Why are some nurses and aides such liars?

SuesquatchRN, BSN, RN · May 1, 2008

i've worked at a hospital for 9 years now (just a cna), but nurses are mean! cna's are mean (i'm one of them...i hope i'm not mean)lol.

you are not "just" a cna. you are a valuable, hard-working, underpaid right hand.

be proud.

:)

sailordave · May 1, 2008

If you think they're mean you should see me before I drink my first cup of coffee. :bugeyes:

SuesquatchRN, BSN, RN · May 1, 2008

If you think they're mean you should see me before I drink my first cup of coffee.

Ha!

You should see my old avatar.

It said - "I haven't had my coffee yet. Don't make me kill you."

RN1989 · May 1, 2008

Sue hon, gotta let it go. I know how bad it hurts but the answer to your question is they do it because they are imperfect human beings. There are many days that I feel like healthcare has more than its share of hateful people. The love of self and love of money turn people into monsters. Hang in there! Keep reminding yourself that you are better than they are because you won't stoop to being such a hatemongerer.

luvmy3kids · May 1, 2008

Hey Sue,

I agree... it's not just nurses or CNA's or whomever... it's people in general. Some just suck.

I worked for a major ins. co and after I got pregnant and had my first baby we decided I would be a SAHM. So after my maternity leave, I quit. Well, after 9/11, our income level dropped (DH is a financial planner and everyone was so freaked out... no one wanted to invest in anything), so I had to go back to work again. I was hired back at the same place, only I was about 5 mths pregnant with baby #2. They knew full well I was pregnant when they hired me. I worked for about 8-9 months after he was born and then we got back on our feet and I was able to quit again (blushing here).

However... I was not there for a full year which was required to receive maternity leave. I saved up as much PTO as I could but had to take time off without pay.

At the time, I got along with EVERYONE. It seemed like our department all liked me (or so I thought)...

I found out that everyone was mad because I worked there/quit/got hired back/quit again and all the while the company was paying me the big bucks. HA what a joke!

I called up the person that was telling everyone that I was raking the system and what not and left her a very nice voicemail (sarcasm). I didn't get one cent of maternity pay and I was covered through my DH's health ins for my hospital stay. I couldn't believe that rumors where flying around about little old me....

It just goes to show... it's everywhere and anybody and you never know who's doing it.

Take care... hope my little story helps a little... I still remember my lovely little message I left on her voicemail. Ahhh, the days!!!

GadgetRN71, ASN, RN · May 1, 2008

Nope. I've worked in all-women groups before and have never dealt with this kind of nastiness except in nursing. It's bizarre!
Thanks, all, for the kind words. I just don't get it. Everywhere I've been as a nurse this has happened. I mean flat out, bold-faced lies. It happens in no other environment, including anywhere else in the facility.
Man, I so don't miss the floor, although I do miss my patients.

I've had the same thing happen to me on a couple of occasions and in both cases, the ringleader was a guy. This has been since I took a new job running the board on my shift so I'm thinking this person feels threatened somehow.

My theory on why some nurses are so evil? In most cases, the ones who can be such troublemakers are not very good at what they do, or they're lazy. So when someone else crosses their path who is good at their job or is a nice person or who actually has the gall to be happy and well adjusted, they can't deal. They don't want to be shown for the miserable useless people they are.

Just read that back to myself..I sound a little harsh but I'm done dealing with these jerks. I actually pride myself on the fact that the sociopaths don't like me-means I haven't become too much of a butthole! :lol2:

Stay strong Suesquatch!!

pagandeva2000, LPN · May 1, 2008

I think they are jealous because you are no longer working with them in the grind of the floor.

pagandeva2000, LPN · May 1, 2008

I don't get it. I really don't.
I have had multiple lies told about me since becoming a nurse two years ago. The latest is just so ridiculous!
I am now in informatics. I was hired back at a place that fired me.
I'm working on something for the pharmacy. I walk over to my old unit to see where they installed our Pyxis-clone. Say hi. Leave.
Get an email from my boss. "Sue, I was told that you were in the clean utility room. I know you well enough to know that you had a good reason to be there, but stay away from them."
Well, she believed me flat out when I said that I hadn't been in there and what I was doing, although what the problem would be anyway I don't know. I am licensed and the facility has me down as an LPN.
What is up with these idiots? Do they ever let anything go?!
I really don't get it. What were they trying to accomplish?

I read this post again, and the question I have is why would your boss tell you not go to the floor to investigate something that is part of your job? I know your boss was speaking to you to give good advice and not to instigate something, but goodness...who else was going to check the pxyis?

showbizrn · May 1, 2008

JEALOUSY, JEALOUSY, JEALOUSY!!!

Don't let them rain on your parade, Sues---I REMEMBER when you announced getting this job and how ESTATIC you were!

FORGET them!!! :banghead:

:down:THEY DON'T DESERVE THE GRACE OF YOUR PRESENCE

OR THE GLIMPSE OF YOUR GLANCE!!!

:nurse:WALK PROUD AND TALL, NURSE!!!

:up:WE GOT YOUR BACK!!!

barefootlady, ADN, RN · May 1, 2008

Sue,

Toxic work environment is what you describe. These people are not happy unless they make everyone else on the unit unhappy. You got a new job, were happy, someone must have stated you were doing well, so .... that makes you fair game for these vultures. Be aware, beware, and be wary. Stay away from this unit if possible. Otherwise, let them live in their own cess pool.

ktwlpn, LPN · May 1, 2008

I don't get it. I really don't.
I really don't get it. What were they trying to accomplish?

Some people are just mean.Addicted to drama and plagued with self-esteem issues.They can make themselves feel better by bringing someone else down.If they can bring others into it to create a "gang" they seem to thrive on the attention and they truly don't care who they hurt. Don't go near that bunch at work without a witness!

zuzi · May 1, 2008

Sue this is the second may third subject about work relations problem in nursing environment that I readed here on AN.

So it seems that interelational work issues in nursing life ARE a problem.

Sue I don't have all information about your story, neither people who write here they don't have it, is hard to analyze a case like this in a objective way, just using what you say to us and impling others.

At this moment for me is unclear: A objectivity has 2 ways always is cuantificable and is open clear for all the same, everythink else are personal relationship and subjectivity. So:

1. Why the admin email JUST you and not do it a open public decision with both parts involved (true, correct, clear)... my logical mind don't see here objectivity????

2. Why they lie about you, what could be the resons. Somebody talk with both of you and make a conclusion for both of parts. Somebosy told you what is about?

My advice, try to stop this firing game at soon is not to late, do your job not be in contact with them, keep work relations in a objective path, Be just a nurse!

Deep breath, will pass! Hugs Zuzi