People think I am stupid - page 3

by nikkole318 | 19,070 Views | 74 Comments

I am a new nurse who just got off orientation a few weeks ago. I have worked at the hospital where I am for more than a year and was hired from a tech position to a nurse once I passed my boards. I thought everything would go... Read More


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    I am so sorry you are going thru this- I am not BULLYING YOU. But I want you to know something. I been there and Done that.
    U need to wake up and FIX whats happening. Watch ur back, Ur License and UR PATIENTS. As with all drama in hospitals, if you change your behavior, attitude and be confident but careful You will be ok.
    NURSES are biggest gossipers. Dont give them a reason to!! Seek counseling from a PROFESSIONAL- not other nurses at your work. and keep us posted.
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    I guess I can be the first to say "Good for you" for acknowledging that you may be part of the problem and looking for ways to fix it instead of blaming everyone else for "eating" you.I truly admire that-I imagine that just sitting down and writing that post took alot of effort. Counseling will help you immensly with your interpersonal problems,good luck....
    poppycat, justin.j, priorities2, and 1 other like this.
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    Sounds like you have some communication issues.....ADHD has been floated....ever give any thought to possibly having Aspergers?....not making a diagnosis, just something to think about....
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    Another thing of which you should be mindful is ~how~ you receive criticism for your mistakes.

    Throughout my career, I have genuinely sought out legitimate criticism for it's the only way to learn and grow.

    Perhaps you come off as defensive or unconcerned when people have tried to correct you; that could certainly explain some of what you describe.
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    Quote from NoviceRN10
    I hang antibiotics often not "piggyback." If the pt has no fluids running, we direct line the antibiotics and administer them that way. To me piggyback means via IV, not necessarily with another fluid. The same with other meds, they are either IV push or piggyback. I guess I don't get what you mean by your comment.
    A practice issue. Often nurses do run the antibiotic right in, others are taught to get the "entire" antibiotic into the patient, to piggyback into a line of fluid so there's a significant flush at the end of the infusion of the antibiotic. Things like vancomycin that relies on a vanc level, I was taught it was always prudent to do that piggy back. This is all assuming you are using a pump. In any event, this co-current thing is odd to me. Unless one is all nudgy about getting an order to stop fluids--if say patient is on NS at 100 an hour--and they do not want to stop it to infuse antibiotic without an order to do or the need to have fluids run co-currently with the antibiotic--which is seemingly wacked but anywho, have at it, but I think it is a nursing judgement/practice issue.

    What the OP is describing is not stupid, doesn't mean that she has a psych or ADHD issue--but seemingly is being led down the wrong path by those who are in "charge". However, OP, automatically assuming that people believe you to be stupid, lazy, etc. and you feel that you have a hard time making friends--this is something that CAN be dealt with--and will only benefit you to at least explore that with an open mind with a professional. Good luck!
    Last edit by jadelpn on Jan 3, '13
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    Not everyone is going to be "warm and fuzzy." That doesn't mean you have a personality clash with them. Take the example of the first nurse. If you wound up learning a lot from her, then that was good, right?

    Part of growing professionally is learning how to take a deep breath step up to the person you think/you know you have a problem with and ask "How can we fix this?" I've tried to disarm bullies by complimenting them, e.g., ""Hey, do you think you could show me how you do (insert skill)? I'd like to get better at doing it." This could be total BS, but if it smooths over some rough edges between you and another nurse(s), then it's worth it.

    You've identified that you have some problems. That puts you way ahead of many of your peers who lack the self-awareness to know that they have a hand in their difficulties. Ask for feedback, find a few nurses who can give you constructive criticism and keep an open mind. Don't confuse being told you did something wrong with being told you're a bad person.
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    ouch. firstly, i think you are confusing absentminded with stupid and different personalities with work enemies.

    i think also at this point you are broken down enough to be tricked into thinking anyone who has an itch they cant attend to at the moment is indeed making those awkward gestures toward you.

    that said... you need constructive criticism that you could only receive from people who know you well enough (good and bad) and who want you to succeed. i am surprised that seeing as you're a recent graduate no one has suggested you emailing/calling up prior nursing faculty that you had a good academic relationship with. you know which ones will be valuable to you. your success as a nurse reflects on their instruction and the schools reputation.

    i just graduated but i have already chatted with 3 former clinical instructors. one of which i didn't "like" very much, but i knew she would be honest. the other two i was just tossing ideas around with. my school heartily encourages alumni to come back and have a "real world day" where the teachers get the stick out of their tushies and stop with the nclex nonsense for a day and allow new grads to tell how awesome, horrible, surprising and whathaveyou their workplace is like.
    anyway, your instructors might have seen some curious behaviors and tendencies along the way. perhaps you could talk to them as two professionals, two RNs. there doesn't have to be that weird hierarchy.

    also, constantly missing little things and blowing them off as little is a slippery slope. you may not be so lucky next time with the allergy sticker. yes, there should be more than just a brightly colored sticker to be the barrier between you and full blown anaphylaxis, but you never know. hey, i know numerous former classmates that a bit of adderall and therapy helped them tons
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    Well let's see, in 26 posts you have been diagnosed with ADD, ADHD, and even Aspergers. It has also been determined you need professional counseling.

    Do you think your problem may be that at this point in your career you are unsure of yourself and this makes you timid?

    I have noticed that MANY new nurses keep their first job just long enough to get some experience, about a year, then they move to another job where they are not seen as an inept dumb***. Once someone gets that reputation it can take a very long time to shake it.
    ktwlpn, nikkole318, jtmarcy12, and 8 others like this.
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    I guess Stargazer is the only other person besides me here who knows about Zosyn (practically) continuous infusions? They have apparently decided that you don't have to be on it for as long if you run it in this slow manner over 4 hours instead of 100/hr q6 hours. You hook it up to its own primary and Y- it in, like you would potassium.

    If you have to run Zosyn at 25/hr for 4 hours, is that patient staying hydrated by that < 1 ounce an hour infusion while fluids are ordered to be running at 150? Yes most abx are piggybacked, but not always Zosyn.
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    I don't run my antibiotics with fluids. We piggy back them or use a syringe driver. Unless you the nurse has to reconstitute the antibiotic, they come already prepared. I also don't think you're stupid. You're a new grad who is learning, just like we all had to do. Furthermore, nursing is continuous learning, whether you're experienced or not. We all make mistakes.


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