Personal Experience after Many Years as a Nurse - page 2

by pblottRN 11,189 Views | 66 Comments

Iíve just recently lost my son (17) after a freak accident where he was playing a pickup game of football during baseball practice (to get in their conditioning/running/exercise instead of just running laps, etc) and he went back... Read More


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    I am so sorry for your loss. You did an amazing job of advocating for your son. Losing a child is any parent's worst nightmare. I pray for you and your family. May peace be with you,
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    Quote from rn undisclosed name
    I would love to have seen the article but it appears it was removed.
    There was no link to an article that was removed. The OP is referring to her post here on allnurses describing the events as an article.
    Last edit by JustBeachyNurse on Apr 6, '13
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    I am so, so sorry for your loss. There are no words. You sound like you are an amazing mother and I'm sure that your son is thanking you for that.
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    Dear fellow RN and mom,

    I'm so sorry for your experience. It was as traumatic as any mom could every face with her child. I'm so, so sorry. I lost my dad a little over a month ago (asthma attack, coded 11 times) and he was also on life support for 3 days and we decided to donate his organs. It is one thing to be a nurse, another thing to be a mom or daughter or other family member. :-( It's a nightmare as you step from nurse to loved one and back again. It's hard and I have no words of advice but I wanted to just tell you I'm thinking of you right now, and sending thoughts from one RN to another.
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    I am so sorry for your loss. My condolences to you and your family.
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    I am so sorry for your loss. I cannot even imagine what you are going through. Please find a support group near you. Prayers to you and your family.
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    She wasn't looking for medical advice.

    My condolences.
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    Please know I love this article. Well written and informative, also heartbreaking. There isn't a nurse who reads this that doesn't know they could be in your shoes some day. Life is so unpredictable.

    In my experience (son also) the early stages of grief were spent reliving the horrific chain of events. Trying to figure out how there could have been a better outcome. I remember my brain just wouldn't stop. After a few months I had to put the alternate scenarios to bed. I realized I needed to focus on the huge loss, the pain and how I could go forward. The grief was like a steamer trunk that I would carry around all day, every day. I'd drag that thing everywhere. After another few months I realized it was more like a suitcase, still had to drag it around to hold all my anger, longing, sadness, pain. Eventually the "container" became more portable, like a small clutch bag I could easily carry and hide from view.

    Please be gentle on yourself. Please know that your child felt no pain because you intervened on his behalf. Please know that the donated organs will make another mother not go through the suffering you are going through right now.

    My friend in grief, I am so very sorry you have joined the bereaved mother ranks. I attended a support group monthly for the first five years and found much comfort and understanding there.

    I will be thinking of you as the days go forward. One foot in front of another, good days and bad days, forever changed.
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    Love and prayers to you.
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    I have no words to express the hurt in my heart for you and your family. I pray that God gives you comfort and strength.
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