I ask for "nothing". - page 2

by CheesePotato

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When it comes to nursing, I respect the profession for what it is, what it has been, and where it is headed. Am I proud to be part of the profession? Sure, in a subtle, I'm proud my hair is long kind of way. I own no nursing... Read More


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    Thank you, thank you, thank you!! I always enjoy reading your musings and you never disappoint! A big AMEN!!!
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    Love this. Thank you, CheesePotato.
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    Good article, I couldn't agree more. I got a nice $1.49 tote bag from the hospital :-) On the same day I got sincere 'thank you' eye contact glance from the daughter of a dying patient. That's my recognition.
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    CP - Hands down, you have to be the best author on the board (and we are fortunate to have some really great authors!).

    I'm a DON in LTC and admittedly I struggle with your article and the own self reflection it brings. I didn't just land in this management seat. It took 25 years to get here starting with a nurses aide to LPN to RN to management to DON. I don't disagree with anything you've said but I do wish to point out that most nurse managers have little to nothing to do with the patient care ratios. In fact most are told (at least in my world) "Here is your staffing budget. Make it work or we will find someone who can". I make it work because I still firmly believe that despite questionable staffing ratios, I still have a lot to offer the staff in terms of understanding their struggles as well as offering a hand. I like to think of myself as the kind of manager lucky enough to have staff that wants to be on my team - and this was recently validated when many moved with me to my job.

    Shamefully? I have planned the catered in lunch as you describe for later in the week. I debated doing this but as a manager I feel like damned if I do and damned if I don't. As surely as there will be those that will scorn my attempts, there would be those that would scorn me if I made no attempt at all. What is a manager to do!? It really becomes a no win situation....but for those that come and choose to enjoy - I have great food planned (once in afternoon and again at night time shift change).

    To stop babbling now, I'd just like to say....I can't wait for these kids to get out of college so I can just return to the ranks of an Indian and give up the chief job. Most days it seems I get no thanks at all.
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    Thanks for posting. I always maintain that nurses day seems to be like a wilted bunch of flowers offered in an abusive relationship. I don't want nurses day, I just want safe working conditions for myself and fellow staff members.

    If the working conditions were all right...........why would you even need nurses day/week?
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    To those that took the time to read and comment, I thank you, truly.



    Dear Nascar Nurse--

    First of all, I think I may have blushed myself stupid with your compliment. It is too kind.

    Secondly, may I just say you sound like a conscientious manager, one who genuinely makes effort to relate, to empathize and to support your staff. That is a gift. A rare trait not commonly found in managers.

    And heavens yes, you are stuck between a rock and a hard place when it comes to dealing with upper management who does have control over ratios, expectations, and budget, and the staff that feel the weight of those decisions and blame you for upper level choices.

    After all, anyone can follow, but not anyone can lead.

    I don't envy you. Not in the least. But is it fair to say that I may envy your staff just a little?

    ~~CP~~

    P.S.

    I know there are spelling errors, but I'm typing one handed as Kid is being a wild child and demanding that mommy throw the ball right now Now NOW!!

    So yeah. Good dog.
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    Cheesepotato, nascar is right- your my favorite poster! Every time I see an article from you I think "Oooh! Gotta read that!".

    You've got definite numchuk skills.
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    Quote from Nascar nurse
    Shamefully? I have planned the catered in lunch as you describe for later in the week. I debated doing this but as a manager I feel like damned if I do and damned if I don't. As surely as there will be those that will scorn my attempts, there would be those that would scorn me if I made no attempt at all.
    This is probably true for some, but may I say that a good, supportive leader (as you sound like you are) doesn't mean that you don't cater in a lunch, it just means that you ALSO support your nurses the other 51 weeks of the year. It's only frustrating and offensive when you get a guilt-lunch from someone who offers you no consideration any other time.

    Speaking of lunch.....neither my hospital nor physician group has brought my unit lunch yet. :/ Somebody save me a sandwich?
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    Quote from Janey496
    This is probably true for some, but may I say that a good, supportive leader (as you sound like you are) doesn't mean that you don't cater in a lunch, it just means that you ALSO support your nurses the other 51 weeks of the year. It's only frustrating and offensive when you get a guilt-lunch from someone who offers you no consideration any other time.

    Speaking of lunch.....neither my hospital nor physician group has brought my unit lunch yet. :/ Somebody save me a sandwich?
    We had cake in our break room. Want some?
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    Quote from NurseDirtyBird
    We had cake in our break room. Want some?
    YES. I am always down for cake and donuts!
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