If You've Ever Given Birth... - page 9

Okay, ladies...I have some questions here... I'm an OB nurse. I deliver babies for a living. I have never personally given birth or ever been pregnant. So here's my question....in all honesty,... Read More

  1. by   smk1
    I think it's normal to be scared of labor. However, once your 7 and 8 months pregnant you will find that you don't give a damn how painful labor is. All you want is the baby out and your body back! lol[/QUOTE]

    this is exactly how i felt. get it out now!
  2. by   SchoolNurseLisa
    I was given pitocin for 3 days and felt NOTHING. At 3pm on the 3rd day the Dr. decided to brake my water, after that the next 3 hours were awful, I had contractions that were on for 1 1/2 min and off for 20 sec. After those three hours the Dr. came in and said that I had only dialated to a 1/2 cm and asked if I wanted to try for an additional hour or do C-Sec. All I could think was get this out of me. I opted for the C-Section. I was given an epidural and was dumbstruck that I had no pain within 3 min. As bad as I feel my L&D was I know others have had it worse. But trust me, It is soooo worth it. I loved being pregnant, I could have stayed pregnant for 18 months. It was a wonderful time and now I have this beautiful 6 year old girl with a smart mouth that I would not trade for the world.
    Quote from shay
    Okay, ladies...I have some questions here...

    I'm an OB nurse. I deliver babies for a living. I have never personally given birth or ever been pregnant. So here's my question....in all honesty, what does labor really and truly FEEL like....other than painful?

    I mean, is it crushing, stabbing, ripping, aching, WHAT? I can't exactly ask my labor patients these kinds of questions...so I want to hear from you.

    Because I'm approaching 30, and although I want children very much, to be quite frank, labor scares the bejesus out of me...all of my friends, with the exception of ONE, had totally drug-free childbirth. I just want the lowdown....what does labor FEEL like???
  3. by   Mom2kids
    I loved being pregnant and loved giving birth. I would go through it all again...but I'm 99% sure we're done at 2 (going back to nursing school).
    I think it's all about tolerance. Everyone is different and certainly you know from working in L&D, the reaction/response is always different.

    I had 2 WONDERFUL experiences....

    My 1st child...actual labor (to me) was about 2 hours.
    I woke up around 7am with a stomache ache (dr's office said to come in to be checked since I was 3 days past due date).....it wasn't until about 10am that I started feeling real contractions (mind you it felt like bad menstrual cramps that lasted longer). By now I was in the Dr office and they were monitoring me to see if I was in active labor. THe NP examined me and I was 9cm and 80% effaced. SHe said the baby was coming quick and they would wheel me over to the hospital if I didn't want to deliver in the dr's office. I chose the hospital. By the time I got to L&D, I was having regular contractions now...definitely glad I took Lamaze --even though I couldn't remember ALL the techniques, I was able to have control over my breathing and that helped just to stay focused. No drugs - I went natural, 1-2 pushes and she was out. However I did need an episiotomy....I think that was the WORST part!!! I delivered at 12:18pm - 8lbs 9 oz I guess my stage 2 (i think it was stage 2)of labor was the quickest he's seen in his career -- roughly 10 minutes.I'm sure my stomache ache I experienced early in the morning was my "labor" however, to me it was just a stomache ache.

    My son...almost a similar experience. I was induced 2 weeks early -- my OB said he was concerned about me going into labor and not making it to the hospital. I was brought in at 10am and was 4 cm 70% effaced -- they broke my water at 12:30pm....contractions started within the hour. These were stronger than my 1st pregnancy -- more than a stomache ache. Around 3:30pm the contractions started being very sharp. The RN told me she could give me some stadol to "take the edge off" - I told her I wanted to stay as natural as possible...as I was terrified of getting an epidural. At 3:30pm I was 5-6cm...once the nurse gave me that stadol -- I guess my body was able to relax more because by 4pm I thought I was going to have a BM there was sooo much pressure.. I told my husband to get the nurse....she came in and FREAKED!!!!! The baby's head was coming out! Son was born at 4:08pm.

    Hope this gives you an idea.......it's really hard to tell what it will be like until you try. I wouldn't let the "pain" of having a baby deter you...it really is an awesome, amazing experience. The nurse I had (with my 2nd labor) was fabulous and I think in some small way, she plays a small part in me wanting to finish school and become an RN. Best of luck to you whatever you decide!!!
  4. by   txspadequeenRN
    Well I have had 5 babies all on the pit, all vaginal, and all w\o pain med. You want to know what a contraction feels like, well in the start a strong cramp. However it gets ugly after that, kinda feels like someone taking a knife and stabbing your uterus then cutting straight down, over and over . I remember feeling so out of controll every time one hit, I knew I couldnt stop it ( this was in the transition phase) . And once I had my last one with my last baby :hatparty: I remember thinking that is the last contraction I'll ever have.. Yeah yeah



    Quote from shay
    Okay, ladies...I have some questions here...

    I'm an OB nurse. I deliver babies for a living. I have never personally given birth or ever been pregnant. So here's my question....in all honesty, what does labor really and truly FEEL like....other than painful?

    I mean, is it crushing, stabbing, ripping, aching, WHAT? I can't exactly ask my labor patients these kinds of questions...so I want to hear from you.

    Because I'm approaching 30, and although I want children very much, to be quite frank, labor scares the bejesus out of me...all of my friends, with the exception of ONE, had totally drug-free childbirth. I just want the lowdown....what does labor FEEL like???
  5. by   Betty_SPN_KS
    Had 8, 6 at home. Think of strong, long cramps, with burning, aching, tightening, that keep coming and get stronger, longer, and more intense, requiring all of your attention. But everyone experiences labor and pain differently, and everyone's threshhold of pain is different. A mother is no less a mother if she has pain meds or a c-section.
  6. by   CarolineRn
    Quote from Betty_SPN_KS
    Had 8, 6 at home. Think of strong, long cramps, with burning, aching, tightening, that keep coming and get stronger, longer, and more intense, requiring all of your attention. But everyone experiences labor and pain differently, and everyone's threshhold of pain is different. A mother is no less a mother if she has pain meds or a c-section.
    Wow Betty!! All those children and you still managed to become a nurse? I bow down to your superior womaness! Hope all your kids are healthy, happy, and strong!
  7. by   CarolineRn
    Quote from shay
    Okay, ladies...I have some questions here...

    I'm an OB nurse. I deliver babies for a living. I have never personally given birth or ever been pregnant. So here's my question....in all honesty, what does labor really and truly FEEL like....other than painful?

    I mean, is it crushing, stabbing, ripping, aching, WHAT? I can't exactly ask my labor patients these kinds of questions...so I want to hear from you.

    Because I'm approaching 30, and although I want children very much, to be quite frank, labor scares the bejesus out of me...all of my friends, with the exception of ONE, had totally drug-free childbirth. I just want the lowdown....what does labor FEEL like???
    Shay, all the responses here should give you a good indication that labor and pain thresholds are different for everyone. I remember being scared out of my wits once I realized that they needed to induce labor (my H20 broke) and that I would soon be undergoing all that pain. But the pain is nothing compared to the ongoing fear and concern for your growing child that you will have for the rest of that child's days. MY sons are teens now, and their labors were relatively easy. I have a German "Frauline" stature, and am pretty big boned, I guess that may have had something to do with it.
    I had no drugs with either child, not even an epidural. The only pain that satnds out worse than the contractions (think the most intense growing menstral cramps that start rolling one on top of another) was when the first child's head passed through. (they didnt do an episotomy, and he ripped me) but in that split second, during all the pushing, I remember thinking, "I am being ripped apart!" the next second, the feeling was like a fish or something sliding out of me. weird. He was a preemie though, and they took him right away from me. I started to hemmorhage, and passed out. Then they gave me drugs (which I kept asking for during labor, but they withheld) and I passed out again. Finally saw my son for the first time four days later when they let me out of the hospital and I was able to make it to the Allchildren's NICU unit. (where they had flown him, as he hadn't yet developed surfactant, and required a respirator) He only weighed 4.8 ounces, which was large for his gestational age, but now he is 6 feet 6 inches, and weighs 195 lbs!
    The second son was a breeze after that. No complications, and I swear he was screaming as soon as his head was out, but body still inside! (is that possible, OB nurses?)
  8. by   mjbsn2006
    Epidurals were my very best friends through two births. Unfortunately, I went through 22 hrs of labor(epidural in the 20th hr.) with the first to find out I needed a C-section. I seriously thought I was going to die. I had a spinal w/ the scheduled C-section for the 2nd( NO PAIN!!). At first i though it was a curse having to have surgery, but I soon figured out how blessed I really was. I praise anyone who goes through l&d with no pain meds, because I could never do it.



    Quote from veteranRN
    I was induced for 3 of my four children. Pitocin is H@#%!!!!! I had IV stadol with my first induction (16 hours total). One shot of IM Demerol with my second (3 hours total). Epidurals with my last two inductions. My last epidural I got a "hot spot" in my abdomen (a spot where I felt all the pain) Went straight for a tubal after that. My third child was 9# 3 1/2 oz. (I'm 5 foot tall). Had a 4th degree lac and that was the worst of anything. In the end ALL WORTH IT.

    Epidurals are your friend!!
  9. by   CarolineRn
    Quote from OBNURSEHEATHER
    OK, I already typed this once but it wouldn't post, so now you get the brief version!

    My entire labor (that I felt) was 3 hours and 4 minutes. I progressed very quickly and got absolutely ZIP for pain. But if you have to feel it, fast is good

    I had back labor. Contractions felt like extreme cramping/aching/twisting,tightening from mid back to my thighs. But with the end of each contraction was such heavenly relief! I even dozed off between them.

    Pushing was a relief also, but at the height of each contraction was a burning, ripping sensation. The only pain I remember feeling in my perineum. This was odd to me, as I thought this is where all the pain would be at. Whether the ripping was actual or just a sensation, I don't know. I did have an epis, and those are a b**ch, recovery wise. Do what you must to avoid them. With a labor as quick as mine, (or an 8 1/2 pounder) there was probably nothing I could have done.

    Even with all the vivid descriptions of pain here, it IS a pain you forget quickly. Otherwise we'd have a shrinking population!

    Heather
    Great post Heather! Pushing *is* a relief, and while I didn't get the episotomy I should have, being ripped apart made recovery a nightmare! I couldn't sit, stand, or even lay down comfortably for a coupld of weeks. I sat on sitz baths several times a day, and think I even developed hemmorhoids! It was such pain. If I wasn't on the sitz bath, I was in agony. Those things are really a relief. I thought I read somewhere recently that they have discouraged them in recent years, is that true? If so, they need to give episotomy/ripped moms some serious pain meds for the first couple weeks post delivery. But I feel even worse for the C-section moms. After my second birth, within hours I was walking around and feeling great, but my poor roomate who'd had a C-section was not so fortunate. I ended up doing things for her that the nurses didnt have time to do-- simple comfort measures. But I wasn't a nurse yet, but watching her in pain broke my heart. She couldnt even hold her baby, she was too weak and sore. Some girls I know now having their first babies claim they would rather have a C-section than deliver naturally, and that's a shame. They have no clue what kind of awful recovery they are wishing on themselves!
  10. by   LuckyLadybug
    I had quite a good experience. My water broke just a little so my labor did not progress they started the antibiotics and potocin early the next morning. About an hour or so into the potocin the contractions started to me they were like sharp pains kinda like menstrual cramps but not bad. They told me I would not have her until 2 in the afternoon, but she came an hour and half after the potocin was started 3 pushes and it was done if they were all like that I would have alot more kids. I didn't need any pain killers after I had her the doctor said I delivered like a 2nd time mom I was lucky.
  11. by   CarolineRn
    Quote from LDR_Nurse
    Dear Shay;
    From one OB nurse (who has never been pregnant) to another--what it apparently feels like passing through the birth canal is if you take fingers and put them in either side of your mouth and pull horizontally, that is supposed to simulate "the burn" of birth.
    LDR_Nurse
    LOL ! Kind of close, but magnify it x1000!!
  12. by   rdhdnrs
    Hi Shay,

    This is an interesting thread. How to explain the pain of labor? The most intense menstrual cramps you can imagine. The most burning of tissue being stretched...the mouth thing is pretty accurate. More pressure than you can ever think of. But then more joy than you ever had!!
    It is true that you forget the pain of labor. I think that is one of the great mysteries of mankind.
    However...........
    Get an epidural....Why not??? Do we ask people to undergo other painful procedures without adequate pain relief?? Do we think people ought to undergo "natural" appendectomies? Or "natural" cardiac surgery?
    Epidurals are much safer now than when they were "badmouthed" by labor coaches and childbirth educators.
    Lisa
  13. by   BittyBabyGrower
    I did not and will not forget that pain 8 year later....I literally had a vaginal C/S! :uhoh21: And I was pitted...that is the most evil molecule made by man! I am sure it was made by a man :chuckle

    I had an epidural when the pain got really bad and thankfully I had it last for a few hours after....whoooo boy! And you're right....pain relief is nothing to sneer at! I am a wimp and proud of it

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