What's wrong with me?

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I keep staring over my shoulder looking for a crusty old bat to swoop in and eat me, but alas, none have arrived yet. Ten months in on this gig. I was sure that whole NETY thing had to be true???? I guess the even more alarming thing is realizing I not only graduated school without being bullied by anyone, but I have yet to actually feel abused in the nursing profession. Am I doing something wrong? Is it because I'm really quite average in looks and I am pretty sure I don't know everything?

Please, no bashing! I'm really quite fragile right now and I'm not sure my ego could handle it.

Specializes in critical care.
Nooooooo!!!! I love Frank N. Furter!

Me, too, but I love hot tattooed girls, too, so we'll have to go with this one.

Brandon, better now?

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Specializes in critical care.
Dear OP,

you may be just d*** lucky, plain and simple. In addition, if i am not mistaken, you are male... it can make huge difference.

I went through hell, pure and unadulterated, during my first year, and still not believe I got out of there and off those people.

In all sincerity, I have to ask - why did you stay at that job as long as you did?

I have male coworkers and don't feel they are treated any differently than the female ones by staff. I will say every now and then I see male patients treat them differently, presumably because nursing is "women's work" in their eyes. I shared a patient (I was night, my coworker was day) for a few shifts with a male coworker who, during my first shift taking the patient, told me that this patient was generally horrible to the staff and needed a delicate approach if I was going to get him to consent to anything at all. I walked in and introduced myself, and this man was sweet as honey the entire time I had him. Bias is never okay. Not within the profession, and not toward the profession. I'm glad we have amazing men in nursing who can help defy the gender bias for those people who won't let go of it.

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Specializes in Pediatrics Retired.
I'm glad we have amazing men in nursing who can help defy the gender bias for those people who won't let go of it.

That's me.... through and through :yes:

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Specializes in hospice.
That's me.... through and through :yes:

And modest too......

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But what if you're prettier than me? I'm not sure I'll be okay with that.

Psssh, Frank N Furter is waaaay hottern Ralphie.

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Specializes in critical care.
Psssh, Frank N Furter is waaaay hottern Ralphie.

I think your Ralphie is absolutely adorable!

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I think your Ralphie is absolutely adorable!

The soap in my mouth is appropriate. I tend to let it fly.

One year for Lent I gave up cursing, and put a dollar in the swear jar for every curse. I capped out at 50$ 2 weeks in and donated it to UCP.

Now I'm a school nurse and can't curse. It's horrible.

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Specializes in CCU, SICU, CVSICU, Precepting & Teaching.
As far as I'm concerned, the crustier, the better!

When I first started in my cardiac-surgical ICU, I had one of them grab something out of my hands, and push me out of the way, and tell me to NEVER do that again. In front of a few people. Yes, I wanted to die, but I didn't blame her for being more focused on the patient than my feelings/ego. And afterwards, instead of crying or starting a NETY post, I thanked her for stopping me from making a mistake, and we had a nice, loooooong conversation about why I should never do that again, among several other things I should never do.

You get it! You really get it!

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Specializes in CCU, SICU, CVSICU, Precepting & Teaching.
What does NETY stand for?

April Fools!

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Me, too, but I love hot tattooed girls, too, so we'll have to go with this one.

Brandon, better now?

:up:

Though I was fond of Fran n Furter, too

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Specializes in CCU, SICU, CVSICU, Precepting & Teaching.
Dear OP,

In addition, if i am not mistaken, you are male... it can make huge difference.

I went through hell, pure and unadulterated, during my first year, and still not believe I got out of there and off those people.

Gender bias anyone?

The fact that you went through hell during your first year does not mean that males have it any easier. It may just mean that you went through hell during your first year.

Pay gap notwithstanding.

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Specializes in critical care.

I cannot refrain from profanity. Not possible. It takes people by surprise sometimes because I've got an innocent, young, sort of prudish look about me (not intentionally). I love it when I get little old ladies who have potty mouths. I had one lady with toxic encephalopathy after GI surgery. She had a horrible night, peeing all over the floor, ripped her central line out, generally one hot mess. The next night, she was just fine, and she apologized for being such an a hole. It took me by surprise completely and I couldn't hold back the laughter that came out of me. Every shift I had with her was so much fun after that first one.

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