Hi, I'm very new to the Forum and I've spent some time reading various threads on the subject I'm about to touch on. I've decided to post probably for my own reassurances, but also mainly to vent a little bit about a situation I am currently experiencing. I'm hoping some of the individuals here will be able to help me and let me know what I can reasonably expect in the future. I'm hoping for some of my fears and worries to be put to rest as well.
I am not studying to become a nurse; my girlfriend is. I'm studying to become a high school science teacher. I ultimately made this decision for the personal gratification that comes with teaching, but also because I wanted to have the time and the schedule to give the most to my future spouse and family. I believe teaching will allow this. I love my girlfriend with all of my heart and she intends to become a RN and work in a hospital here in New York. She's a very diligent student, and I was never really aware of the level of dedication required to do well in nursing school. That said, I've essentially been told that I will see very, very little of her for approximately the next three years (the time it will take her to finish the degree), at least. And possibly beyond. Needless to say, I'm incredibly concerned, a little hurt, and frankly a little frustrated.
That said, I would love to hear stories of members here with nursing careers who have been able to balance work and life; I would love to hear that you often see your spouses, spend good quality time together, perhaps even go out or on vacation here and there. Please let me know that it's possible to have a normal relationship, or married life with another individual and a career in nursing. I am sure that the two aren't mutually exclusive, but it currently feels that way a little bit now. Three years (or more) of a "Dear John" situation is a little tough to swallow right now even despite the fact that I love this woman quite a lot.
Thank you for your time and consideration. I really do appreciate any and all input from everyone who may choose to write a response. If you happen to include some unhappy information, that's okay too, I really do need to hear about all the possibilities I could resonably expect here.
And since I can't help but throw in a few emoticons:
Sep 11, '10
by Ashley_RN, BSN
I'm a recent new grad, June 2010, and even after going through NS still cannot understand how people think nursing school needs to be their entire life. I was a very good student (Deans list every semester, academic achievement awards, etc) and I never lost or hurt any of my friendships or my relationship (6yrs strong this December). I never understood the classmates that would constantly say that nursing school was their life and they had time for nothing else... that's crazy!!! Part of being successful, in my opinion, is being able to balance the two. For me personally, if I made NS my whole life, I would have went crazy... seriously. Everyone needs a balance, in everything. I believe giving myself the time to enjoy my bf, family & friends is truly what helped me succeed. Of course when it came down to it, I spent nights at libraries & maybe missed a couple of important events, as yes schoolwork does come first, but without the important relationships I gained support from, I wouldn't have been able to do it. As other posters have mentioned, being supportive of your gf is extremely important. When I wasn't able to spend the night relaxing with my bf, he simply said 'I understand, if there's anything I can do to make things easier for you let me know and I'll be right here waiting when you get the chance.' I love & appreciate him so much more for it. And here I am, about to begin a whole new journey when I begin my first job as an RN in 2 weeks but I know I'll find the time for him even if the stress is incredible, as he can calm my nerves (and maybe some wine
haha) But, I guess what I'm saying is let's be honest, we study ALOT and have alot to do in NS but there are not careplans/papers/tests, etc everyday... if you love her, you're willing to have an open mind, and able to totally support her... you guys will be fine.
Last edit by Ashley_RN on Sep 27, '10