You're not a male nurse

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Specializes in Wound Care, Telemetry. Has 4 years experience.

Hello everyone,

I'm new to allnurses, but I created an account just for the fact that there is a great community of nurses on here. I have 3 years of experience as a nurse and cannot imagine doing anything else as a career. I am a male and I am a nurse. I just wanted to reach out to those guys that are considering entering the field that may or may not have some hesitation due to the fact that it is a female dominated field.

I never thought once while I was in high school that I'd become a nurse. If you want to consider the "masculinity" or whatever of me, I can tell you I was a multiple sport athlete with state letters in basketball and football. I worked in a rural community as a farmhand. My father and brother are both construction workers. I had many reasons to choose a "man's" profession. When the suggestion from an aptitude test was nursing,  I thought "that's a women's job" or "people will think that I'm a homosexual." There is a stigma that nursing is a "feminine" field, whatever that means.  Obviously these were close minded, immature thoughts of a high school guy but I know that these same thoughts will cross many guys' minds when considering nursing as a career. Even my father after he found out I chose nursing was confused, asking "why would you choose a women's job?"  Though these were barriers to my choice to become a nurse,  looking back, I'm extremely proud I went through with it.

A defining time for my choice to become a nurse was when I was just like you, researching online "what is it like to be a male nurse?" I remember coming across an article on a site just like this. I remember seeing the varying experiences as what it's like to be a "male nurse" or "murse." Some were good, some not so great. There's even communities of male nurses offering support to one another. The problem here is that we have created a dividing line between ourselves and our female counterparts. Now that men are starting to dive into the nursing field you see even more division such as women belonging in the maternal units or pediatric units because they are more "nurturing." THIS ASSUMPTION IS NOT TRUE. I've seen a 6 foot 7 300 Ib previous D2 football lineman soothe a peanut of a baby to sleep and I'll tell you what, I wouldn't cross the man.   The one thing I can only hope to reach you men out there is that you are not a "male nurse." You're a nurse and be proud of it. We are the same as our colleagues, male or female. You're a nurse just like they are. We each individually have our own strengths and weaknesses. You just have to find what you're passionate about as find a specialty you are happy in. There are endless opportunities as a nurse. It's up to you where you'll fall in. 

Do not let anyone shake you from choosing this profession. I promise you, it will reward you in ways you never thought possible.  In the end, find your place, be proud, and be humble. Thanks everyone!

 

 

Julie

Specializes in Sm Bus Mgmt, Operations, Planning, HR, Coaching. Has 39 years experience.

Great perspective.  Thanks for your contribution.

On 12/19/2020 at 12:46 PM, GunnyNurse said:

In the end, find your place, be proud, and be humble.

This is what matters.  PEACE be with you and Happy Holidays.

Quest5, BSN, MSN, RN

Specializes in Nursing Student Retention. Has 24 years experience.

What a fantastic post! I’ve mentored more than a few male nursing graduates/ RNs I know would readily agree with you 100% but who may not have been able to express it as well. I hope your future plans include precepting new nurses or nursing education. You have a perspective and gifts that should be shared!

PaSSiNGaS, MSN

Specializes in Nurse Anesthesiology. Has 16 years experience.

There will always be the stereotypes with this profession and many other things so don't let them get to you.  As a CRNA if someone gives me crap I just like to remind them how good my paychecks are.

Hannahbanana, BSN, MSN

Specializes in Physiology, CM, consulting, nsg edu, LNC, COB. Has 51 years experience.

The best rejoinder I’ve seen is, “I nurse females too.” 

NICU Guy, BSN, RN

Specializes in NICU. Has 6 years experience.

7 hours ago, Hannahbanana said:

The best rejoinder I’ve seen is, “I nurse females too.” 

Patient: "You're a male nurse?"

Nurse; "No, I take care of female patients also."

Blatant Shannon, BSN, MSN

Specializes in Medical-Surgical. Has 5 years experience.

We always need nurses, no matter the gender. I will be the first to admit how much I appreciate the male presence on the unit floor. The world really does see men different than females and together we can accomplish much more than being solely dependent on only one. I encourage men to enter nursing. We really need them. 

summertx

Has 6 years experience.

I've always said that nursing has a lot of traditional 'male' duties. A lot of 'in charge' responsibilities and decision making. 

londonflo

Specializes in oncology. Has 44 years experience.

On 7/2/2021 at 8:47 AM, summertx said:

A lot of 'in charge' responsibilities and decision making. 

What? In my 40+ years I have always seen new RNs who were male rise to management positions. 

 

On 7/2/2021 at 8:47 AM, summertx said:

I've always said that nursing has a lot of traditional 'male' duties.

These management positions do not have links to male or female traits. Rather these promotions happened in Catholic hospitals where there is a definite preference for males in positions of power.

Sometimes these new male managers flame out....their skills were lacking.  

summertx

Has 6 years experience.

13 minutes ago, londonflo said:

What? In my 40+ years I have always seen new RNs who were male rise to management positions. 

 

These management positions do not have links to male or female traits. Rather these promotions happened in Catholic hospitals where there is a definite preference for males in positions of power.

Sometimes these new male managers flame out....their skills were lacking.  

It's just like Hollywood, the less experienced, more attractive, more preferred person gets the job.  I'd venture to say they are mostly white men, not minority. 

Edited by summertx