Why a lot of reports of rude and stressed nurses?

[romerog]

As I see a lot in the threads of such experiences of what is supposed to be a promising noble profession which affect mostly newcomers in the actual field, I wish we can all try to rationalize and see how we can help minimize if not totally alleviate this sensitive problem in an already basically stressful environment.

If you are one of them who seems to want to always eat the young, pls. use this thread to bent what's really your problem so the newbies could better understand and I am sure would only be willing to help you out (if you could only open your heart) if only to promote conducive work relations which we all do badly need. We do need each one to survive in our field.

If you are a victim, pls. share your experience here. Compiling these experiences would give newbies a headstart or to brace themselves that what they also experienced in the clinical training setting is mere tip of the iceberg yet it will also help us to analyze, with the help of our advisors, in this website.

I wish to seek advisors'/moderators' suggestions, recommendations or anyone who have made it through the horendous experience so that those of us in such predicament would not have to give up what we have worked for so much just because of these experiences as I have heard some did.

I am still preparing for my 2nd year in the nursing school. Although, personally, maybe by mere coincidence that I keep getting nice nurses to work with (whether LPN or RN or even just aids), I do hear of my classmates' complains and our instructor would just tell them that it's part of our training to be able to learn how to work in a team which definitely have mixed personalities involved. Any group would have dynamic human interactions which would challenge whatever foundations we have equiped ourselves if we do intend to seriously pursue a dream.

I wish this thread could help somehow. I believe another wrong can never correct a wrong applies to mean that we do not need to hit back the same way they hit us because we would only be doing the same thing and it would be a viscious cycle. No matter how corny it may seem, love do conquer all even the most adamant heart. For me it's the best way to make it in any difficult situation. Of course everyone is entitiled to respective opinion.

[traumaRUs, MSN, APRN]

I think sometimes you have to take what you see and read here with a grain of salt. We are all nurses and like everyone with a stressful job, sometimes we like to vent...a lot! I do my fair share of complaining but I also get up and go to work every day and have for a number of years. So....take the posts at face value.

At work, I am thought of as pretty happy and upbeat. I am not a complainer at work at all and always try to find the positive even in the most negative of situations.

Good luck in school.

[UM Review RN, ASN, RN]

Yes, please take the vents with a grain of salt. For me, it helps me let off some steam so I can go to work with a smile. Kinda like the movie Office Space - we all know what they're referring to, but most of us are great lil employees and no one at work really knows that we're all a tad frustrated.

You also might want to take a peek in this sticky:

https://allnurses.com/forums/f8/do-nurses-really-eat-their-young-224002.html

[kukukajoo, LPN]

The number of stressed out rude nurses would most definately be in direct corelation with the stress level and rudeness factor of the administration. You can walk into ANY workplace and tell almost immediately wether staff are treated with dignity and respect and healthcare settings are no different.

[romerog]

Could we have any reaction or response from any member who happens to be connected to healthcare management? If victims of rudeness have courage to elevate these complaints, how does management react or settle? Or anyone think if I should post this question on a different forum that can be viewed by more from the management sector and refer to our thread here. In case they would prefer to reply in that new thread, I will post it's site. Anyone ever elevated such complaint can share the experience, pls.

[grace90, LPN, LVN]

I think the answer is right in the other threads under the many posts about our working conditions....stress, undervaluation (is that a word?) by employers, fatigue, being spread so thin among so many very sick patients... am I repeating myself? I feel like I just posted something like this in a similar thread. I realize I sound a bit crabby...

[tntrn, ASN, RN]

The number of stressed out rude nurses would most definately be in direct corelation with the stress level and rudeness factor of the administration. You can walk into ANY workplace and tell almost immediately wether staff are treated with dignity and respect and healthcare settings are no different.

I so totally agree. We have an employee handbook that is written as if we were all morons with no sense or social skills whatsoever. And the little scripts are killing me. My personal favorite: "Before I leave your room, is there anything else I can do for you. I HAVE THE TIME!"

What a crock. As far as I'm concerned, management has just condoned lying with that one. I will ask if there's anything else I can do, but I am NOT going to tell them I have the time. It's so demeaning to them and to me as well.

If nurses seem rude and stressed, it's because they are rushed (and DO NOT have the time) and disrespected by management. Pure and simple.

[teeituptom, BSN, RN]

I dont see there being that many rude and stressed out nurses myself

I find nursing a joy, and enables me to golf Golf GOLF

I mean what else truly matters in life

Now I do see a lot of nurses who are overly sensitive in a lot of areas, but I feel that truly has nothing to do with nursing in general. Just overly sensitive.

[Diary/Dairy, RN]

I think a lot of the rudeness and lack of social skills in nurses comes from 1. being overworked and 2 from being helpless to get things changed. I have worked in a couple of places where we were not asked for our opinion and NOTHING EVER CHANGED!!!

Having said that, I myself realized that I needed to work on my social graces and I try to keep my cool as much as possible. Nursing can be an overwhelming job at times. Being polite just seems to make things a bit easier!