Wife, mother, nurse

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Specializes in LTC.

Just wondering, do any of your husbands give you a hard time about not getting out on time...i have been a nurse for a year now and I cant seem to get him to understand that nursing is not an 8-5 job... And he also doesn't like it when other nurses call me and have a question about anything. Nursing is my passion and my heart and he tells me that is what he loves about me... So any feedback would be good... would like to hear from any male nurses as well... Thank you... Ps... I hate leaving any work for the next shift, maybe thats my problem

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Specializes in Med/Surg.

I hate getting out of work late. I like being the one thats sitting all prepared 5 minutes before my shift is over with everything done and all my patients checked on and medicated. My husband does laugh that I get texts from work asking about policies and what should be done, but I really dont mind.

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Specializes in FNP.

No, he never has. It happened so rarely that he would call to check on me, but not to complain. For one thing, he would never dare to criticize me for how I spend my time. I'd put up with that for less than a hot second. If I want to go out with a friend after work, run some errands, or just run in circles, that's my business. I get there when I get there. But my husband is over 60 now and independent like that, lol.

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Specializes in LTC.

He seems to think that I put my job over him... Which is not true...

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i think you should continue with nursing,if you are good for something you should continue with that.

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Specializes in FNP.

Oh for pity's sake. Tell him to grow up and get a hobby. That is ridiculous, childish behavior. Don't tolerate it.

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Specializes in LTC.

Oh im not even thinking of quitting! I really enjoy caring for people, I just hate coming home to attitude at times.

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Specializes in Infectious Disease, Neuro, Research.

Ha! Well, my wife is an RT, and I'm the nurse, and we've both been at it for 20 odd years, in one fashion or another. She has some co-dependency; I don't. I guess that is really the "definer"- objectively, do you need to have things perfect for the next shift? If so, I'd suggest that's getting near the edge of pathology.;)

I do my work, I do my best to make sure everything is complete and in its place, but ... I have a family too. When I'm 70, I won't care too much if I had Mr. Perky's peanuts open at the right moment after dinner, or that I had to report off a missed dressing change because I was in a code. I will very much care if my lifetime of memories revolve around things like that, but not having as much time as I can with my wife. Sooner, but hopefully later, one of us is going to leave. You don't always get to say goodbye. just my :twocents:

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Specializes in Home Health.

I would recommend you quit working and stay home. As long as you don't need the $$, why not?

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Specializes in Intermediate care.

Nursing is my life too, but my family is more important to me. When i am at home, i leave my work behind. I refuse to answer phone calls from work. if it is important, they will leave me a message. If i feel it is important enough to bother me during my time with my family, i will return their call.

If i feel it can wait until i return to work, i will wait until then.

Work hates it when my family calls my work, so why should they have the right to call me at home??

I refuse to give them my cell phone number, although they have asked me multiple times. I gave them my home phone, and that is it. This way i cannot be bothered when i am out with my fiance, or with any of my family.

Sorry...but it is just the way it is. I love my job, but i will not let it come between me and my family.

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Specializes in Cardiac, ICU, ER.

I HAD a husband like that.

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Specializes in FNP.

Oh, I agree with the leaving work at work line of thought. I have never given my work place my cell phone number, and won't until they begin paying for it. I didn't pick up extra shifts, ever, and like the previous poster, I didn't take calls from them at home. They learned to send me an email via the interoffice system and I responded the next time I came in. However, when I was there, they had my full attention and my family had to take care of their stuff themselves.

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