Date my Doctor/Employer?

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Hi guys. I have a rather complicated story, but i'll make it short and sweet. I recently graduated with my BSN (just applied for the masters program :specs:) and just started seeing a neurologist for migraine/tension type headaches. However, when I first saw my doctor, I was blown away by him, but I would remain professional due to HIPAA and medical ethics codes. In a span of a month, I had seen him for routine appointments 5 times (I thought that was a little much). At my last appointment, he had asked if I would want a CRNP job working for him. But the way he asked made me get to thinking. First he called me from the exam room to his office, very professional. But once I got there, he pulled out "the doctors" chair for me to sit in, and he sat on the corner of his desk facing me to ask. So in my opinion, he was trying to "hit" on me, because he also knows that I just graduated and don't have my CRNP yet, not even close. I decline the offer, stating that I am happy where I am, but am very flattered. To end the story, my medication was doing fine, and he wanted to see me again in 3 weeks, and only wrote a month script for it. Got me thinking again. Last week, I was working out and saw him at my gym, and we exchanged looks, but kept it professional. He called to check in on me to make sure I wasn't having any worsening headaches, and I mentioned seeing him, and he wanted to work out next time we saw each other at the gym. So, from other nurse's insight, is he keeping just a professional relationship or wants more than that? I don't want to switch MD's if I don't have to. Any ideas on how to see if he wants to go out? :heartbeat

I say go for it! He's a doctor for god sakes. He's educated and is going to make a lot of money.

So we should go for any doctors?

Specializes in Hospice.

Disclaimer: I'm a bit of an old faht and, while pretty liberal regarding adult consensual relationships, I'm definitely old school regarding professional conduct.

That being said, if this guy really is hinting around at asking you out, I think the red flags are flying high!

Think about it ... if he's that ethically challenged, is he really good dating, let alone marrying, material???

Specializes in Management, Emergency, Psych, Med Surg.

Never put your meat where you make your bread. If you go to work with this guy, do not have anything more that a professional relationship with him. If you don't go to work with this guy, you need to find out a little bit more about him. He sounds like he is interested but it is a violation of medical ethics standards for a physician to date a patient and he can be reported to the board of medicine for his actions. You should start looking for another doctor NOW. You need to run a computer check on this guy. I would bet he is married.

Specializes in PACU, ED.

Feralnostalgia,

I don't know of any reason why you couldn't take care of a family member, friend or loved one. However, it's considered unethical to date a patient or someone who has recently been a patient of yours. For more discussion, check out this thread on nurses dating patients.

https://allnurses.com/general-nursing-discussion/dating-patients-89949.html

Specializes in trauma, ortho, burns, plastic surgery.

But for what reason to date with him???? Date means emotional probable involvment, ups... now just you know what you want, lool. he, he, he is too complicated, is easiest like a friend...."without benefits" loooool, so ask him for it... if you are alone he is alone, like friends is much than perfect.... and you will see... I had a lot of friends that NEVER will passed from the stage of very very very good friends (looool, a soo good friends than they came with me to my medical appointmenst, lol). Soo my advice...start just like friends....you will see what life will offer you.... may be more or may be he will stay just as a friend!

I have a lot of stories about why a friend not become a lover, looool. Just try it!

Fuuny.

A guy smiles and is pleasant to a female and he is accused of being a Playboy.

One Day I was in a Doctor office waiting to see my doctor, and I started up a conversation with a woman in the room, I just passed some pleasant exchanges like. How are you doing, and nice weather outside. Next thing I know she say "I am Married"

Funny to me how Man and Woman can interpert things.......

Specializes in Hospice.
Feralnostalgia,

I don't know of any reason why you couldn't take care of a family member, friend or loved one. However, it's considered unethical to date a patient or someone who has recently been a patient of yours. For more discussion, check out this thread on nurses dating patients.

https://allnurses.com/general-nursing-discussion/dating-patients-89949.html

Actually, it's against both medical and nursing code of ethics to care professionally for a family member or someone with whom you have a strong emotional relationship. The theory is that you would not be able to maintain professional objectivity and would likely have impaired judgement in that situation.

Ask him out and see what he says.

Ask him out and see what he says.

Not Lady Like

Keep work and romance seperate

I have seen way too many problems arise from inter office love or relationships. That includes during the pre dating, During Dating, and after the break up

Specializes in psych. rehab nursing, float pool.

The Medical Quality Assurance Commission has instituted a rule that doctors can no longer date their patients. This rule has been enforced despite protests from lawyers and several doctors' groups. Since 1998, the board has received 160 complaints of sexual misconduct by doctors and physician assistants and says that almost 20 percent of the cases resulted in some disciplinary action being taken.

But the Commission says that the rule has been under consideration since the past six years and they felt that now was the right time to go ahead with the enforcement. Those who support this Bill say that it targets misbehavior that is just outside the realm of obvious sexual contact, but opponents maintain that the rule could be misused to unfairly strip licenses of qualified doctors.

State Department of Health spokesman Donn Moyer said that the measure was passed unanimously and that every doctor and physician assistant in the state will come under the scanner once the rule takes effect in about two months' time. The policy contains 11 prohibited acts, the violation of which would cost doctors their licenses. Besides sexual contact, the rules also forbid kissing in a romantic manner. Failure to allow privacy when the patient is undressing also comes under the rule. "This would create a bright line," board member Hampton Irwin said. "If they step over it, they know there will be consequences

Ok for all of those who say go ahead ask him, Remember this is her medical doctor. Now she is not liable for what he does , but I would hope to God he is smart enough to realize that he could lose his license.

Specializes in ER, IICU, PCU, PACU, EMS.

I had to reread the OPs post. From my understanding you only have a doctor/patient relationship and not a professional one since you do not work for him or with him.

I would try to find out what his intentions are.....if he's interested in dating then get a new doctor and date him if you are interested in him as a person. If he's not then decide if you want to continue seeing him strictly as a patient.

Either way the frequency of visits, if unnecessary, are costing you a lot in copays and gas!!! Jeez, he needs to ask you out on a date, so YOU can stop paying for it!!

So we should go for any doctors?

If they are cute, & friendly, and you're both single why not?

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