Take this job and shove it, I ain't working here no more! - page 3

by Blue Roses 15,622 Views | 63 Comments

That was me three weeks ago. Since then, I have sought help in counseling, have started medication through my doctor, applied for several jobs, and have gotten a few job offers. TODAY, I accepted a job offer at an inpatient... Read More


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    Congratulations, Blue Roses. I'm happy for you. I mean it. I hope you continue to enjoy your new job, and also I hope your letter helps your buddies at your previous hospital eventually
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    Quote from imintrouble
    I'm glad that you're no longer miserable. However, it's never a good idea to burn any bridge, no matter how good it feels in that moment. You never know when you might need a reference. Nursing is a small community. Somebody knows somebody who worked somewhere and "isn't she the nurse who quit without notice?" I wouldn't have drafted a complaint letter to management either. They already know. That might sound defeatist to you, but it's just reality. You didn't just burn that bridge, you blew it up.
    Anyway, enjoy your new job. I'm glad it's worked out.

    Based on her story, she mentioned her boss has favorites and she wasn't one of them. A ”reference” can sometimes do more harm than good. At the end of the day, op made the right choice for her.
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    Quote from duskyjewel
    Crap like this is why nothing changes for the better. Someone finally has to have some balls, and I applaud Blue Roses for choosing to be that person.
    I posted the crap that duskyjewel is referring to.
    I've never quit without notice, no matter how awful the job. It might be a generational thing or an integrity thing.
    Do I owe the bad employer that consideration? No, but I do hold myself to a higher standard. The notice thing is not about them, it's about me.
    Believe me, sometimes it takes more "balls" to stay the two weeks, than to just not show up.

    As far as the letter of complaint, been there done that, and never do it again.
    Some things you just have to learn yourself.
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    Agree, a letter of complaint won't do a bit of good. Do people really think the higher ups don't know?

    And agree with:
    Quote from imintrouble
    Believe me, sometimes it takes more "balls" to stay the two weeks, than to just not show up.
    Great for the OP finding another job. But being unprofessional hurts you more than them. And if you truly believe that the higher ups don't know what's going on, do you think they're going to believe a letter from someone that quits without notice?
    GrnTea, ♪♫ in my ♥, MBARNBSN, and 1 other like this.
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    I have felt the need to quit before without notice. It was a dangerous job and I was sick of the lies. Sometimes enough is enough. There are other jobs out there. I give respect to the employers who treat me with respect.
    CloudySue, duskyjewel, anotherone, and 1 other like this.
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    I've also quit a job without notice. Didn't think I could go in again. Didn't think I had it in me. Looking back, I took the easy way out. I had another job lined up, but I should have given notice and worked it.
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    Since the thread has turned into didn't quit without notice concerns, I have a question-IF a person is affected by the issues that the OP described in her post 3 weeks earlier, tried FMLA, was denied because her NM was not receptive to the nurse, do you still think that someone should still ride it out for two weeks??? IMO if a person can fire you AT WILL, in this case in the OP's best interest, she needed to quit AT WILL for the sake of her health...I'm just curious if the will be a response to my question. I just don't understand where the fault lies within the OP's actions. The OP was in crisis mode, and in my opinion, staying for another two weeks would have been detrimental to the OP. And I fully understand the community that we work in. I have took another position at another hospital where the NM that hired me was friends with my previous nurse manager...she was and still is the president of the ENA of my state. We had a rough patch (not during the time I made the choice to switch jobs) and she gave me a good reference...on the other hand, I work (I'll say WORKED because today is my last day at this position, I'm starting a new job ) with an administrator who holds grudges...I went around her and was able to secure glowing references. She even sabotaged my annual review..and the review was for a new position as a RN, not my work as a LPN, yet still was upset at refusing to take an unsafe assignment-the patient's family was attempting to intimidate me, and have threatened my co workers numerous times. When the incident happened, I reduced my hours immediately after writing me up, and worked for another agency during that time...I ultimately returned to the job hence I'm leaving, and this time I did give her enough notice to start searching for people to hire to take my hours. I had heavy assignments up until this past week. But I took the high road, so my personal experience is to say I understand, but if the situation was worse like the OP's, I think I would've quit AT WILL.
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    Quote from xoemmylouox
    I have felt the need to quit before without notice. It was a dangerous job and I was sick of the lies. Sometimes enough is enough. There are other jobs out there. I give respect to the employers who treat me with respect.
    I agree with this point...and in this day and age, there are posts online where you can review your place of employment and let people know what they are going into...I looked up reviews for several organizations, including the organization I was hired at...I suggest anyone to do this if reviews are available...even interview people who work there.
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    Read everyone's interesting comments but felt one point wasn't addressed. In the physical, emotional and mental state Blue Roses was in she was a danger to her patients! Blue Roses this is not an insult so please don't take it that way--however the reality is in that state (lack of sleep, nutrition, depression, anxiety, fear etc) you could easily have hung the wrong med, missed an important symptom, or made an error in judgement that could have created a "reason to rescue" (thousands die in hospitals every year because of this-- created by understaffing and high acuity even with seasoned experienced nurses). As dishonorable as we feel leaving without notice is--in actuality she made have saved a life! Also please remember that she was actually a new grad---and the books are VERY different than the reality of nursing! Too often a new grads orientation consists of 2 weeks of general orientation (fire policies, 401K & benifits etc), with 4 weeks of following another nurse mentor. Then guess what--your on your own, keep up & don't screw up! I am an old nurse, yet in school again (always moving forward--besides the job requirements keep changing), and in a recent class the professor mentioned that the idea of new grads doing an internship or residency (like med students have to do) is gaining momentum. Not only do I agree with this idea but when speaking to another professor about it she said "back in the 60's every nurse had to do a year or orientation with different areas of the hospital, med-surg, L&D, psychiatry etc". In the new "business" of medicine hospitals expect nurses to have computer brains and robot bodies. Anyway, back to the subject, I have only left one job without notice in my 26 yr. career, and that was because staying was detrimental to my health, and would not have improved or helped my employer in anyway. Though I walked away feeling quilty, in looking back I feel cutting the cord quickly & cleanly was the best for all concerned. Our motto has always been "to do no harm" which in Blue Roses case is exactly what she did. Good luck; noturmaid
    Orange Tree, CloudySue, duskyjewel, and 2 others like this.
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    OP I'm so glad that you've moved on from this toxic job situation. I wish you the best of luck in your new job and in your nursing career!
    hecallsmeDuchess and anotherone like this.


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