Someone at work is trying to get me FIRED !

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:crying2: . I will try my best to make it short: I work as a CNA in the health room at a school, and for some reason a co-worker is out to get me. She wrote up a list of complaints and gave them to the person at the top of the Chain. Normally if someone has a complaint they will come to your boss first, however she went straight to my Boss's Boss to complain about me. Another person who has supervision over me is the principal... she even bypassed the principal. To make matters work, the person at the top of the chain who is also my Boss's supervisor is friends with the co-worker making complaints about me. Here are the complaints:

1. I study at work. )My boss and the principal says thats okay for me to do, as long as I have my work completed. I NEVER put studying at work before my job)

2. I didn't take someones temp. when they complained of a stomach ach. ( I don't always take a temperature, especially when a student has hunger pangs, I usually send them to lunch and tell them if it continues, come back to the health room)

3. I allowed the custodian to change a students colthes. ( This is totally not True !, If it did happen I had no knowledge of it)

4. Students are left alone in the health room when I'm at lunch.( The aggreement is that if a child is throwing up or waiting to be picked up by a parent, they are allowed to rest in the health room, office staff( which is her) is supposed to keep an eye out on the sick child. I have a right to a DUTY FREE 1/2 lunch break)

It broke my heart to hear all of these silly complaints. Not only did she not follow the chain of command, but she is making up lies. Sometimes I feel like I'm walking on pins and needles at work. I love my job, yes its stressful working full time while in nursing school, but I have no choice. I always get my work done on time, and the students are my first priority. :redbeathe I have NO idea why this lady HATES me sooo much. She has no idea that I know about the complaints. So everyday I speak to her, smile, and act like nothing is wrong... but on the inside I'm torn. I'm always pleasant to her... She also is pleasant to me, however she's stabbing me in the back while smiling in my face. Sorry its long, I just need to Vent. :zzzzzBy the way My boss vouched for me and she told her Boss that she and the principal have no complaints against me. I thank God for such a wonderful Boss. :clown:

Specializes in Cardiac.

It could be that maybe she's envious of you. You have those people that don't want more for themselves and yet hate to see others actually taking steps to do what they believe would improve thier quality of life. Your working and going to school, alot of people couldn't handle this. You have a destiny and a plan for your life, keep your head up and don't let her get to you.

I wouldn't approach her, because if she has a nasty attitude things could turn ugly. I know it hurts when someone tells lies, but look at it this way, your just there temporary, while that might be it for her. Just keep in mind that your just passing through, on your way to becoming a wonderful nurse.:redbeathe

Good Luck:up:

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Specializes in Med Surg, Geriatrics, & Dialysis.

Hang in there. I think your coworker is a certifiable HATER. In other words she is jealous that you are in nursing school. Watch your back and keep on keepin on.

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Write down anything that happens with date,times and who was involved. This way you have something to show your boss if they come out of the blue again with anything that could risk your position there. Be sure to document what they do wrong,never know when you might need it.

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Specializes in LTC.

Thanks Everyone for the advice. I love every single one of you ! I feel very blessed that AN is like one BIG family. My boss did say that she will complain about the secretary's actions to her boss, later this month. Although, This lady has no Authority over me what so ever, I still need to be Civil. She also conducts payroll for every staff member in the school, so if things did get ugly she may make a "mistake" on my hours. I start my next semester soon, so I'm praying things between us will become normal again. I really don't need the extra stress while in school. Besides, I'm very non-confrontational person, I hate DRAMA. If and when I get a chance I will let her know how much she has hurt me. As for now, I'm going to continue to do my JOB. I graduate In July of this year, so prayfully I will pass the nursing program, so that I can get the heck outta there ! This is going to make me pray and study harder. I'm sure every job has its drama ,whether I will be a nurse or not, however... I'll be able to tolerate it alot more, because I'll be doing something that I love, and most likely be working 3 12's... But for now, I'll have to see this women 5 days a week for the next 6 months or so. sigh- Thanks again everyone, I feel so much better.

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I would ask your boss for a conference with the other person attending in order to clear the air. This is too much stress for you.

Your boss did you a disservice by telling you about this and insisting that you be quiet. If everything said was unfounded, she saw through the personal attack, and dismissed it as bunk, then she need not have told you. If there was validity to the complaints, then you deserved a formal performance counseling with the chance to defend yourself and develop a mutual plan of correction. She is contributing to a hostile workplace for you. You don't deserve the stress this is causing you. Make her clear the air. As it stands, if you were terminated down the road and any of these complaints came up as contributing to the loss of your job (stranger things have happened), you would feel awful because you didn't get to the bottom of all of this when you had the chance. To show your boss that you don't intend to be run over, I would present your request in writing. It will demonstrate that you take your employment seriously and will fight for your job.

And it does look like this other woman has some issues that are clouding her interpersonal relationships on the job. Maybe you could recommend to your boss that she suggest counseling for the troublemaker.

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I was just about to suggest that you do not discuss it with her anyway. (Why?) Some people get off on mess, if you let her know that you are bothered by her actions, the secretary wins.

Don't kill her with kindness because most of the time that doesn't work. Ignore the hell out of her, she's bored at her job and is probably jealous of you for pursuing something she wished she had the guts to do. It will not be the last incident, so look out.

Continue to do your job and keep a smile on your face, esp. when the secretary is around. Brag about how good your life is right now. For example: "I feel so blessed" "It's crazy cause I only have a year left in nursing school and I should be able to triple my income" "Make up all kinds of stuff" but never directly talk to her..

I agree that she is probably jealous of you and bored ,but I don't know if I'd go rubbing it in. Life has a way of lowering the boom on us and, just in case your dreams don't come true, you might want to resist bragging and trying to put her down.

Do watch your back. Get gone if it gets too stressful. Do NOT betray your own boss.

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Specializes in psych, addictions, hospice, education.

To add my two cents' worth: I think it would be reasonable to talk to your boss about this and tell the boss how you're feeling about it. Ask if it's possible to have a meeting between all who know about it, to clear the air. Don't talk to the problem-person by yourself about it because without a witness she could accuse you, to others, of things you didn't do or say. It's really difficult to dance around the elephant in the living room, if you know what I mean--and it doesn't help things either!

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Specializes in School Nursing, Pedi., Critical Care.

What would be the point of her turning in those complaints if you were not supposed to know? It sounds like this person probably has issues with more people than you. She is the one with issues. In the future if complaints from her come up again I would tell your boss that you would like a meeting with all 3 of you (or 4 of you).

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I agree that she is probably jealous of you and bored ,but I don't know if I'd go rubbing it in. Life has a way of lowering the boom on us and, just in case your dreams don't come true, you might want to resist bragging and trying to put her down.

Do watch your back. Get gone if it gets too stressful. Do NOT betray your own boss.

I never said to put her down, but just to appreciate & acknowledge a few good things that's going on in your life in her presence.

And besides, it's worked for me.

Trust me qbody at my job knows I don't have a mortgage, just give me a reason, I told them I don't have to be here, Lol!.....but

I'm humble believe it or not, I just do it as a LAST RESORT to irritate the hell out of people who are (bullies,jealous, RACIST, sexist, and ageist) You can't fight on a job, You shouldn't be confrontational, but you can let others get a glimpse of how good God has been to you. Let's choose the lesser of three evils so to speak...:wink2:

We come to work together, so let's work together...

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I never said to put her down, but just to appreciate & acknowledge a few good things that's going on in your life in her presence.

And besides, it's worked for me.

Trust me qbody at my job knows I don't have a mortgage, just give me a reason, I told them I don't have to be here, Lol!.....but

I'm humble believe it or not, I just do it as a LAST RESORT to irritate the hell out of people who are (bullies,jealous, RACIST, sexist, and ageist) You can't fight on a job, You shouldn't be confrontational, but you can let others get a glimpse of how good God has been to you. Let's choose the lesser of three evils so to speak...:wink2:

We come to work together, so let's work together...

For some people, life is really, really hard, really painful. It is very hard, maybe impossible, for some people to rejoice with others over the others' happiness. I have found it best to not share much at all at work, good or bad. I don't like people to be jealous of me. I really try to avoid discussions of my or others' personal lives because there is just so much potential for hurt, misunderstanding, and envy. There is enough to talk about regarding the job to keep us more than busy. Yes, I share little things, like if I had a flat tire or some other of life's tragedies. This is nothing to envy and no one thinks to ask if I was driving my Porsche or my Benz. :wink2:

They just know that poor Vito had a flat and had to change it in the pouring rain all by himself, manly stud that he is.:chuckle :chuckle

About God's goodness - I always think of 2 teams playing soccer, let's say, each side praying to win. What is He to do??? :confused: So is the loser hated of God? Is the winner beloved of Him? And there are so many times when we pray for things but they happen opposite of what we prayed for - like rain on the day of an outdoor wedding. Is God not good then? Or are we to say with Job, "Though He slay me, yet will I trust Him". And let's not forget that "All things work together for good to those that love Him". And I remember Corrie ten Boom who, along with her family, helped Jews during WW 2 in Holland and paid dearly for doing that. Yet, she was helping God's chosen people. So. The point is, of course, that we have to realize that God is good all the time, even when it doesn't feel like it.

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