*Desperately need some advice - I hate my new job* - page 2

I apologize in advance, this is a long one - but I would really appreciate some advise from anyone who might be able to offer it. I am a new nurse. Before graduating from school I was working as a... Read More

  1. by   FlorenceNtheMachine
    Advice, stick it out and be a big grown boring adult. You might love it, even that dream job will have the days where you want to puke. Tell your old manager, you feel obligated to serve at least 6 months in your new job before transferring, and then re-assess the situation after that time.

    I really feel for you, I have days where I want to cry and find a M-F 7-3 job, and damn everything else. But they pass. Like everything.
  2. by   enchantmentdis
    Sounds like the OP may be pregant, or suffering PMS? That may be the reason for the tears/vomiting. Or she may be "dramatic".
    Last edit by enchantmentdis on Mar 13, '13 : Reason: c
  3. by   BSNbeauty
    OP, I was in a similiar position not too long ago. I applied to a hospital for my "dream" job. The nurse recruiter said there were no openings in the floor I wanted to work on and offered me a position in the ED. While on orientation, I spoke to the NM for Post partum and told her about my passion to work on her unit. She told me to wait until my 6 months is up in the ED and put in for a transfer. I was so syked! I was like, sure I can make it 6 months in the ED. Well, I was wrong. It was a living HELL for me. Every night I was paranoid, scared, the pace was too fast, not knowing what was coming through the doors, having to deal with traumas, and violent alcoholics. I was done. I cried everyday. I felt guilty for feeling this way because I worked with such nice people. Everyone was great and helpful.
    However, after 30 days I left, and applied at another hospital and was hired into the specialty I originally wanted.
    I'm not advising you to quit, I think you should hang in there. Should you leave before being able transfer, just know that you are not the only one who has went that route.
    Keep us posted on what ever you decide.
  4. by   BSNbeauty
    I disagree. I've felt the same as her and no, I was not pregnant or suffering PMS. Everyone handles stress and anxiety differently.
  5. by   LadyFree28
    Quote from FlorenceNtheMachine
    I have days where I want to cry and find a M-F 7-3 job, and damn everything else. But they pass. Like everything.
    ^ Yes

    It takes at least 6 + months to get adjusted to any new setting. I absolutely LOVE my job, I have wanted to and have cried, including this week-total disaster this week. I know it will pass, and I know what it will take for it to pass.

    I have been in positions where I wanted to stay or get a certain position. I even had to leave a great job because they didn't hire LPNs. I went on to have a great career, learning many nursing disciplines before going back to get my BSN.

    Like another poster commented about internal happiness-
    If you are honestly happy being a nurse FIRST, I am sure, regardless of what specialty you work in, you will be able to be successful at your current position, and learn and expand your practice. Sometimes life also gives us the chance to learn something about who you truly are...you may think that your previous position was a "dream" but your niche and expertise is at this current position and unit, and may be a place that may make you stronger in your practice.

    You may return to your "dream" unit more prepared and have better skill sets, or on to bigger better things. Nursing can be very fluid. I can honestly say I am NO WHERE where I initially wanted to be, and enjoyed each "stop" that has made me a better nurse, even the bad days and the days with tears.
  6. by   LadyFree28
    Quote from Altra
    Did you work as a nurse while you & your husband had relocated? If so, that was not the *dream* unit with the *dream* manager, right? And yet you got through it.

    While I cannot possibly know whether or not strings will be pulled or rules will be bent to allow you to transfer to your desired unit quickly, I can confidently tell you one thing: you WILL be miserable every day that you work if you don't emotionally detach yourself from the dream and engage yourself fully in the work you're doing right now.

    And consider this, too: over time, people, unit structures, patient populations and hospital priorities evolve. The *dream* unit today may very well not be the dream unit 10 years from now. If your job satisfaction comes 100% from external factors ... you may find yourself perpetually or perennially dissatisfied.

    Good luck to you.
    ^ Yes!!!
  7. by   LadyFree28
    Quote from enchantmentdis
    Sounds like the OP may be pregant, or suffering PMS? That may be the reason for the tears/vomiting. Or she may be "dramatic".
    ^WOW...just wow...
  8. by   enchantmentdis
    Quote from LadyFree28
    ^WOW...just wow...
    wow...just wow...
  9. by   Ruby Vee
    I don't know how you can tell you hate your job after just one day. If the manager and coworkers are great, it sounds like a great job. Suck it up, learn all you can and then see where you are in six months. Could be that THIS is your dream job, if you just let yourself experience it. Or maybe not. But if you've got to work where you are for six months, you might as well make up your mind to enjoy it as much as you can. And that IS a choice.
  10. by   serenitylove14
    I started a position in a State Psych Hospital last Monday and already know it is not for me. I loved Psych and all the Psych patients I had at clinicals, but just not at this capacity. I dont like constantly worrying if someones gonna try to hit me or kill me or have a weapon brought in from a family member. Its just not a safe environment and not very secure. I have accepted a position at the local VA on med surg. I worked in a ICU as a tech for 3 years and I am really missing that environment right now. Im hoping the med surg will make me feel back to normal because Psych is not for me. Also I guess ER isnt either lol. So in my short nursing career I realize Psych, ER, and Burn are not for my personality. Maybe you are realizing it too. Try looking for another position elsewhere. Life is too short to be unhappy.
  11. by   TopazLover
    I feel I am suffering from a lack of information. Did I read that what the OP saw made her feel sick? My immediate thought was some sort of cancer or trauma area. I did not catch what type of area was the dream area. I think those two factors may have some relevance in the decision. After many GI bleeds I still wanted to vomit every time I smelled that smell as I cleaned up a code brown of black tar. If I had to do that every day for 6 months, I know I could not. If it is just so different from the previous area give it time.

    I once took a job and a week later my "dream job" was posted. I applied and was told I was not eligible due to the 6 months rule. I ended up loving my job. It was a much better job for me that what I thought was the dream job.

    The old pro and con list will help identify things you can handle for 6 months and things that are not in your make up.
    Good luck sorting.
  12. by   St_Claire
    Since you have someone pulling for you I would say apply for the one you want. Talk to the recruiter about how you feel, also talk to your current supervisor so she isn't out of the loop.
    I'm sorry you feel so horrible. I know what it's like to hate every minute of your job.
  13. by   Mr.FutureDNP23
    Just curious, what kind of work did you do as an ICU tech? I didn't think they let techs work in ICU. Anyway, I feel your pain. I tried working on med-surg and I hated it... WAS. NOT. MY. THING! Luckily, I got hired on to work as an Anesthesia tech. Love it!

    Keep us updated on what you decide.