Is Your Name Important? - page 2

For starters, I will reveal that I am an African-American female with a very common anglicized first and last name. I am also friendly with a small handful of nurse managers, staff development... Read More

  1. by   echoRNC711
    I like to joke around with my patient's a lot so sometimes I will say "My name is "Julie " but if you don't like me it's Mary ".

    Sometimes I will do the same thing if I'm standing with my manager who is name 'Carol" . In front of her I will say "My name is 'Julie' but if you don't like me it's Carol .Just remember ,I love to sing at Christmas "

    Seriously though I work in a hospital that has 104 languages spoken in a 10 mile radius. (which can be exhausting ) It usually takes me about 2 weeks to get the new co-workers name down pat. I long to work alongside a Tom, Joe, Michelle or Pat.
    Thankfully pt are forgiving and it is a continual source of amusement to them when I try to pronounce their names. Then after they have a laugh at me I usually follow it up with "Ah...there ya go...another grand Irish name "

    I got a call the other day from a pt who said her name was "Rdasha". I had never heard of it so I asked 'Is that spelled like it sounds?". "No" she replied "It is the letter R followed by a dash ('Like the dash key ' ) then an A . Spelled " R- A"
    Okay, I officially give up ! I have only just mastered that Xiang is pronounced 'Sho " . I'm either too old or rigid but "7", "apple""Tuesday" or "R-A " are probably not names that to me scream "Hire " .
  2. by   whichone'spink
    I like my name, because it's a name that I've seen used by multiple ethnic groups. My name is Indian, with Sanskrit origins, but I've met Israeli, Chinese, German, and Mexican women with my name.
  3. by   echoRNC711
    My son has an Irish first name followed by an Italian last name. For the sake of discussion make it Brian D'Angelo. He came home from kindergarten graduation rehearsal and said "They are saying my name wrong". I thought he meant the pronunciation and as I was used to that I didn't pay much more attention to it.That is until Graduation came and they called out "Brian O 'Connolly "with that our Brian got up marched over and collected his certs So, It seems no matter what your name is people take one look at you and make their own conclusions.
    Last edit by echoRNC711 on Oct 27, '12 : Reason: spelling
  4. by   IHeartNursing321
    I am Italian and my first name is definitely uncommon, Nella, but it's easy to pronounce. My last name, however, is not! People are always calling my chinchilla since it sounds that way
  5. by   NurseCard
    "If the name on your resume looks hard to pronounce and/or isn't gender-specific, it's quite plausible that a hiring manager might (consciously or not) reject it for that reason, alone (Pongo Blog, 2012). It does not stop there. Evidently, those with easy-to-pronounce names benefit from their name's pronounce-ability at work with more positive performance evaluations and higher status in the hierarchy (Paggi, n.d.)."

    Well, my daughter is doomed. However, I did give her a very common, pronounceable MIDDLE
    name and have even told her that she is welcome to start going by it, if she ever wants to.
    Not that *I'm* going to call her that. =)

    I myself have a boring first name; wish I had something more interesting.
  6. by   PalmHarborMom
    I have never had an issue with my name (Allison) but my husband has an unusual name. Many years ago, I had just started a job and after a few weeks brought some pictures of my daughter in to put on my desk. I kept seeing my coworkers going over to look at them and I thought they were just admiring my gorgeous daughter. Nope, later one of them told me "Hey, your daughter is white". And my reply, "Well, duh" The coworkers had wrongly assumed that my husband was black because his name is Durel. I guess that there are more African American men with that name than 40+ balding, white guys..... Who knew???

    With today's melting pot we will continue to have people of various races and ethnicity's that will borrow names from other cultures. Using a person's name to make assumptions is fast becoming a way to make oneself look foolish.
  7. by   ddunnrn
    I , also, am somewhat of a name nerd, too. My own name is very common for my generation (baby boomers) and is the same as one of the Kings of Israel. It means "beloved". The crux of my annoyance with some names is that some parents choose them for the "sound" and not the meaning. I am (allegedly) a caucasian male, but have been fortunate enough to have friends and acquaintances of all sorts of ethnic backgrounds, and some have unusual names. I feel concern for some of the children who are given names because the parent likes the phonetic sounds of the name (e.g. one child I knew named VaShae), but with no built-in clues of how to pronounce it. I also note the use of unnecessary and improperly used accents, apostrophes, and diacritical marks of all sorts: I once knew a young girl who was upset that the teacher couldn't pronounce her daughter's name at first sight--"Anybody knows that Roc(apostrophe)(capital K)iya spells "rockKEEya" " I'm sorry, but no, everybody doesn't know that. On the other hand, another friend named her daughter "Jamilah", which is of Arabic origin, and a very pretty name, meaning "beautiful". And then there are the names that are the result of miss-reading or miss-spelling, e.g. "Oprah" instead of "Orpah", and a football players name spelled "Laveranues" but pronounced "la-VERN-ee-us". I am concerned for the development of children who must always be defending their names, and who wonder why they can't find their name on a little license plate at the dollar store. But, as the Romans said, "De gustibus non disputandem est."
  8. by   joanna73
    I would agree that names may affect a candidate's application, dependent on the bias of the hiring manager. My name also would not reveal that I am biracial, which in my opinion, shouldn't matter one way or another. Interesting article.
  9. by   nurse2033
    Good article. I think it is incumbent on parents to give a good first name to their children. Obviously the last name usually isn't changed. But intentionally giving a "creative" first name that results in a lifetime's worth of headache is not good parenting. A name should be easy to use, and with a little thought it can be more individual than a common name.
  10. by   PolaBar
    I wonder if my name has had an effect on my career. I have a uniquely spelled name. People usually mispronounce and spell it. I didn't really consider until recently that it could be considered an "ethnic" name. I wonder if I spelled it a more common way if my job prospects would change. Something to think about, I guess.
  11. by   BlueDevil,DNP
    My parents did me a great favor by giving me a traditional, rather patrician name. It certainly hasn't hurt me. We did our children similar a kindness. No one will ever misspell or mispronounce it, or take them for the wrong gender. They will not be bullied or mocked due to their name. They will probably be the only one in their class, but not definitely. Simple, classic, elegant, straight forward. Not the least bit "trendeigh."
  12. by   meatballgirl
    I changed my name legally recently. I know what you mean. I changed an ethnic name to a very blank simple Western name. First and last. My new name bears no trace of my birth name. I like it. I feel so Marilyn Monroe. And I think it's brought me luck.

    Maybe I'll end up a movie star instead of a nurse...
  13. by   JustBeachyNurse
    My name is somewhat traditional and a simple spelling, yet it is commonly misspelled (lots of extra letters added) and mispronounced. Amazing since it's 4 letters and 2 sylables.

    My son's name is one syllable, 4 letters and is occasionally misspelled (hockey fans perfer the French version) or they change his name to a longer version when his name is stand alone. It's not like I named him Mike and people call him Michael.

    My brother & his wife (a femininzed masculine name) did a huge disservice to their 3 daughters, two have traditionally male first names/spellings (now more non gender specific but still have the masculine spelling) with "typical" middle names. His youngest daughter has an atypical first name and a normal middle name with a bizarro spelling (NO ONE can pronounce the poor kid's middle name).

    Sure it's great to be unique but really what are some people thinking (like my sister in law). I was sitting in a PTO meeting a couple of years ago, and we were preparing a list of boys & girls (different fliers were sent home as the sponsored event was gender relevant, I don't recall the event) but we couldn't guess what gender half the kindergarten class was based upon their names. It was rather frustrating.