Dealing with nosey nurses - page 2

by Aviationurse

I recently signed in as an agency nurse in a hospital after a year hiatus.....to do other things outside from hospital nursing and why is it that after x5 mins of meeting the incoming nurses.or any nurse that comes your... Read More


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    They are always preying on the agency nurses and fishing out personal info...why we still dont get a full time job.....if we have insurance or not...blah blah blah.....
    Tinabeanrn likes this.
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    if you dont feel comfortable with question of nurse, dont give it, or ask her/him, why? if she prods, NONE OF YOUR BUSINESS, hon! Unless its part of the form that is being filled out.
    Aviationurse likes this.
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    What would the staff nurse response be to us if we asked them awkard questions. Where do you live, what do you make an hour, what are your benefits, are you married, have a signifant other and of what sex, children how many, who takes care of them while you run around the country or go from job to job, got any insurance, what kind of a vehicle do you drive, own or rent and the BS just goes on. Usually while I am trying to have MY LUNCH BREAK. My response is will you write all those questions down?? I am trying to have my lunch break that I am not getting paid for!!! Glad you want to be friends. Do you want to meet or take me to dinner after work and then we can talk???
    SCTravelRN, Tinabeanrn, GoosbyLPN, and 1 other like this.
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    oh yeah, just annoying nurses. and if anything goes wrong they will hang you by your reproductive organs.
    Aviationurse likes this.
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    nosey neighbours wanting personal details of your love life...some people are like that! office politics! otherwise,,IGNORE them! They are nosey because they are insecure.
    Aviationurse likes this.
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    To be honest, I've gotten the same types of questions from coworkers at my regular (non-agency) job

    IMO, divulge only what you feel comfortable sharing and be pleasantly vague about the rest. No one is forcing you to share anything.
    Vespertinas and Not_A_Hat_Person like this.
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    I will be starting my first agency job very soon so it's been good to read your comments and tips. THANKS!
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    Go with how you feel about the situation, but honestly it's not always about being nosey. Before I started working with an agency, talking with agency nurses was honestly the best way to do my research. What's a good agency? Do you get cancelled? Do you go to good facilities? If it's travel, how are the accomodations? I wasn't trying to be nosey, I was honestly interested. And as far as asking about insurance, I did that, too!! Not because I wanted to pry into their personal life, but because I have a family to care for, too, and it makes a difference. I was looking for a way out of my last FT position because I was burned out. I *wanted* agency nurses to give me the inside scoop on what it's like - would I regret it if it I did it? What do I need to watch out for? It's really like the new grads looking to get into their first job - we dont' say "those nosey students, they should mind their own business!"

    Also, my old unit was very close-knit and so it was almost instictive to ask about the new nurse coming to work with us. Do you have kids? if so, and they're little like mine, than I can relate to you! Where are you from? Where are you living? I would have been more than happy to answer these questions to an agency nurse if we're chatting while we work to get to know who I'm working with - especially if we're going to work together a lot! I need to know if I can trust you in my unit.

    On the other hand, there ARE some nurses who may ask for other reasons. And there may be agency nurses (and you may be one of them) who LIKES to be agency because you don't like to chat with coworkers and get to know them. That's okay, too, but just respond that you prefer not to discuss your personal life and maybe change the subject to something work related - like "could you show me how your XX works? I'm not familiar with it" or "what is your policy/procedure in XX scenario?" Or if you're not up to talking at all, maybe ask if they can help you turn a patient or give a bath or whatever. Or just tell them to buzz off and then go do your work, but that doesn't often build very good trust/rapport with the FT staff.

    Anyway, just a few thoughts from someone who's been on the other side of this situation...
    Seekern, TiredRN56, DixieBelle7, and 1 other like this.
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    [QUOTE=photomom;6828483

    Also, my old unit was very close-knit and so it was almost instictive to ask about the new nurse coming to work with us. Do you have kids? if so, and they're little like mine, than I can relate to you! Where are you from? Where are you living? I would have been more than happy to answer these questions to an agency nurse if we're chatting while we work to get to know who I'm working with - especially if we're going to work together a lot! I need to know if I can trust you in my unit.

    ...[/QUOTE]

    You feel like you have to know about someone's personal life in order to know if you can trust them in your unit?

    I don't quite get that.
    Hoozdo likes this.
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    No, not necessarily, but it doesn't hurt to be friendly. On the flip side, I've heard from several agency nurses that they always just feel like they're there alone and that the FT nurses are too clicky and exclude them from everything. If you want to be alone and not share anything, that's fine, make it known, just don't expect to be included in a group that knows each other well. But also know that you're not the only type of agency nurse there is and that you're not always asked because they're nosey, maybe they're just friendly.

    Is this the general feeling of most agency nurses? That they don't want to share anything personal or talk about anything non-nursing related???


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