having nothing left when they get home. That's hard to deal with daily normal family irritations after you've been doing that all day at work too. Also, these women never had really worked before, were stay at home moms. They changed but so much later in life, just as any normal-aged young kid of 21 does once they've gone to college and then get their first real job. I think nursing changes everybody more than most jobs, and unless you have a really strong marriage, it's gotta be tough to weather that huge change once your life is so inflexible.
- 0Mar 11, '13 by lilaclover6984I agree with the previous posters who said "it's because we don't put up with crap"
But also I think part of the reason we don't put up with crap is because we don't have to. Most nurses are financially secure enough to leave a bad marriage and make it on their own. We don't have to stay in a marriage that is making us unhappy just for financial reasons like some women. I have a close friend who is not a nurse and is miserable in her marriage. But she feels she can't leave because she couldn't support herself on her own. I am a divorced nurse. I had a horrid 2 year marriage to a cheating husband. I left and am doing just great on my own
- 2Mar 12, '13 by BSNbeDONEWhen I was an LPN student, boyfriend left; ADN student, husband left; BSN student, second husband left. Either the men I dated/married were terribly afraid of nurses, (I assure you that I never brought a needle home), or terribly afraid of the thought of a successful woman. I think the latter. Now that the divorce is final, I won't even consider commitment until I'm at the top of MY ladder.
- 0Mar 13, '13 by OB-nurse2013Quote from BrandonLPNYoure right and I still watch my grandparents kiss and they hold hands..When my grandpa is in the hospital he wont let my grandma leave his side..I think people just dont look at marriage the way they used to..divorce was not an option-you worked on things and fixed things instead of just easily throughing it asideNow now, let's not turn this into a male bashing thread. Our grandfathers took plenty of BS from our grandmothers too.