Who's Drinking Haterade?

Always_Learning, BSN, RN · Jun 8, 2011

Ok why do other PCt's/CNA's hate on you when they dicover you are taking prereqs to get into nursing school? A co-worker saw my notebook and was like what class are taking? I told him college algebra, and it's my last prereq before I can apply to the ADN program in Sept for the Jan 2012 class. Anyway so through out the day he started acting different towards me he wouldn't even talk to me. I think he was lil jealous, and probally thinking that oh she thinks she better than me. We both are arounfd the same age and have the same years PCT experience. Why can't other people be happy for you when you are trying to accomplish your goals and dreams in life?

I have found that sometimes people react in a negative manner if they have their own unresolved issues, whether they be jealousy (wishing they had persued nursing) or regret (they don't like being in health care at all). Either way, don't make your dreams dependent on the reaction of others, and you'll be just fine. Best wishes! :)

MedChica · Jun 8, 2011

Yup.

I'll be honest, I hang with some pret-ty accomplished women. I'm the only one in school trying to get my degree...still. A professional student. For a time, it frustrated me because I was not moving forward...and my friends are all in the next stage of their family/professional lives. I'm stagnant.

So, my friend was talking about her doctorate and how happy she is one day. Blah, blah, blah.

I kept wishing that she'd just shut up.

...and I thought about that feeling for a day because it felt a tad...wrong.

*laugh*

Usually, I'm the 'cheerleader' of the group. People come to me when they go on a new path. They like talking to me because I'm nonjudgemental and I build them up. There's nothing that I like more than a new project - a new venture!

How exciting. Possibility... What could be... The future...is exciting, to me.

You toss an idea out there and we'll be bouncing ideas off each other all night.

...and I was happy for my friend. Happy that she was completing life goals -- but, I didn't want to hear about her success. For some reason....

I came to the conclusion that I felt this way because her success reflected negatively on me. Her success made me think of what I had yet to accomplish...and I wasn't happy where I was. I was annoyed that everything wasnt' going faster for me. I...was projecting my inner frustration onto her.

I'm gonna be even more honest: I am incredibly self-involved so it's not in my being to 'envy' or 'compete' with other people. Half the time, I'm in my own bubble. I compete with myself. Usually, I'm on the recv'g end of envy...because I'm a winner...whose used to winning.

*laugh*

I'm not accustomed to being outdone.

But, those feelings gave me lots to think about. It just kinda hit me, like, "Ok. So...this is how inadequacy feels...? Is this - am I 'hating'?"

*laugh*

Good God.

...and, y'know -- there are a lot of people out there who feel like this ALL the time. In fact, everytime they're around someone better looking, with a better body, a better family life, a better career, an education, nice material possessions, a good mate, etc... You get the idea. You know them. They usually develop issues with the other individual, "Oh, they think they're better than everyone..."

No - you think they're better than you.

I had an acquaintance who was always talking about how others bragged. Actually, it's not that others bragged. It was more like...she'd hang with accomplished folks and end up feeling like pooh because, compared to them, she hadn't accomplished crap since highschool. Standing next to them, she was...'lacking'.

...and felt it.

(and knew it...but wasn't honest enough to admit).

So, believe it or not, my friend and I talked it out. She told me to stop being so hard on myself. That I was accomplished in my own right. Now, everything's cool.

ANYWAY --

Yeah...that's all it is. I talk about college all the time at work. Sometimes, the LVNs and I are in a total 'nursing school didactic' bubble...and everyone just sits around looking.

If others feel in such a way (about my schooling), they never said a thing.

I probably wouldn't have noticed, anyway.

...and, if I had, I probably would've been totally blase`and dismissive about it. Possibly chalking it up to a 'personal problem'.

In truth, it is...

33762FL · Jun 8, 2011

They're just jealous. You could be their supervisor someday and they know it. Ignore their negative attitudes.

elizj · Jun 8, 2011

I haven't been in this situation but I am really sorry and don't let ANYONE put you down! Whenever I tell someone I'm getting my pre-req's for nursing school they wish me luck because it's a great profession! I do plan on taking CNA classes this year, and even though I am aware that doesn't make me an actual nurse...everyone should have respect for their co-workers in the medical field. Good luck love! :nurse:

KimN · Jun 8, 2011

I completely know what you are talking about. I have just finished my first year of nursing school and I was honestly completely shocked in the beginning about how I was treated by some CNAs during my clinical rotations. I heard often things like "just because you're in nursing school doesn't mean you know anything," when I hadn't done anything to provoke it. It intimidated me and sometimes even made me angry, but I also realized how frustrating it must be for them to know that I can just walk into their job and have more access and better treatment than them. Although I do see their side, it is still very maddening to be treated poorly by people simply because you are pursuing a higher level of education. I guess my point is that it will likely become worse for you as time goes on, especially if you are a young female, but you can't let it hold you back ... and try to always remember that these people often act this way because they wish they were doing what you are. Good luck in your nursing pursuits! :)

anashenwrath, ASN, RN · Jun 8, 2011

first of all, "haterade": love it!

Secondly, I agree that it's primarily jealousy. Or maybe just a feeling like they're "stuck" while they see you as someone moving forward. I don't work in a hospital, I'm in an office and taking evening classes, and a lot of my coworkers are incredibly successful, smart, etc. However, some of them did react a little oddly when they found out I was going to school, like it just reminds them that they've been in the same office for years and I'm looking to move forward.

As far as dealing with hospital staff, my policy so far has been kill 'em with kindness. I am as friendly as possible to everyone. I try to ask intelligent questions that let people who've been there for a long time that I am seeking their knowledge, not trying to usurp them.

Keep a positive attitude and don't let other people get you down!

bigboi · Jun 8, 2011

what people need to realize is that their disdain will not stop me from accomplishing what I've set my mind and heart to. In other words, all the hating is a waste of time on their part because I'm moving on while they stay stagnant hating on me. Quite frankly, its a waste of time for you to even acknowlegde them.

trixie333, ASN · Jun 8, 2011

To MedChica,

Very insightful and helpful reply...you will be an awesome nurse....

:nurse:

virgo,student nurse, CNA · Jun 8, 2011

Misery loves company, and when someone sees u trying to better yourself, they can't stand it. People who don't have much going on don't want to see u or anyone suceed. Let the haters be your motivation. NEVER let anyone tell you, that you can't be what you want to be. As you continue in your nursing and life u will find that even some of your "friends" won't support you. Keep ur head up. U will be just fine.

Iridescent Orchid, CNA, LPN · Jul 14, 2011

You're going to get this everywhere you go. I did not encounter these problems until I switched my major to Practical Nursing.

I had been going to college with majoring in Early Childhood Education and I never ran across these types of people. When I decided that ECE just wasn't for me and I wanted to pursue my dream, Nursing...is when they all came out to hate! :rolleyes:

I see a lot of you have had haters in different areas of your life, just as I have. Where I currently work, I spend a great amount of time with other employees in my area, and one of them asked me what I was attending college for...when I told her I was going for Practical Nursing, then bridging for my RN, the damnedest look came over her. I felt intimidated for a second, then I later learned she went to college some-odd years ago for Nursing and never completed it. It all made sense then. I know if I went to school for Nursing, never finished, and was working a dead-end job, I'd probably feel the same way she did, but I'd also remember that it's not the other person's fault that I didn't finish and get my degree....right? That's the way it should be, but unfortunately it's not. There are others out there that would do just about anything to see you fail.

I have a family member who ruined her financial aid by blatantly dropping out of her classes without any guidance from her adviser or anyone from the school. Now, she's on suspension of financial aid and can't get herself out of it, with no money. No need to try to bring me down, it's not going to work...again, what you did is not my fault.

We all are going to find these kinds of people, they're everywhere. It seems the jealousy/regret is magnified when it comes to Nursing these days. Just hold your head up and succeed! It's not your fault they are not sure enough of themselves to partake in a Nursing degree/or that they never finished the degree they started, and now they're stuck.

Focus on you, block out the haters.

Student2014 · Jul 14, 2011

I am 36 and have gotten the same thing. The advisor when I applied told me I didn't need to worry about applying for next year because I had zero chance of getting in. Before I even enrolled she was telling me I would fail. Told me all candidates will have all A's and all pre-req done. No one has even applied yet. Family has said I am a little old to try, physically can I even do it. I have heard 4 classes is too much and I won't get good grades. People have rolled their eyes. Only 2 distant relatives have said positive things. I am just going to buy a Staples card for like $10 and put it in my wallet. Because some day I will need money for copies of my ADN. I intend to hand and mail them out like they used to cigars when they had a baby.