When everybody knows your name

In an era of informality, have we accepted a lack of respect? Nurses General Nursing Article

This is something that I wrote for a class while I was in Nursing School. I came across it again and decided to post it and see what the reaction would be. Fire away, all responses or opinions will be welcomed, none will be taken personally.

American culture has become less and less formal in recent years. In most businesses employees are on a first name basis with everyone else, right up to the CEO. Business casual is the new dress code in many places, and in some sectors blue jeans and t-shirts are the norm. The President of the United States has revised White House dress codes, no longer requiring suit jackets be worn at all times. Polo shirts and khakis can even be found on tellers and loan officers in many banks, which have traditionally been the most staid and sober of institutions. In hospitals, nurses have abandoned the traditional starched whites in favor of a mix of scrubs and logo shirts. It's worth noting here that physicians have yet to discard their long white coats.

In many places nurse have not only abandoned their uniforms, they've given up their last names. Most seem to have done it gladly, accepting the new American informality with scarcely a thought. They introduce themselves by their first name, and in some cases take steps to conceal their surnames. Concealing last names or credentials is an issue being addressed by Nursing's governing bodies in various states with a variety of results, but still, patients call for nurses using first names and physicians and other staff generally use a nurse's first name while in a patients room and no one thinks anything of it. Nurses accept and appear to encourage this practice generally.

A physician was asked by the author how she refers to nurses when in front of a patient, and was told that if the nurse is in the room she usually uses a first name. Were she to encounter a nurse who insisted on being address by his or her title and last name in when in front of a patient she would consider that nurse somewhat cold, snooty and pretentious. Conversely, she expects to be referred to as "Doctor". She feels that patients want their physicians, even the female ones, to take a paternal role, essentially telling patients what they must do, allowing patients to abdicate their decision-making rights completely. Nursing, she noted is more maternal and intimate, and the use of a first name makes establishing a relationship easier. The physician suggested that using a nurse's first name makes patients more comfortable.

Some of her points regarding a nurse's relationship with a patient feel true. She pointed out that most of us would address our attorney by their first name, yet they seem to retain their status. But in court, the judge addresses those attorneys with the Mr. or Ms. honorific, followed by their last name. Attorneys, of course, address the judge by title or honorific and fail to do so at their own peril. Formality and at least the outward appearance of respect are expected. It would seem that the analogy, in this case, fails to hold up.

Opposite this, an example that comes to mind is a server in a restaurant. It's not uncommon to be seated at a table and have a waiter or waitress arrive with a name tag that reads "Jennifer C". Jennifer C then introduces herself by saying something like "Hi, I'm Jenny, I'll be your server tonight. Can I get you something to drink?" Substitute server for nurse and you have a scene that plays out in hospitals all around the country every day. If nurses are unable to separate themselves from the staff at the local Denny's how can we expect the general public to know the difference between the 23-year-old college senior refilling their water glass and the 23-year-old baccalaureate prepared ICU nurse adding yet another line to the seven already running while carefully managing fluid and electrolyte balance at their loved one's bedside?

The use of last names sometimes brings out strong emotions when nurses are asked opinions on the issue. Most seem to cite the need for security, talking about patients and families who may make threats or become obsessed with the nurse to the point of harassment and stalking. Here again, this seems to be less of a concern for physicians, even those who happen to be young and female. Perhaps there is a difference in maturity level between a 20-year-old with an ADN (associate degree) and a 26-year-old first-year resident. Age, experience, education and the almost Olympian authority bestowed by the letters MD may provide a degree of protection that the young nurse does not enjoy. However, while planning this paper, nurses who did cite security always had anecdotes that involved a friend of a friend. None claimed to have been stalked, threatened or attacked personally. Google searches were performed on keywords "nurse attacked", "nurse threatened" and "nurse stalked" and the first 100 returns were checked. When combined with attacked or threatened, it appeared that it was more often the nurse who was attacking or threatening someone. In the cases where a nurse was attacked, the fact that the victim was a nurse appeared to be coincidental unless the attack occurred in a patient care setting. Stalking does seem to be a more significant issue, but still, most of the evidence reviewed was anecdotal with only a few exceptions.

I once read an article which suggested using nurse's first names while at the same time insisting on titles for physician's subtlety demeans and devalues the nurse and his or her role in the eyes of the patient, the physician, and within the profession of nursing itself. The authors argued that using our last names and credentials will help nurses win and retain the position of respect that they have earned.

The arguments for allowing informality seem fairly weak overall and nurses need to start recognizing it. In giving up our surnames along with the titles we have earned we give up or fail to gain respect from our patients, their physicians, and most importantly, from ourselves. In concealing our names and credentials we deny our identities and imply that a patient hasn't the right to know the name of his or her caregiver. None of these things are acceptable. Nurses will stop being treated as second class citizens as soon as we stop behaving like second class citizens.

Specializes in Med/Surg.

One more thought, in terms of calling nurses by first name rather than "Nurse Breeze," is that IMO it's easier for the patients to remember. Some of the first names can be hard enough, and with some of the last names of the nurses on the unit, patients would end up just calling everybody plain old "nurse."

I had a patient this week (young gal, too, 27?) who, even though my name was on the white board, kept addressing me as "Nurse," as in, on my way out of her room, "oh nurse? Can I have some more juice?" She did this multiple times.

I hate being called "Nurse."

Speaking of whiteboards, if we went with last names, what would we write up there? We put both the RN and the LPN/CNA's names. Would we write "Nurse Breeze, RN" rather than "Cherry RN"? Would we put that for the RN, but a first name for the LPN or CNA?

Specializes in Med/Surg, Geriatrics.

My thoughts:

When I introduce myself to patients, I always give my first and last name because I believe it to be more professional. They call me by my first name but when I worked at Grady, they called us Ms. Last name because that is the culture of the place.

Some people claim they keep their names hidden because of safety concerns. I call bull. I've worked in more than one inner city hospital, taking care of prisoners, gang bangers , you name it. I used to work in a prison. Keeping your nametag turned around isn't going to make you safe.

The nurse(LPN not MA) at my pediatrician's office identifies herself as "Nurse Jackson" always. She identifies herself at the beginning of the conversation and at the end. I like that. She sounds professional, confident and competent.

By contrast, when I went into Dekalb Medical Center to have a minor diagnostic procedure, not one nurse identified herself by first or last name. They just walked up to me and said "I need to start your IV now" or "I have some medicine for you". Also their name badges were turned around. I am re-thinking my decision to use them as my healthcare provider because I do not appreciate that at all. It's unprofessional. Oh and when I went to have my mammogram, the tech called me by my first name without my permission. I don't like that.

Specializes in Behavioral Health/Substance Abuse.

Speaking of whiteboards, if we went with last names, what would we write up there? We put both the RN and the LPN/CNA's names. Would we write "Nurse Breeze, RN" rather than "Cherry RN"? Would we put that for the RN, but a first name for the LPN or CNA?

Why would you use the last name for the RN and the first name for the LPN? Both are nurses and that's really all the pt is going to care about. And personally, I went to school quite a bit longer than a CNA and would not appreciate being addressed like one. :twocents:

I have always used my first and last name on my badge, and introduced myself verbally to clients and physicians by my first and last name -- and I've never had a problem come up because of that. I work in psych and have worked in some really rough urban settings (also rural areas where everyone knew who you were and where you lived, regardless of what name you used at work). I've also always called all adult clients "Mr. X" or "Ms. Y" until they ask me to call them something else.

My mother was an RN long ago, and her opinion is that we've given up a lot of power by going to the first names -- she can't imagine having ever allowed anyone to call her by her first name instead of "Nurse X" in the clinical setting. I've only been called "Nurse X" in one situation, and it wasn't because I asked or expected to be (and, oddly enough, it was by a young physician). I was clinical instructor with a group of students at the state hospital (psych rotation). The psychiatrist on the unit was pretty informal, and all the regular staff called him by his first name (although not in front of the clients). I was not regular staff, was only there a couple days a week, didn't know him well, and, frankly, prefer not to get too chummy with physicians anyway, so I called him "Dr. Y." In return, he called me "Nurse X" -- not in a cold or unfriendly way (we had quite a few interesting, extended conversations during the rotation); not in a snarky or mocking way (he was consistently courteous and respectful toward me); my first name was right there on my badge where he could easily see it; it just seemed v. clear that, from his perspective, he was respecting the boundary I had established (by calling him "Dr. Y") and he wasn't going to cross it without my inviting him to. At first it felt extremely strange to be called "Nurse X," but, as time went on, I got to like it. I would not mind being called "Nurse X" all the time ...

I agree with my mother completely about this, and felt the same long before she and I ever discussed it. In our society, only children and pets don't have last names -- responsible adults have first and last names. What kind of message does it give to clients when the people standing in their hospital rooms are Dr. Smith, Dr. Jones, Dr. Brown and Susie? The message is that Susie doesn't really matter. Is that really the message we want to send?

Specializes in Acute Care Cardiac, Education, Prof Practice.
My thoughts:

Some people claim they keep their names hidden because of safety concerns. I call bull. I've worked in more than one inner city hospital, taking care of prisoners, gang bangers , you name it. I used to work in a prison. Keeping your nametag turned around isn't going to make you safe.

My Great Aunt lived by the saying "They are going to break into your car whether you like it or not, but I sure as heck am not going to leave the doors unlocked."

I feel like a very respected nurse, from patient and co-workers a like and those who do not respect me, wouldn't do it if my name started with Pope anyway...

By contrast, when I went into Dekalb Medical Center to have a minor diagnostic procedure, not one nurse identified herself by first or last name. They just walked up to me and said "I need to start your IV now" or "I have some medicine for you". Also their name badges were turned around. I am re-thinking my decision to use them as my healthcare provider because I do not appreciate that at all. It's unprofessional. Oh and when I went to have my mammogram, the tech called me by my first name without my permission. I don't like that.

I have a feeling it wouldn't have mattered if they had introduced themselves as Cindy or Nurse Bedpan. The pure fact that they made an effort to even introduce themselves at all would have left this situation as just another visit to the doctor's office, instead of a black stain on your memory.

I to question my choice of OB-GYN offices when I go because they often just dictate what I need to do and offer no simple interaction other than "Sit here" "Give me your arm" "Place your things there". However it is much more often the demeanor of the demands, than the lack of which stated name they give me.

Anyway it is three am so I am probably not getting my point across, but my opinions were previously stated in my original post.

Tait

It makes me chuckle every time I read an article on discontent in nursing. Like in every other station in life, there is always hierarchy, some good and some bad.

Now, why would we want to quench all of that away, to level the ground. I sometimes wonder why people are so preoccupied with attaining status. If you want more, sure by all means, study more and get some.

Specializes in LTC Family Practice.

For security purposes I've always used my first name and last name initial and my title LPN on any badge/name tag. I introduce myself as Good morning/hey/good evening/what ever, I'm Kate your LPN for today/eve/noc and you can reach me by......

I've worked in a lot of smaller communities and I prefer my last name to remain mine.

As far as addressing patients in a hospital setting, it's Mr., Miss, Miz, Misses last name. In SNF and clinics where I saw these people on a regular long term basis, it might become Miz or Mr "first name" like Miz. Joy or Mr. Joe.

The name I use at work is for security, the name I call a patient is to show respect, they've already lost plenty just because of the nature of being a patient and they need to retain dignity and respect.

Specializes in Med/Surg, Geriatrics.

I have a feeling it wouldn't have mattered if they had introduced themselves as Cindy or Nurse Bedpan. The pure fact that they made an effort to even introduce themselves at all would have left this situation as just another visit to the doctor's office, instead of a black stain on your memory.

No Tait. As I stated before, the nurse at the pediatrician's office made a point of telling me her name and that stuck out to me. It makes me more confident in her ability and professionalism.

However it is much more often the demeanor of the demands, than the lack of which stated name they give me.

Tait

It's both. If you are going to be performing intimate procedures on me and have access to most of my personal and private information, the least you can do is tell me your name......and say it nicely.

Most of the MDs I know have unlisted phone numbers. There is a low possibility to have someone call you or send flowers to your home.

An obsession, fixation, etc. can occur from a patient or patient's visitors (family or friends) since we spend more than 12 hours a day with them. Since nurses spend more time in this situation we are more vulnerable than an MD and most nurses do NOT have unlisted phone numbers.

I would cover my last name up with tape if required to place my last name on my name badge.

otessa

Specializes in Med/Surg, Geriatrics.
I have always used my first and last name on my badge, and introduced myself verbally to clients and physicians by my first and last name -- and I've never had a problem come up because of that. I work in psych and have worked in some really rough urban settings (also rural areas where everyone knew who you were and where you lived, regardless of what name you used at work). I've also always called all adult clients "Mr. X" or "Ms. Y" until they ask me to call them something else.

My mother was an RN long ago, and her opinion is that we've given up a lot of power by going to the first names -- she can't imagine having ever allowed anyone to call her by her first name instead of "Nurse X" in the clinical setting. I've only been called "Nurse X" in one situation, and it wasn't because I asked or expected to be (and, oddly enough, it was by a young physician). I was clinical instructor with a group of students at the state hospital (psych rotation). The psychiatrist on the unit was pretty informal, and all the regular staff called him by his first name (although not in front of the clients). I was not regular staff, was only there a couple days a week, didn't know him well, and, frankly, prefer not to get too chummy with physicians anyway, so I called him "Dr. Y." In return, he called me "Nurse X" -- not in a cold or unfriendly way (we had quite a few interesting, extended conversations during the rotation); not in a snarky or mocking way (he was consistently courteous and respectful toward me); my first name was right there on my badge where he could easily see it; it just seemed v. clear that, from his perspective, he was respecting the boundary I had established (by calling him "Dr. Y") and he wasn't going to cross it without my inviting him to. At first it felt extremely strange to be called "Nurse X," but, as time went on, I got to like it. I would not mind being called "Nurse X" all the time ...

I agree with my mother completely about this, and felt the same long before she and I ever discussed it. In our society, only children and pets don't have last names -- responsible adults have first and last names. What kind of message does it give to clients when the people standing in their hospital rooms are Dr. Smith, Dr. Jones, Dr. Brown and Susie? The message is that Susie doesn't really matter. Is that really the message we want to send?

I agree with this. If I can't be Nurse H, then I would like to be addressed as Mrs. H. Changing that would be one step to asserting our power and professionalism but that would take a huge cultural shift. If leadership were willing to attempt something like that, I can guarantee you "we" would fight it all the way.

None claimed to have been stalked, threatened or attacked personally.

When I was a nursing student they had our first and last names on our badge-early 90's.

Did have a patient that stalked me and several other students-very scary stuff at the age of 20!!

otessa

Specializes in Med/Surg, Geriatrics.
Most of the MDs I know have unlisted phone numbers. There is a low possibility to have someone call you or send flowers to your home.

An obsession, fixation, etc. can occur from a patient or patient's visitors (family or friends) since we spend more than 12 hours a day with them. Since nurses spend more time in this situation we are more vulnerable than an MD and most nurses do NOT have unlisted phone numbers.

I would cover my last name up with tape if required to place my last name on my name badge.

otessa

Otessa, did you know a patient has a right to know who is providing their care? If they want to know who you are, all they have to do is call nursing services and ask who their nurse was; the front office would tell them and not even give you a heads up that they gave out the info. They could also request their medical records and get the information, so really all the cloak and dagger is pointless.