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Hi guys. I have a rather complicated story, but i'll make it short and sweet. I recently graduated with my BSN (just applied for the masters program :specs:) and just started seeing a neurologist for migraine/tension type headaches. However, when I first saw my doctor, I was blown away by him, but I would remain professional due to HIPAA and medical ethics codes. In a span of a month, I had seen him for routine appointments 5 times (I thought that was a little much). At my last appointment, he had asked if I would want a CRNP job working for him. But the way he asked made me get to thinking. First he called me from the exam room to his office, very professional. But once I got there, he pulled out "the doctors" chair for me to sit in, and he sat on the corner of his desk facing me to ask. So in my opinion, he was trying to "hit" on me, because he also knows that I just graduated and don't have my CRNP yet, not even close. I decline the offer, stating that I am happy where I am, but am very flattered. To end the story, my medication was doing fine, and he wanted to see me again in 3 weeks, and only wrote a month script for it. Got me thinking again. Last week, I was working out and saw him at my gym, and we exchanged looks, but kept it professional. He called to check in on me to make sure I wasn't having any worsening headaches, and I mentioned seeing him, and he wanted to work out next time we saw each other at the gym. So, from other nurse's insight, is he keeping just a professional relationship or wants more than that? I don't want to switch MD's if I don't have to. Any ideas on how to see if he wants to go out? :heartbeat

Specializes in psych. rehab nursing, float pool.
If they are cute, & friendly, and you're both single why not?

It is because he could actually lose his license for dating a patient. That is why.

Specializes in Hospice.

And because any doc who hits on a patient is pretty iffy in the personal integrity department, IMHO.

Specializes in PACU, ED.
Actually, it's against both medical and nursing code of ethics to care professionally for a family member or someone with whom you have a strong emotional relationship. The theory is that you would not be able to maintain professional objectivity and would likely have impaired judgement in that situation.

While it's discouraged I can't find anything that prohibits a doctor from providing care for a family member.

Many medical societies have policies on whether doctors should treat their families and significant others. For example, the College's "Ethics Manual" strongly discourages, but does not prohibit, physicians from treating family members, limiting such situations to those of necessity and cautioning that the patient be transferred to the care of another physician as soon as practical. (5) The AMA has a similar position regarding immediate family members. It adds that there are situations in which family members can provide routine care for short-term, "minor" problems. (6) No examples are cited, however, and this exception could swallow the rule. The AMA does specify that doctors should write prescriptions for controlled substances for themselves or immediate family members only in emergencies. (6) And in its position, the Canadian Medical Association says that treatment of family members should be limited to minor or emergency care or instances when another physician is not available.

Source: http://www.acpinternist.org/archives/1999/01/relative.htm

If a man is interested enough, he will ask you out.

Let him invest his time and effort.

Specializes in psych. rehab nursing, float pool.

As to providing care of a family member. Yes last year I believe it was the AMA sent out to all doctors that unless you had a full medical file on someone who was related their was a $10,000.00 fine. My darlin got this notice. That was when he quit even for the kids and grandchildren prescribing antibiotics for them.. I will look and see if I can find a link for the info if you want.

needless to say, with all of my worrying and trying to find ways to ask him out--he was straight to the point at my appt, said he found me gorgeous, asked me to switch physicians, and got my number. :) :)

Thats great news! Go for it if it seems right to you! Keep us posted.

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I know this post is almost a yr old, but glad I found it. New Lil - glad to hear things worked out for you last May! I've been trying to find info on this topic, having a similar situation. I've been consulting with a physician that I've had a professional working relationship over the past few years. I was an "outside vendor" you could say when I came in contact with him multiple times over the past 3-5 years. Now I've consulted him for a not-so-serious med problem, and have visited him about 4 times over the past 6 mos. I'm not sure, but sense that he's very attracted to me, and I began wondering if an RN had a professional relationship with the MD FIRST - would he be barred from asking me out, since he's been functionning as my specialty physician lately? I would never consider asking him, but really wonder how the rules would apply if he were truly interested in me? HELP!! (lol). Last meeting with him, he for some reason maintained continuous eye-to-eye contact while talking w/me for 15+ minutes, and I only looked away briefly! Not sure how to interpret that.

I was in a similar situation once w/ a doc, as a patient. It was truly weird for me and my brain didn't even want to make sense out of what was happening at the time. Lol. A well-known doctor and much older than I.

If I had to continue seeing him & did, I'm not sure if he would have said something more, but it felt like the day was coming.

Was waiting to see what HIS next moves would be, but the situation was a lil different, not a man around my age I was exactly interested in, but still a very good & harmless man, lonely, busy doctor, very sweet & helpful.

I would give it some more time to wait & see what he may say or do, if you are truly interested, but that's just me. ;)

You got to go with what your gut tells you to go with sometimes, and if you think you can deal well with what may (or may not) happen, go with what you feel you should do.

I myself just tend to err more on the side of caution.

Thanks pixi - I would never think of making a move on my own, other than going along w/his eyeball flirting techniques! I just can't help wondering if he's interested! He told me that I looked really great the last time he saw me - but that could be w/anyone.

Thanks pixi - I would never think of making a move on my own, other than going along w/his eyeball flirting techniques! I just can't help wondering if he's interested! He told me that I looked really great the last time he saw me - but that could be w/anyone.

Eyeball flirting techniques?? What is that? Winking? Lol... are ya sure there wasn't anything on your face? That's why he was staring? Lol. If it were me, make friends first ... spend some time with him. Not 'friends with benefits,' if you enjoy each other's company. . . then let nature take it's course. If there's an attraction there, it'll happen and you might be pleasantly suprised. If you're looking for a romantic relationship, try being friends first. If there's an attraction, then defnitely upgrade the relationship. It's kinda hard not to, especially if you're both single.

Oh yea, one more thing... the best relationships usually start out through friendship. Sure, dating is fun but more often than not --- the more time you spend with people, 'dating' them... the more of a 'repellant' they become. Lol, I think I saw an episode (exactly on this topic) on either "Tyra" or "Oprah." Not sure... lol. :clown:

Doctors are just people and of course they will be attracted to nurses just like nurses will be attracted to doctors...I admit freely and without a shame that I have been attracted to other doctors and some doctors were attracted to me and it makes work fun and entertaining.

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