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- Apr 25, '12 by Rob72Quote from vintagemotherIn the ED, if they arrived with acute, severe SOB, it would be differential in SS, versus wasting time on an aerosol tx for asthma.What about my nephews and nieces with gray eyes and skin lighter than that of some Caucasians? Would their race/color be relevant in their diagnosis?
I wonder what the general reaction would be if I had a crying, yelling demonstration over being called "white", and not by my lineage-Cornovii or Biturges. Equally, any report on me had better include, "DIABETIC"- it is what I am, and it has critical implications, poorly conveyed by fumbling, verbal self-gratification.
- May 18, '12 by canned_breadI can completely understand your co-workers reaction to the lady at Target, however I think sometimes the best approach would be to say "that can really, really hurt some people if you say that word". If they don't get the clue, they never will. I feel the same about the word "Spasticated" or "spastic", which I have heard used in reference to cerebral palsy as a derogatory term, not as the medical term. Kids often say it, and I think that's a great time to "nip it in the bud"
- May 19, '12 by sauconyrunnerPeople do seem to go through target saying "Thats so African American" but they use the more crazy less "racial term, "That's so Ghetto"
It's a tough one. I usually do not bother if someone is referring to housewares. But I do bother if it is someone saying"you are so retarded" And when someone uses MR as a descriptor for a person, they probably are trying to be correct in a clinical setting.... these days there are so many terms in use... developmentally Disabled, mentally challenged, developmentally challenged. It is hard ot know which is the preferred one.
With that, I am headed off to chaperone our athletes at the Special Olympics at Disney this morning. Hope I don't drop an R bomb anywhere!!!
- May 26, '12 by lumbarpainI dont think that any word is appropriate to use because it directs you right to the disability itself. It only draws attention right to it. And then people in their own minds eye make their own picture....until the person comes into view. Then the person who heard the WORD, can determine in their own mind the severity of the disability themselves....most people can view a person in a Wheelchair who has a broken toe as BEING DISABLED or physically challenged, even before they know the whole story behind why they are in a wheelchair. People always form their own conclusions before more information is retrieved. We should know this very well by our own News media in this country....they never get the story straight at first until more information comes in.
- May 26, '12 by kidsQuote from mercyteapotI think MUCH less of people when I hear them use 'the R word' offensively, I think less of anyone when I hear them use any pejorative. To me it's as foul as any ethnic slur.I wonder, too, if others find themselves thinking less of people due to their indiscriminate use of the "r" word.
- May 26, '12 by Juniper248I am young so I'll give a young person's opinion. I was bullied in middle school and constantly called "retarded" among other things. I was very smart, but it was just a word people used. I feel like my generation uses the word as something completely different than meaning anything about the mentally disabled. I do feel bad when I start to say that myself. Its really an emotional reaction and the word means something COMPLETELY different than the original use. Honestly, words are very subjective, especially when they are used to insult someone or something. In fact, just to be fair, instead of calling things "gay" (which I used to do), I started calling things lesbian in substitution to gay. Not to be offensive to anyone, just to acknowledge the desensitization of words like these.
My point is that words are only subjective as to how they are used. To make fun of someone and say they are retarded is absolutely wrong. But for the word to slip out sometimes just talking about objects or activities, its not a crime, its just the way we speak. I understand that if you know someone who is MR then all of this can be very offensive, but its never directed at you or anyone else. Its colloquial, and unfortunate. Its unfortunate now because people are starting to bully others and calling them mentally disabled. It will keep going, and we'll continue to make new names for those who are truly affected by MR.