Public Breastfeeding - page 14

In a discussion I had with my brother in law today (who is a future nurse!), I learned he is uncomfortable with public breastfeeding unless there is a blanket involved. I know some folks wouldn't... Read More

  1. by   Marie_LPN, RN
    And quite a few in agreement with breastfeeding in public might say that feeding their child is quite essential.
  2. by   Marie_LPN, RN
    Secondly, the women in the photo actually are physically and aesthetically appealing. Again, not all BF mothers are and I'd rather not see their breasts!!
    Which is an opinion, not fact.

    Breastfeeding is not a contest on who looks better. I wouldn't be one to do it in public, that's just me, but i always understand the entire "don't like it don't look" stance. So if people don't want to see it, DON'T LOOK AT IT!

  3. by   gypsyatheart
    [quote=Q.]
    Quote from Q.


    The difference is that if I went to Applebee's Restaurant or out to go Christmas shopping at Toys R Us, I wouldn't be seeing your first photo. (especially here where it's only 5 degrees!)

    I'm sure we'd all agree that the first photo reveals too much for our taste in a general environment. It still doesn't negate the premise that breasts and genitals are private areas not really meant to be pubically displayed, at least in our culture.

    Secondly, the women in the photo actually are physically and aesthetically appealing. Again, not all BF mothers are and I'd rather not see their breasts!!
    OK, I'm sorry, but this post makes no sense at all. I don't know about you, but where I live (and have ever lived, and every time I turn on the TV), I can fully well expect to see some scantily clad woman w/her boobs hanging out. Or partially, anyway.
    Plus your comment that the models wearing skimpy bikinis are attractive so that makes it OK, but BF'ing moms aren't attractive so then it's a problem.....? Come on, I think it's obvious, you yourself simply have a problem w/women bf'ing in public. So what? Just fess up, bottom line is, it's your hang up, and your gonna have to deal w/it.

    The problem is, IMO, our hyper-sexed, youth crazed society....our shallow American culture does not want to recognize a woman's breast as the only natural nutrient/nourishment for her child. Unfortunately, our culture is obsessed w/sex and the media and people who set the trends are not interested in changing that....
    Last edit by gypsyatheart on Dec 19, '05
  4. by   Marie_LPN, RN
    I'm sorry, i just cannot believe attractiveness is even a FACTOR in whether breastfeeding is allowed.

    Gee, i wonder, are the 20 somethings more welcomed to the world of breastfeeding than the 40 somethings, if "appeal" is a factor???
  5. by   grimmy
    [quote=q.]
    Quote from ob_or_nicu_hopeful

    i'm sure we'd all agree that the first photo reveals too much for our taste in a general environment. it still doesn't negate the premise that breasts and genitals are private areas not really meant to be pubically displayed, at least in our culture.

    secondly, the women in the photo actually are physically and aesthetically appealing. again, not all bf mothers are and i'd rather not see their breasts!!

    [font="book antiqua"]this is your opinion, and i do not share it. for me, any clean and self-respecting mother who has a hungry baby and chooses to feed it promptly is appealing. for me, i'm not hung up on appearances. as for the bikini-clad women, if that's their choice, go for it. while i do find it somewhat disconcerting that some women find their sole value in their appearance, i'm not going to dictate my likes and dislikes. certainly there is a measure of community appropriateness, but in general, if someone wears a bikini to the mall, i'd be surprised, but i wouldn't think less of them for it. nakedness is just what it is, neither good nor bad. your notions of "what is meant to be shown in public," and "good taste," are strictly yours. it is presumptuous of you to expect that everyone shares your opinion. you haven't cornered the market on what is "good taste."
  6. by   Marie_LPN, RN
    Edited.

    I really do not understand the judgments for what is appealing, and what is not, considering in the nurses' world, the perfect (by opinion) body does not exist.

    I'm certainly not holding the nursing world to a higher standard, however, i would at least think it would provide a realistic view of the human body: that it's not all about attractiveness, sex, and whether something or somethings hang low, or they sway to and fro. :stone
    Last edit by Marie_LPN, RN on Dec 19, '05
  7. by   Marie_LPN, RN
    [font=book antiqua]
    [font=book antiqua]while i do find it somewhat disconcerting that some women find their sole value in their appearance

    [font=book antiqua]
    [font=book antiqua]that bothers me, too.
  8. by   OB_or_NICU_hopeful
    I just want to clarify that some of the quotes are wrongfully being referenced to my username.......
  9. by   ayndim
    Quote from Q.
    Secondly, the women in the photo actually are physically and aesthetically appealing. Again, not all BF mothers are and I'd rather not see their breasts!!

    Where is the mouth agape smile. So it is okay for bf moms who have great breasts to do so in public? But if your breasts are sagging and ugly, you need to nurse in private. Guess what!!! If you don't want to see ugly, sagging breast 1) don't look and 2) don't have kids.
  10. by   ayndim
    Quote from OB_or_NICU_hopeful
    I just want to clarify that some of the quotes are wrongfully being referenced to my username.......

    I think it is the way Q's original post was. I had to go back and change my quote to take your name out of it.
  11. by   wannabemw
    Okay I have just got to comment... LLL & bf supporter & advocate...

    1. It's sad that we EVEN have to have a law to ALLOW mothers to feed their babies in the method that our bodies have been designed for
    (& I live in Vegas... pp can be awful here!) I personally have bfed everywhere to make others aware that it is okay to nurse in public right fr the start w/baby #1. I guess I was good at it... no one ever said a wd .. even when I nursed #3 @ 3y old ...in WA State great st for bf!

    2. Your NOT supporting a breastfeeding's mother's right to breastfeed can SERIOUSLY undermind her ability to breastfeed (dads/future dads, family members:THIS MEANS YOU!)

    3. If you would like to support a woman's right to breastfed just tell her how beautiful/ wonderful you think it is that she's nursing... she will beam! (or smile a great big smile & give her a loving glance)

    4. Please don't ask me to go to the bathroom to feed my baby...
    Funny story: I once was in a Hooter's Restaurant & oddly made this choice why??? I was worried about gawking I guess?! It took someone telling me to go & sit where I was most comfortable! This was baby # 3 too! :imbar I'm embarrassed now!

    5. If you are a new mom ask dad (or friend/family member) to tell you if they can see anything when you r bfing (or look in the mirror, we are our own worst critics. As nurses we can also help mom to learn this technique.. but w/a new mom just getting baby latched on is the main goal...

    Wonderful post... I am SO EXCITED TO SEE SO MANY +++++++
    ~MJ
  12. by   babynurse2001
    Quote from Q.
    Secondly, the women in the photo actually are physically and aesthetically appealing. Again, not all BF mothers are and I'd rather not see their breasts!!
    My mouth is hanging open, I can't believe you just said this! So if I'm cute and perky then you wouldn't mind if I nursed my child in front of you but if I'm a bit saggy and overweight you'd rather I hide so as not to offend you? Who's offending whom here?
  13. by   Q.
    Quote from moondancer

    OK, I'm sorry, but this post makes no sense at all. I don't know about you, but where I live (and have ever lived, and every time I turn on the TV), I can fully well expect to see some scantily clad woman w/her boobs hanging out. Or partially, anyway.
    Absolutely. However, are we talking TV or real life here? I thought the issue was BFing women IN PUBLIC, not on TV. So I'm sorry to me, your post makes absolutely no sense.

    Plus your comment that the models wearing skimpy bikinis are attractive so that makes it OK, but BF'ing moms aren't attractive so then it's a problem.....? Come on, I think it's obvious, you yourself simply have a problem w/women bf'ing in public. So what? Just fess up, bottom line is, it's your hang up, and your gonna have to deal w/it.
    Okay, when I posted I was in a "mood" a playful one at that. It's obvious that my comment was taken waaaaaayyyyyyyy out of proportion when it was meant to be tongue in cheek. No different than this from 12 pages or so back from someone OTHER than me:
    I don't think overweight men should wear tight Speedos at the beach. Do I get to tell them to change into boxer type trunks?
    So for those I offended, I apologize.
    As far as your conclusion that I have a problem with BFing in public, again, that makes absolutely no sense when I have BF in public myself. My "hang up" as you described, is not BFing per se but women who are INdiscreet. Period. If that's my hang up, then so be it. I'll live with it. But guess what? I can support BFing and do it myself but be discreet about it. Those two concepts CAN coexist.

    That's my story and I'm sticking to it.
    Last edit by Q. on Dec 19, '05

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