Wife, mother, nurse

LouisVRN, RN · Sep 6, 2011

I hate getting out of work late. I like being the one thats sitting all prepared 5 minutes before my shift is over with everything done and all my patients checked on and medicated. My husband does laugh that I get texts from work asking about policies and what should be done, but I really dont mind.

linearthinker, DNP, RN · Sep 6, 2011

No, he never has. It happened so rarely that he would call to check on me, but not to complain. For one thing, he would never dare to criticize me for how I spend my time. I'd put up with that for less than a hot second. If I want to go out with a friend after work, run some errands, or just run in circles, that's my business. I get there when I get there. But my husband is over 60 now and independent like that, lol.

mRpeNa · Sep 6, 2011

He seems to think that I put my job over him... Which is not true...

nurseinstead12 · Sep 6, 2011

i think you should continue with nursing,if you are good for something you should continue with that.

linearthinker, DNP, RN · Sep 6, 2011

Oh for pity's sake. Tell him to grow up and get a hobby. That is ridiculous, childish behavior. Don't tolerate it.

mRpeNa · Sep 6, 2011

Oh im not even thinking of quitting! I really enjoy caring for people, I just hate coming home to attitude at times.

Rob72, ASN, RN · Sep 6, 2011

Ha! Well, my wife is an RT, and I'm the nurse, and we've both been at it for 20 odd years, in one fashion or another. She has some co-dependency; I don't. I guess that is really the "definer"- objectively, do you need to have things perfect for the next shift? If so, I'd suggest that's getting near the edge of pathology.

I do my work, I do my best to make sure everything is complete and in its place, but ... I have a family too. When I'm 70, I won't care too much if I had Mr. Perky's peanuts open at the right moment after dinner, or that I had to report off a missed dressing change because I was in a code. I will very much care if my lifetime of memories revolve around things like that, but not having as much time as I can with my wife. Sooner, but hopefully later, one of us is going to leave. You don't always get to say goodbye. just my :twocents:

Isabelle49 · Sep 6, 2011

I would recommend you quit working and stay home. As long as you don't need the $$, why not?

Jenni811, RN · Sep 6, 2011

Nursing is my life too, but my family is more important to me. When i am at home, i leave my work behind. I refuse to answer phone calls from work. if it is important, they will leave me a message. If i feel it is important enough to bother me during my time with my family, i will return their call.

If i feel it can wait until i return to work, i will wait until then.

Work hates it when my family calls my work, so why should they have the right to call me at home??

I refuse to give them my cell phone number, although they have asked me multiple times. I gave them my home phone, and that is it. This way i cannot be bothered when i am out with my fiance, or with any of my family.

Sorry...but it is just the way it is. I love my job, but i will not let it come between me and my family.

KimICURN · Sep 6, 2011

I HAD a husband like that.

linearthinker, DNP, RN · Sep 6, 2011

Oh, I agree with the leaving work at work line of thought. I have never given my work place my cell phone number, and won't until they begin paying for it. I didn't pick up extra shifts, ever, and like the previous poster, I didn't take calls from them at home. They learned to send me an email via the interoffice system and I responded the next time I came in. However, when I was there, they had my full attention and my family had to take care of their stuff themselves.