Woe is me

[WonderousIvy, BSN]

I have been on AN since I was a CNA, dreaming of becoming an RN. I took the long route, but I recently finally got here. I have completed my BSN and passed NCLEX! After 5 years of being a CNA, 5 years of LVN...I'm finally an RN!I started school 5 months before my first child was born,I made it though despite my husbands 1 year deployment...I rocked it. But can't help but to feel sad though. My husband is active duty military and we're not stationed around any friends of mine. I have work friends, but we don't socialize much. My parents live 3 hours away. I'm probably being way too emotional about this, given I am due to deliver our second born next week. I just would like someone to buy me some balloons, make me a cake or dinner or something. We didn't get to have a pinning because of Covid and they're just going to mail us our pins-so that's not even happening!

I feel like I've made this great accomplishment but there's no hoorah. I guess bc I've always done it up for everyone else (huge surprise birthday parties, cakes, gifts, etc..I go all out!) I was just hoping someone would do something for me this time. I know I'm lucky for having a job waiting on me. I've been working ER as an LVN for a year and they have an RN position for me after the baby, so I try to keep that in mind...a lot of new grads want to get into the ER but can't.

Ah, I just feel sad, y'all. I had no where else to anonymously vent so...here I am. Thanks for letting me b***h ?

[Nurse SMS, MSN, RN]

These are understandable disappointments when you have achieved something this momentous and the rug gets pulled out from under the celebration part of it after you make it through.

I am sorry you are grieving. This is a lost experience and nothing will make up for it. However, you CAN do these things for yourself. It isn't the same, but I know from experience it still feels great. It also reminds you that you and you alone were responsible for these achievements. So go get yourself one gorgeous bouquet of flowers, or take your little one and pick out balloons together, then use them to decorate the house. Use words that tell the little one what Mommy has achieved, tell him/her you are STRONG and make strong arms together, hug, dance. It's NOT the same. I know its not. But it is something and truly, we women need to learn how to celebrate ourselves as well.

Congratulations both on your achievement and your new little one. ❤️

[Lunah, MSN, RN]

It's OK to be sad, a lot of people are feeling the same way. We just moved to a new city and state, so I feel pretty isolated (although our new neighborhood and neighbors are awesome). My mom is dealing with a daunting diagnosis right now and I really wish I wasn't 4 hours away from her. This is hard all around!

CONGRATS on the accomplishments and new addition to the family! And you can celebrate by adding "RN" to your allnurses profile too. *hugs* Hang in there!!

[JKL33]

18 hours ago, WonderousIvy said:

despite my husbands 1 year deployment...I rocked it. But can't help but to feel sad though. My husband is active duty military and we're not stationed around any friends of mine. I have work friends, but we don't socialize much. My parents live 3 hours away. I'm probably being way too emotional about this, given I am due to deliver our second born next week.

Congratulations on your accomplishment and your almost-here new little one! Please accept these virtual balloons and cake! ??

6 minutes ago, Pixie.RN said:

It's OK to be sad, a lot of people are feeling the same way. We just moved to a new city and state, so I feel pretty isolated (although our new neighborhood and neighbors are awesome). My mom is dealing with a daunting diagnosis right now and I really wish I wasn't 4 hours away from her.

(Hugs) to you @Pixie.RN! Positive vibes for you all and your mom.

[NRSKarenRN, BSN, RN]

Let Allnurses help celebrate your BSN RN accomplishment ...and the bundle of Joy to come. CONGRATS and best wishes. ER nurses ROCK!

[CharleeFoxtrot, BSN, RN]

What an inspiration you are! Congratulations!

[Katie82, RN]

I grew up in the military (Navy), then spent 20 years as an Air Force wife. I don't know what branch of the military you are in (I'm guessing Army?), but I always received more support from other military wives than all my family or hometown friends. I had 3 babies and went to Nursing School during that time. Are you active with your husband's unit? The military can be very nurturing if you get involved. I missed it bunches when we retired. But the friends I made during those 20 years are still my friends.