Put all your feelings about homosexuality aside. Homophobes need not respond. Sorry, just had to say that, since that is not the issue.
Anyway, we have a nurse who is male (boderline personality and is probably a sex addict, that's my diagnosis) who just got his license back after loosing it when he transfered from one state to another and it they found he had a drunk driving conviction.
He has been flirting with me for quite a while. I've brushed him off and he and in no way have I encouraged him. He knows I'm happily in a monogamous relationship as I wearing a wedding ring and I have told him so many times.
Lately he has been more and more bold and sexual. Last night he asked me point blank "when are you going to give me some". I said "In your dreams...i.e. never".
I'm beginning to become uncomfortable with him. He just got his license and I'm reluctant to get him into trouble. But what if I keep telling him to lay off and he doesn't, if I report him it gets ugly and he may get fired, loose his license again. Perhaps I shouldn't care, since he's acting very inappropriately.
I'm going to look bad because I've let it go on for many months. He is a good nurse.
When you say "I got myself into a mess" == honey, this is NOT your fault that some idiot is coming on to you. You need to stop him; he obviously isn't getting the message.
Please don't feel guilty about stopping this behavior any way you can. This is why victims are so reluctant to come foward.
And also, how's your partner with all this? You have discussed it with him, haven't you?
Yep..report it before it goes any further. If not you, then who's next to receive his advances? The whole situation sucks, good luck with whatever you decide.
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You had a thread before about "Is this sexual harrassment..".. Well guess what You have a clear cut case of it. How much more clearer to do you want it.... Do something about it now and make it swift and hard(no pun intended) You have expressed in more than one time that you were in No way interested. Other than physically doing something to this person to discourage it ,you have done nothing. Do something, You have allowed this person to make you uncomfortable at your job. Stop him in his tracts... Go straight to management . As far as his license Thats not your problem. If he gave to shyts about his license he wouldnt be in your face he would be doing patient care.
You should report this joker before it goes any further. Remember Here you will receive love and support no matter what choice you make, but you do not have to be put through that at work. My advice--- Report it. If he is doing you this way he has probably done it to someone else. If he hasn't done it to anyone else, he may think that he can if you allow him to get away with it. Good luck with your decision.
YOU are not the one in the mess my friend HE IS !!!!!
sexual orientation aside this is out and out sexual harassment.
report him STAT to your supervisor and if you get no satisfaction or it god forbid makes matters worse just follow the chain of command up the ladder until you get the only acceptable result.
this horny bozo MUST be on some sort of probation after "just getting" his rights to practice back ??!! most facilities have someone in a higher up position to handle workplace violence and harrassment and a zero tolerance for such things happening on the job.
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3rd shiftguy--
When you say "I got myself into a mess" == honey, this is NOT your fault that some idiot is coming on to you. You need to stop him; he obviously isn't getting the message.
Please don't feel guilty about stopping this behavior any way you can. This is why victims are so reluctant to come foward.
And also, how's your partner with all this? You have discussed it with him, haven't you?