So Very Sad - page 3

I am feeling so low today. Trouble on the job, boss soooo :devil:. Thinking I will just get out of Nursing altogether - if I ever regain the energy to figure out what else to do, LOL. Ever had... Read More

  1. by   lauralassie
    Hang in there, take a deep a breath and decide what you want to do. Maybe a new job is in order. Don't let the sup. get the best of you. I've seen posts by you before on this site. You seem very sensable and caring. Hope things work out for you soon. Consider yourself cyber huged. :redpinkhe
  2. by   epiphany
    Quote from mom2bears
    "kill them with kindness."

    does that ever work?
  3. by   SakredStrega
    Quote from epiphany
    Does that ever work?
    haha. I was wondering the same thing.
  4. by   UM Review RN
    I just made two moves in 8 months to get away from (1) a toxic environment, and (2) a unit that was genuinely a bad match for me.

    I was starting to get depressed for awhile there, when I was stuck and feeling like I couldn't do anything right.

    What a difference it makes to be where you want to be with people who are not trying to do you in!

    Trudy, maybe you should change units? Or change areas?
  5. by   pyrolady
    Huge shortage of nurses out there - shouldn't have any problem. I say walk (I just did...). Good luck !
  6. by   gitterbug
    Benefits can be frozen. Get some advice on money picture from someone you trust, weight the options, make the decision best for you and go forward with that decision. I would suggest some counselling for stress and a little prayer too. Seems like we older workers need to more and more of that these days. Good luck.
  7. by   lauralassie
    Just checking in on you :spin: to see if things are any better with a new day ?
  8. by   oramar
    Quote from TrudyRN
    Thanks for all the understanding and encouragement, guys! I have thought about leaving but really am trying to hang in and get that pension. I'm really close to achieving it. I am trying to figure out whether to reply or not to the ridiculous allegations leveled against me and what to say if I do. I fear making it worse but I should probably reply in some way, no matter what.



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    Many people in many diverse careers who are getting closer to retirement are reporting this kind of treatment. The public perception of the beloved older employee getting a retirement party and a gold watch was probably never accurate. Closer to the truth is that there benefits and pay scale is viewed with resentment by a employer who really does not want to pay them. In many cases they are just shown the door. If the employer fears age discrimination suits false charges and accusations will be leveled. Harassement and mental cruelity will be engaged in until employee quits. I am baby boomer and as many of my life long aquaintences and I approach a certain age we are starting to experience this. I got bad news for them, baby boomers never took anything laying down and we won't do it in retirement either.
  9. by   aKyRN81
    Quote from oramar
    Many people in many diverse careers who are getting closer to retirement are reporting this kind of treatment. The public perception of the beloved older employee getting a retirement party and a gold watch was probably never accurate. Closer to the truth is that there benefits and pay scale is viewed with resentment by a employer who really does not want to pay them. In many cases they are just shown the door. If the employer fears age discrimination suits false charges and accusations will be leveled. Harassement and mental cruelity will be engaged in until employee quits. I am baby boomer and as many of my life long aquaintences and I approach a certain age we are starting to experience this. I got bad news for them, baby boomers never took anything laying down and we won't do it in retirement either.

    This happens very frequently in hospital nursing. I experienced it to a degree, enough that I did leave, and at least 4 other experienced 'older' nurses I know personally left for the above mentioned reasons. Often it will follow a medical leave or similar time off, when the person returns, "there is just no position left for you, sorry". Very sad. Interestingly enough there was a drive on to get magnet status at the time. Maybe the two weren't linked but the timing was interesting....
  10. by   oramar
    Quote from aKyRN81
    This happens very frequently in hospital nursing. I experienced it to a degree, enough that I did leave, and at least 4 other experienced 'older' nurses I know personally left for the above mentioned reasons. Often it will follow a medical leave or similar time off, when the person returns, "there is just no position left for you, sorry". Very sad. Interestingly enough there was a drive on to get magnet status at the time. Maybe the two weren't linked but the timing was interesting....
    I came upon a very good NA with 30 years in institution and she was sobbing. This is what had her upset. Her unit had been shut down and all staff had to apply for other positions. She interviewed with a certain manager and she claimed he said, "You have 4 weeks vacation and many hours sick time due to your senority. Also, your years of service would put you in position to have first dibs on vacation slots, that would cause a revolt with my current staff. I can't offer you a position". They nurse aid was forced to go into float pool.
  11. by   anne74
    Seriously - think about if it's just a one-time thing, or if it's a pattern that will never change. If it's a pattern, then just leave.

    I left a very hostile unit, and I'm so glad I did. I realized that if I stayed in that environment, I would become so bitter and burned out that I'd leave nursing altogether. (Which I think is a big reason why we have so many bitter nurses - they didn't leave or move somewhere else when they should have!)

    Now that I've moved, my life is so much better - even outside the hospital.

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