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Hi all,
I graduated in May 2019 from a diploma program and have since also gotten my BSN. I LOVED nursing school and I excelled in both of my programs, graduating at the top of my class. I've wanted to be a nurse my entire life and only finally went to nursing school in my 40's. It was the culmination of life long dreams. And then, I started working and I am so disillusioned at this point. I have yet to find my "fit" and I'm wondering if I'm just too damned picky or naive.
I was hired right out of nursing school into a level III NICU. I thought I was going to love it. During orientation, 2 babies died and I did their post mortem care and it was just too much for me. I felt sick going to work and dealing with grieving parents really broke me. I realized quickly that I was not going to make it as a NICU nurse, so during orientation, I asked if I could transfer to any other units. My background prior to nursing school was in psych so I transferred to a psych unit and stayed for the next 10 months. I actually liked that job, but I quit when covid hit because I felt our unit wasn't prepared or safe and I live with an immune-compromised spouse. Several nurses on that unit have since gotten covid, so I wasn't exactly wrong there.
Immediately after quitting psych, I was hired into an outpatient dialysis clinic. I started there in May 2020. I like dialysis fine, and I like the schedule but I HATE my unit. The head nurse is mean, mean, mean, and undermines me and talks about me (and everyone else) to the patients. She will tell anyone and everyone that she hates her job and is only there to get health insurance until she retires. The techs run the show and do things unlicensed people probably shouldn't do, and the whole unit culture is just very back-stabby and toxic. I'm too old for toxic. The manager is a very nice person who is just not able to reign in the bad actors. Several good nurses have quit because of this tight-knit toxic crew. I've asked about transferring units and was given the option of only one clinic and it's the local covid clinic for dialysis patients. I can't do that because of my husband.
I was just today offered an agency job making WAY more money than I was in psych or dialysis (50% more). I would be working contract in LTC facilitates for 4-12 week contracts and then I could pick up another contract, or take some time off or whatever. I'd never have to work another holiday because I'd just not take a contract over the holidays. The schedule is perfect for me, but I just don't know about working in LTC or how it might be different in LTC as an agency nurse vs FT staff. And I've made the mistake of thinking every job I've taken was the "right fit", and it wasn't.
All I know is I haven't loved any job. And maybe that's normal in nursing? Maybe I'm expecting too much or think the grass will always be greener. I am also concerned with quitting my current job to take the agency job because that will technically be my 4th job in a year and a half. I have excellent references because my managers like me and I'm a very hard worker...but still. Maybe I get too tired of the crap in any nursing job so the contract thing might be perfect for me? As soon as I'm tired of their crap I can take another contract with new people's crap. I don't know. I'm disappointed...in nursing...in myself. I want so badly to find my niche but instead I feel like I'm just floating in and out of jobs without connecting to any. I can't keep trying new jobs, can I? I'm 48 - I'm working because I want to and to save for retirement. I'm not working to put food on the table right now.....this makes me much less willing to put up with nonsense or unit drama - but I'm also at risk of being a job hopper and I don't want to be that either. I love the actual job of nursing - what I don't like is all the extraneous crap from management, hospital systems, etc...And that's everywhere. I'm wondering if agency work will take me out of that?
I'm venting. Nobody can fix me. I'm just wondering if anyone else has job hopped or whatever it is I'm doing and did you eventually find your place? Or should I shut up, suck it up and stick it out somewhere?