I got myself in a sort of mess.... - page 3

Put all your feelings about homosexuality aside. Homophobes need not respond. Sorry, just had to say that, since that is not the issue. Anyway, we have a nurse who is male (boderline personality... Read More

  1. by   Sleepyeyes
    *groan* now ya sound like my husband.

    if i beat up all the people i had problems with at work during my career, they 'd hafta rename me Ali.
  2. by   teeituptom
    Ive had my share of fights and battles in this life. But I gotta admit it was more socially accpetable back in the olden days. Now I use a 4 Iron
  3. by   Pretzlgl
    Yep..report it before it goes any further. If not you, then who's next to receive his advances? The whole situation sucks, good luck with whatever you decide.
  4. by   BadBird
    I agree with the advise already given, harassment of any kind to anyone is not to be tolerated. Good luck with this dilema.
  5. by   canoehead
    Agree. Agree. Agree.

    I'm sending good thoughts your way. Imagine all of us standing behind you when you talk to him the next time saying "This is unacceptable!"
  6. by   Angel2
    I agree also. I am so sorry that this is happening to you.
    Our job is demanding enough without having someone you
    work with "demanding" sex too! It is not a gay or straight
    issue. It is an annoying issue. Warn him once, firmly. Tell
    him what you will do if it doesn't stop. Then, if he continues,
    report him. I am sure you are not the only one he's hit on
    in the course of his employment.
  7. by   DIPLOMATICRN4HIRE
    You had a thread before about "Is this sexual harrassment..".. Well guess what You have a clear cut case of it. How much more clearer to do you want it.... Do something about it now and make it swift and hard(no pun intended) You have expressed in more than one time that you were in No way interested. Other than physically doing something to this person to discourage it ,you have done nothing. Do something, You have allowed this person to make you uncomfortable at your job. Stop him in his tracts... Go straight to management . As far as his license Thats not your problem. If he gave to shyts about his license he wouldnt be in your face he would be doing patient care.
    Just my thoughts
    Zoe
  8. by   Just Angi
    You should report this joker before it goes any further. Remember Here you will receive love and support no matter what choice you make, but you do not have to be put through that at work. My advice--- Report it. If he is doing you this way he has probably done it to someone else. If he hasn't done it to anyone else, he may think that he can if you allow him to get away with it. Good luck with your decision.
  9. by   debRNo1


    YOU are not the one in the mess my friend HE IS !!!!!

    sexual orientation aside this is out and out sexual harassment.
    report him STAT to your supervisor and if you get no satisfaction or it god forbid makes matters worse just follow the chain of command up the ladder until you get the only acceptable result.
    this horny bozo MUST be on some sort of probation after "just getting" his rights to practice back ??!! most facilities have someone in a higher up position to handle workplace violence and harrassment and a zero tolerance for such things happening on the job.

    remember that you did nothing wrong, report him.

    good luck

    deb
  10. by   J. Tigana
    Report him. If he's done this to you he's done it to others. It's not exceptable behaviour.
  11. by   hoolahan
    Zoe, I think this is the same post, check the dates. ???

    3rd shift guy, any update on the situation?
  12. by   Nurse Izzy
    Hi! I was in a similar situation once, only the guy had been a friend and decided he had a crush. I'd asked him repeatedly to leave me alone and it got to the point that my boss even took note and asked him to leave me alone. One night, around 11pm, there is a knock on my door. I saw who it was and opened the door thinking something was wrong (he'd left me alone on the romantic front and we had a good working relationship at this point). He splashed a glass of water in my face and when I jumped back he stepped into my apartment. My best friend was staying over and she woke up (the guest bedroom was closest to the front door) to wonder what the heck was going on. Turns out his "prank" was meant innocently, thank goodness, and he was just trying to "impress" me with his spontaniety (sp?). Needless to say, the next morning I went directly to my boss and explained to her the situation. As soon as he got to work, she called him in and we had a meeting - she could have fired him then and there (which I didn't want - he is a good worker just rather immature related to relationships) but she gave me the option as to what to do. I told her and him that I just wanted to be left alone that I had no romantic interest in him (he even knew the guy I was dating). That was all it took - the threat of losing his job.

    My point here is that maybe you could work something out with your supervisor/manager that would be enough to scare this guy without actually costing him his license. It does need to be documented, however, to protect both you and him should anything ever happen again.

    Best of luck to you in making such a tough decision, but remember - it's you you have to protect.

    Elizabeth
  13. by   Nurse Izzy
    Hi! I was in a similar situation once, only the guy had been a friend and decided he had a crush. I'd asked him repeatedly to leave me alone and it got to the point that my boss even took note and asked him to leave me alone. One night, around 11pm, there is a knock on my door. I saw who it was and opened the door thinking something was wrong (he'd left me alone on the romantic front and we had a good working relationship at this point). He splashed a glass of water in my face and when I jumped back he stepped into my apartment. My best friend was staying over and she woke up (the guest bedroom was closest to the front door) to wonder what the heck was going on. Turns out his "prank" was meant innocently, thank goodness, and he was just trying to "impress" me with his spontaniety (sp?). Needless to say, the next morning I went directly to my boss and explained to her the situation. As soon as he got to work, she called him in and we had a meeting - she could have fired him then and there (which I didn't want - he is a good worker just rather immature related to relationships) but she gave me the option as to what to do. I told her and him that I just wanted to be left alone that I had no romantic interest in him (he even knew the guy I was dating). That was all it took - the threat of losing his job.

    My point here is that maybe you could work something out with your supervisor/manager that would be enough to scare this guy without actually costing him his license. It does need to be documented, however, to protect both you and him should anything ever happen again.

    Best of luck to you in making such a tough decision, but remember - it's you you have to protect.

    Elizabeth

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