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- Jun 26, '12 by shoegalRNI am the ONLY nurse in my entire family, and I come from an immediate family of 7, we won't even mention my extended fam.
Everyone in my immediate family has no problem saying I'm a nurse when they have to go to hospital/doctor appointment/etc. My mother has several health issues, and recently fell and sprained her finger. My pops took her to the local ER and she told everyone who would listen that I am an ER nurse. When she was being discharged, she told the staff she will run her discharge papers by me to see if I approved of her treatment during her stay.
I tell everyone in my immediate family do not tell people I'm a nurse because I don't want to make anybody uncomfortable doing their job.
- Jul 1, '12 by EDRNknlThis has happened to me many times! It doesn't make me annoyed, it makes me laugh! I usually tell the patient that I've been practicing my IV starts ALL DAY so it shouldn't be a problem, then I wink at the family member. Humor usually breaks the ice and gets rid of any tension and/or, all knowing attitudes between everyone.
I must say though....way to go on getting pastries!!! Your mom would have turned in to my favorite patient with you bringing pastries!
- Jul 6, '12 by brilloheadHad a different sort of experience with this last weekend.
I got a call that a friend collapsed (healthy guy, no known risk factors other than dad has a couple of stents) and was rushed to ER and "it doesn't look good". Knowing his wife would be a wreck, I packed a bag and headed out.
I'm only a nursing student right now (and I had to repeatedly correct every relative/friend who tried to identify me as a nurse), but I knew that the wife and parents would be in no shape to be able to take in what they were being told because they were too close to the whole thing emotionally. So I was there to serve as "medical translator" and "information officer". I was included in on the "immediate family only" discussions with the staff, and I was able to repeat what was said later when the story was being retold to the dozens and dozens of family/friends who came to the hospital over the course of the 36 hours I was "on duty". I also took my computer and sent out newsletter-style updates via email (didn't think about setting up a Caring Bridge until later).
It was obvious to the staff that I was a student nurse because I'd been introduced as such (or else I clarified after being introduced as a nurse). Because of the information I'd read in this particular thread, I made a point to tell the ICU nurse assigned to my friend that I was NOT watching them in an attempt to try to "catch them" at anything -- that I was still learning all this stuff (I have Med-Surg III coming up in the fall) and that I'm asking questions either out of my own curiosity or so that I can explain it to the horde of family/friends in the waiting room.
I basically only hung out in his room when immediate family couldn't be there or during rounds -- I spent the vast majority of my time out in the waiting room. And any time I was in the room, I told his nurse to let me know if my questions were bothering/distracting them or if I was in the way. (He was quite critical with 1:1 staffing and constant adjustments to meds, frequent ABG draws, etc. -- it was a very busy little room those first couple of days!)
Had it not been for this thread, it never would have occurred to me that the ICU RNs might have thought I was watching them to "catch them" at something. I guess my mind doesn't think that way. Hopefully my demeanor and the questions I was asking (plus the fact that I never wrote anything down) would have made it evident that I was simply curious, but I'm grateful that because I had read this thread, I was able to realize the potential for my interest to be misinterpreted by the staff and I was able to put them at ease in that regard.
On a happy note, my friend had a tremendous recovery (cardiologist used words like "amazing" and "miracle") and went home on Thursday after having a 95% blockage of his LAD on Saturday.
- Jul 6, '12 by poppycatMy 88 year old dad does the same with me every time he's in the ER. He makes sure everyone knows I'm an RN but doesn't bother to tell them I'm a Peds nurse and have never, in 34 years of nursing, worked with adults!
- Jul 7, '12 by AltraQuote from brilloheadRespectfully, I wouldn't worry much that the RNs taking care of this critically ill patient were much concerned with the perception(s) of a nursing student right at that moment.Had it not been for this thread, it never would have occurred to me that the ICU RNs might have thought I was watching them to "catch them" at something. I guess my mind doesn't think that way. Hopefully my demeanor and the questions I was asking (plus the fact that I never wrote anything down) would have made it evident that I was simply curious, but I'm grateful that because I had read this thread, I was able to realize the potential for my interest to be misinterpreted by the staff and I was able to put them at ease in that regard.
Glad to hear of your friend's recovery!
- Jul 7, '12 by morteNone the less, this student now knows to think of a bigger pictureQuote from AltraRespectfully, I wouldn't worry much that the RNs taking care of this critically ill patient were much concerned with the perception(s) of a nursing student right at that moment.
Glad to hear of your friend's recovery!
- Jul 7, '12 by ecerrnAs a nurse I don't mind hearing those things, it's a little insulting if it's meant as a warning to do my job right or else, nice I don't need that sort of encouragement...the best are like 'my son is an attorney" and I will usually ask oh? What kind of attorney I may have some questions for you." Mostly though, I know how you feel, and after many trips to the Dr and er with mom, I no longer care who knows, and have started her IV, since she is a difficult stick! (They get their chance first though) and it does help to get a little 'special' TX on the floor sometimes. And we can swap stories and gossip too. I probably would have critiqued the ekg and handed it back with a comment on what I'd seen, if anything. Please don't be too embarrassed about your mom, she is proud of your accomplishments and that makes her special...a good nurse will see that and make fun of you. :-) :-)
- Jul 7, '12 by libran1984Happens every day with every patient. Nothing to be mortified by